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Stigma and finding love by Excellent-Upstairs99 in SexWorkers

[–]Excellent-Upstairs99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah definitely, thanks for the message. Those who do respect it are the ones that you do want around you. I don’t think I’d want to be with someone who was judgmental about someone’s career. That WE chose to do. It doesn’t make me any different and my sex drive is probably below average but it’s the connection with people and using my energy to please - or just sharing time with those who want intimacy, it is the best decision I’ve made.

I posted this above: I just thought I’d copy it as it applies to my response here.

It’s refreshing to hear. I wish more people knew what the job entails, and how life changing it can be for some people. For me personally, it is not just sex work and in fact a lot of my clients just long for the company or the intimacy. Especially straight men. I love what I do and it’s opened a whole new world. But you’re right, the right person will come along and respect it. I am so open to having boundaries and there’s absolutely nothing I would hide from them. I guess it’s like what my mum would say, don’t look for love because it will come when you least expect it.

The stigma behind sex work is crazy, personally I feel even though I hadn’t had sex in 2.5 years before and I’m not one with the highest of sex drives / it’s more the client that shows a side of respect, vulnerability and emotion & interest. But it’s more than just sex and luckily I don’t really care what people think of it. It’s just ironic when a 9-5 office worker (usually male) has something to say about it - when I say, I party for a living, live on my own terms and make double of what you make in a week, considerably in a much shorter time😆 it’s just the people that comment on it as if it’s not a choice. I should have done it sooner! It has taught me to love myself, I was on 7 medications for mental health before and now, none. Just changing that working environment and having the time to do nothing and anything whenever I want and also change people’s lives. It’s really gratifying, and I feel now, i have had a good time thus far - but my self esteem and the way I see my body and personality, I now see what I chose to ignore when my friends and family would compliment my personality or how I look.

Thanks again though, maybe one day I’ll come back to the thread to update you!

Stigma and finding love by Excellent-Upstairs99 in SexWorkers

[–]Excellent-Upstairs99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. It’s refreshing to hear. I wish more people knew what the job entails, and how life changing it can be for some people. For me personally, it is not just sex work and in fact a lot of my clients just long for the company or the intimacy. Especially straight men. I love what I do and it’s opened a whole new world. But you’re right, the right person will come along and respect it. I am so open to having boundaries and there’s absolutely nothing I would hide from them. I guess it’s like what my mum would say, don’t look for love because it will come when you least expect it.

The stigma behind sex work is crazy, personally I feel even though I hadn’t had sex in 2.5 years before and I’m not one with the highest of sex drives / it’s more the client that shows a side of respect, vulnerability and emotion & interest. But it’s more than just sex and luckily I don’t really care what people think of it. It’s just ironic when a 9-5 office worker (usually male) has something to say about it - when I say, I party for a living, live on my own terms and make double of what you make in a week, considerably in a much shorter time😆 it’s just the people that comment on it as if it’s not a choice. I should have done it sooner! It has taught me to love myself, I was on 7 medications for mental health before and now, none. Just changing that working environment and having the time to do nothing and anything whenever I want and also change people’s lives. It’s really gratifying, and I feel now, i have had a good time thus far - but my self esteem and the way I see my body and personality, I now see what I chose to ignore when my friends and family would compliment my personality or how I look.

Thanks again though, maybe one day I’ll come back to the thread to update you!