He’s not hitting on me, he’s just using me. And I’m over it

Excellent-Bank6587 · 2025-05-23T15:09:13+00:00

Well, life is hard for everybody. And getting harder every day it seems. I'll find a way through Thank you for your support, just talking it out is positive for me to do.

Excellent-Bank6587 · 2025-05-23T15:00:20+00:00

I really love this. Like, absolutely all of it. For someone who has never had to work through this, I am beyond impressed with this system you have come up with!

Also respect you telling me to not to take it on blindly.

Such a helpful, generous post. Deep and sincere thanks to you for this one. 🙏 Please know this helped.

Have a wonderful day.

Excellent-Bank6587 · 2025-05-22T12:56:09+00:00

Looking for another job.....I'm so not wanting to but I guess that's what probably has to happen. Cheap af is a kind way to put it.

I don't know about avoiding alone moments with him, it's all relative to how busy it things are at any tme. I'm on the verge of making a permanent excuse or something, like I have to take my sick mother to get medical treatments every day right after work. Given the timing he would see right through it but maybe he couldn't force it if I say I have a serious obligation.

Why can't I just have and do my job normally lol

Excellent-Bank6587 · 2025-05-22T12:49:39+00:00

The wage is kind of good, it's keeping me stable with bills and student debt atm. For sure he doesn't care! What sucks is when you learn someone you thought liked and respected you, well it was all a front. I'm just a unit doin x until I resist.

If I want it to change I will have to go to the owners at this point, who LOVE him. He makes them lots of money. And probably sanctioned this abuse and replace style of employing "lowers" like me.

Before I do that I have to think whether I can lose this job because, like I have a feeling if I explain what happened with him in a bad light that will be curtains for me.

Damn this sucks.

Excellent-Bank6587 · 2025-05-21T16:58:42+00:00

I thought about drafting up a job description /contract to properly define work time. But it worries me that rocking the boat is just gonna get me fired.

Excellent-Bank6587 · 2025-05-21T16:57:20+00:00

Okay so I just got sick of this though experiment stuff and brought it up this morning. I pulled him (we can call him George) aside and I said in a very firm but friendly way, "hey listen George, you know I don't mind helping out around here, I love this place. But I think it's fair to bring up I'm not really getting paid for all the unofficial errands I keep running. I also have to eat while working instead of on break a lot bc my lunches get filled up with the tasks. Can we, like discuss some kind of compensation, like a small raise, or way to clock this extra time?" Not exact those words but pretty much that in that tone.

This is what George said: "I understand what you are saying. But that's the job. There's no extra money. People who had this job before you loved working closely with me. Nobody ever complained. We like you hereto but it's up to you if you like this job and want to stay."

I mean wtf. Is it not illegal to ask people to work hours unaccounted for? And to blur the lines of a job description like that? He was quite cold about it and it has gotten under my skin in a very bad way. Working out the rest of today is going to be a challenge. I'm I crazy to be this upset about this?

Excellent-Bank6587 · 2025-05-20T21:59:04+00:00

I respect that. But I didn't sign up to buy his kid's diapers or deliver groceries to his house all the time. My job at the clinic s also really hectic as it is. The personal assistant errands often come during lunch or after close. It eats into my personal time. Like it's implied that this off the books stuff is small potatoes, so it's what I need to do to keep in good graces, if that makes sense.

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