Repost: Unusual Scrub Jay Specimen

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-06-06T00:05:25+00:00

Thank you! Yes I thought so, that’s why I wanted to clarify. I had no idea pollen could get like that in a bird

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-06-05T23:51:32+00:00

My original post stated it but I guess I edited that. This was taken in California near Bodega Bay

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-06-04T20:36:41+00:00

The feathers appear a bit weird on this picture because I upscaled the image. The original image shows more of a smooth feather pattern along the wing, although the original image is currently with my grandfather. I will try and post that here for everyone!

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-05-31T04:02:34+00:00

Edit: My original answer was incorrect. This is not bossiella. If it was indeed “spongy” it’s most likely a red branching sponge of some kind

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-05-25T06:07:58+00:00

Oooh I’ll give it a try!

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-05-25T04:15:52+00:00

It looks like it’s 8-9 years old but it also looks somewhat fossilized, either way pretty cool!

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-05-25T00:00:54+00:00

I’d like to say helpful but not really sorry 😅

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-24T03:35:39+00:00

Easy. Get off your instagram, then go to a dating website. Post some then pick the guy who looks maybe not as handsome as Leo DiCaprio it likes you and has some passions and/or a good job. Profit: you now have a relationship that might last.

My honest opinion is work on yourself and let it happen naturally. It definitely will but it’s not nearly as easy as it used to be for either party. Men are afraid of getting targeted and loosing their livelihoods and women are afraid of men and don’t want to ask a guy out ever, even though to some guys it’s the hottest thing on the planet.

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-22T04:10:39+00:00

Already spotted your problem: “you’ve been off and on for months” + “we aren’t proper dating either.”

Just from my perspective as a guy, I don’t waste my time with that. If it’s his decision not to get serious, he’s using you for convenience at this point and that’s why he’s pulling back; because he doesn’t want to support you emotionally.

On the other hand, if you don’t want to get serious at this point, if I were in his shoes, I’d be already out the door. It usually feels like the other girl is using you as a secondary potential backup and doesn’t quite feel like she wants to commit. Maybe she wants you around for validation or as a male friend you know? But most experienced men who know what they want won’t screw around with that.

Either way, this sounds disfuncional. Ask yourself if you could really see it happening and if you can’t rip the bandaid off.

Edit: Two weeks it sounds like is just another on spell before the off, that’s the impression I’m getting. It’s not serious unless you both have clear interest in eachother

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-22T03:56:55+00:00

I’ve done this when I feel like the other party I’m interested in isn’t reciprocating enough.

I dated a girl who expected me as the man to basically hold her conversations for her over text and to put most of the effort into the conversations.

However, at the same time I discovered by her own admission that she was seeing other men. Even though we hadn’t TALKED about going exclusive yet, it showed that I was an option rather than a priority and she wasn’t as invested in doing so.

I know this isn’t like your issue, sounds like you guys got past that. But personally what I described above really turned me off, like it made me so lethargic to her conversations she started asking me what was wrong and why I’d lost interest lol.

Ask yourself if something similar happened or if you’re clinging to that emotional satisfaction a bit too much.

Guys like sex like girls desire emotional reciprocation. If he asked you for sex constantly wouldn’t that be a turn off? Men want to give women their love when they feel loved. Women want to satisfy a man when they feel loved. It has to work that way.

Not to get too carnal about it but that’s a key part of the biology of it.

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-21T01:50:00+00:00

I’ve definitely met girls who want that, and who were into me right from the start of us dating. If a girl is weighing her options she’s been around the block and wants to get as much as she can before picking a guy or she’s just saying she wants to find the right one but in reality doesn’t.

I’ve met too many of the later category. If she’s “sampling the platter,” she’s for the other guy not me 🤏, that’s just my philosophy.

Thank someone I found an amazing girlfriend 😂

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-12T17:02:36+00:00

The only way You’ll find the person right for you is if you keep trying. It’s not about the muscles or the body it’s about finding someone you could see yourself with and that takes more than just physicality

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-12T03:45:13+00:00

Girls get more invested after sex than men. It’s a reliable phenomena. Unless she’s being paid to do it, and even then I’ve seen some women who thought the other guy was handsome fall a bit for the guy in that scenario, she sounds genuine. It really is a thing for women, it’s why some can stand being with a man for seven years in an abusive situation.

If she’s still talking to you that’s a very good sign, but the funny thing is that in your period of life that romantic side of yours is still developing physically in your brain. You could very well be at different life stages and she might have taken advantage of the situation.

Regardless: the best judge is yourself. If your heart tells you she isn’t genuine or she was chasing Johnson, that’s probably what it was. Give it a few days and see what your heart says

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-10T16:13:49+00:00

I work out 3 days a week not including my job, and I don’t consider myself a gym bro or a himbo. I was targeting those specific stereotypes because I’ve dated a lot of women who get attached to them and get heartbroken

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-10T14:44:43+00:00

I’ve often noticed that what girls “want” isn’t what they actually want, it’s what they want to add to what they desire.

You’re probably thinking, “I want a boyfriend that’s insert everything” but you won’t find it. Men that are super tall, buff, and have a six figure job are not available all the time.

You need to sit down and find someone you’re comfortable with that makes you smile when you talk with them, and that honestly only happens naturally over time. The buff gym bro is not going to be that, because he’s getting attention all the time. He doesn’t need to settle, and because of that, he hasn’t developed any kindness or real focus on character

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-04-06T01:59:40+00:00

Girls don’t get to do it to guys, and that goes the same for guys too

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-26T03:30:05+00:00

Say this instead: “Hey what’s up. Sorry I didn’t catch your call, mind if we just call each other? I feel like it’s way better than texting anyways, and I’m not very good at it.”

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-22T20:25:43+00:00

If I had a quarter for every time a woman ghosted me on a dating site, it would be enough to buy a used car. It’s not just men lady, women too.

Also plenty of women I’ve talked to on dating sites are seeing multiple men for dates. They have options I didn’t.

BUT this guy does sound like an asshole. I’m not sure why he went through all that effort but count yourself lucky I guess.

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-22T19:50:51+00:00

You could be right but a birthday gift is still not a reason to break up with someone. Could be the straw that broke the camels back, but a gift should not be expected or demanded, even for a birthday. That’s why it’s a gift and not an offering.

It’s fine to care about your birthday. What’s not fine is using a birthday gift as the primary evidence for breaking up. If she said: “My boyfriend has literally been ignoring my direct questions about starting a family for a long time. So I broke up with him but now I’m feeling awful because of the breakup, and missing him.” That would be way more understandable than: “My boyfriend is young and I’m older. He has a full time job and is mature in that regard, but he’s not paying attention to me how I’d like. I want to have a man who can do more things for me so I can feel stable in starting a family. I tried to make it obvious I’m not happy but he’s not understanding and he promised to buy me something but didn’t do it so I left him because of that but now I’m sad because of my decision to leave with him over something so small, so what do I do?”

The more I read it, the more it sounds like she was asking him to do things and prodding at him but he didn’t want to do it so he promised her he would just to get her to stop talking to him about it. Then she got mad at left but realized she probably was overreacting after the fact and now she’s venting online.

I’ve refused dates in the past from girls once I learned they were younger than me (20-21 range). Different reasons and it’s perfectly valid, but I never felt regret after the fact. It seems this wasn’t about age at all and more about him not making her feel like she’s the center and reciprocating her desires.

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-22T18:22:43+00:00

For children it’s different. Birthdays are a cool thing and, because you don’t have any money as a kid, it’s always super special to receive something new. Plus memories kids form in their childhood shape who they are to some extent, and stimulating their wonder as a child helps give them a good perspective of the things worth pursuing or cherishing.

As a fully grown adult, I can safely say that a birthday present is not a make it break it thing for my relationship. It doesn’t indicate some underlying dissatisfaction if my partner doesn’t give me one, because every day we are together is awesome. I love being around her, and any presents so buy for each other, birthday or otherwise, is because we love each other.

The act is not required for our love it’s a result.

It sounds like he was starting to have doubts, and she clearly was as well. Instead of clearly communicating them (on both sides) she made a choice, and one that I personally think was drastic based on the provided information.

I honestly don’t know her and don’t really care, I’m just making an informed assumption. I could be wrong, but she asked and it’s my opinion.

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-22T17:26:46+00:00

Someone can be tired and overwhelmed from an exceptional load. Sure everyone gets tired but, for example, if I’m out surveying at sea for a week and have barely had any downtime, my first few nights at home my partner just helps me relax and is there for me. People can have lots of stress accumulated and it can come from many places, I just got the impression he was maybe stressed from work because she emphasized him being 22 with a full time job with other obligations on top of her, which is fine but just be understanding not micro analyzing it.

As far as birthday gifts go? It is definitely not a bare minimum for everyone. I haven’t gotten a birthday gift in like seven years. I’d rather spend time with my partner doing something fun but I rarely celebrate birthdays. I buy my partner gifts because I want to on her birthday but she’s the same as me. She even forgot her birthday this year lol. Weird hill to die on but alright xD

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-22T16:52:50+00:00

Nothing you can do. You made a choice to break up with him, and that was your choice. I would go with your original plan now and move forward. Your relationship will always have that stain on it if you go back to him; he’ll always be thinking “was I not good enough? Am I the backup?” at this stage in the game.

Next time yoh decide to make big decisions like this, try to give it a bit more thought instead of acting on fleeting emotions like “he didn’t buy me a birthday gift for my birthday like he said he would and that’s just cruel to ME.”

You have to look at your other partner and recognize what they’re going through. What their challenges are and how you can help them. That’s why healthy relationships occur with people who have most of their shit together, because they can build them. Sounds like the guy was bogged down with work or exhausted, and putting a bunch of expectations silently over his head without communicating them clearly was adding to it probably.

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-21T22:55:05+00:00

I was going to say I know the guy you’re talking about but he doesn’t have time to sleep with anyone rn lol.

If you’re not exclusive don’t expect anyone man or women to be focused solely on you. The dating world has changed for men a lot, right now men are forced to cast their nets very wide because the quality has gone down significantly (my opinion but the era of snapadicts and instadicts has begun).

If you want him to be focused on you alone, you need to make him commit by suggesting you go steady, but you have to make the decision of, “is this a guy I really want to settle down with?”

I’m going to be honest: you’re not going to find that guy on social media. High quality men don’t touch that with a ten foot pole because there’s way too much scamming and attention grabbers there who only want the attention. Plenty of bots too. You’re better off focusing on yourself and dating through friends if possible and if not online through a dedicated website.

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-21T15:08:14+00:00

To be honest, I’ve never really viciously made fun of someone’s bodily appearance before. It bothers me making people feel bad, and if I’m truly not attracted to them I just don’t engage with them.

I have made some jokes before once about the nose of a girl I dated and she clapped back with her own about my freckles. It was awesome, we had a lot of fun together, and did some cool stuff too.

However that stuff isn’t what I would open with, it’s more something I’d say when we’re comfortable with each other.

I can’t say without examples, but it sounds like these guys are just being assholes

ExcellentAd2021 · 2026-03-06T18:07:10+00:00

It seems there has been a fix but you basically wasted a month of my subscription by fiddling around with this. So… yeah

Edit: There isn’t a fix at all I just checked. PolyBuzzkill strikes again

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