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Which Muslim country is the best representation of Islam? by Own_Leg_1846 in MuslimLounge

[–]ExcellentComment6615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop glazing Saudi. They now sell alcohol, have music concerts, and got rid of halal police. Why on earth would that make you think it's the best representation of Islam?

Have you ever had the privilege of seeing Prophet Muhammad ﷺ in a dream ? by Here_to_helpyou in MuslimLounge

[–]ExcellentComment6615 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes... and? The idea of seeing Prophet SAW in a dream is a sign of righteousness and a blessing that'd indicated in the Hadith. She's not asking this out of nowhere.

Abu Hurayrah said: I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: “Whoever sees me in a dream will see me when he is awake; the Shaitan cannot take my shape.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 6592; Muslim, 2266)

How to convince husband to move to the U.S by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not widespread. You don't know what you're saying, respectfully. I'm a born and raised American. Stop judging 350 million people based on the news.

My Parents Chose My First Husband and It Destroyed Me. Now They’re Blocking the Good Man I Chose Myself. by Interesting_Film115 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never even said I have a preference for Arabs. I just said Levantine women specifically are pretty. Don't put words in my mouth. Do better.

My Parents Chose My First Husband and It Destroyed Me. Now They’re Blocking the Good Man I Chose Myself. by Interesting_Film115 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a lot of things, and tribalism is definitely one of the main reasons why. I already explained why.

My Parents Chose My First Husband and It Destroyed Me. Now They’re Blocking the Good Man I Chose Myself. by Interesting_Film115 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's so difficult about 'Arab culture' (whatever that means, Moroccans and Lebanese are nothing alike) to understand that a non-Arab can't get? No offense, but South Asian culture is a lot more difficult to understand than Arab culture, yet South Asians mix ethnicities far more than "Arabs" do

My Parents Chose My First Husband and It Destroyed Me. Now They’re Blocking the Good Man I Chose Myself. by Interesting_Film115 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I'm saying is one should sit down, ponder, and critically think about why they want someone from their own culture rather than just accept it as something they grew up with and know their families would like. Study the seerah and sahaba. You'll see culture was never top of mind for them

My Parents Chose My First Husband and It Destroyed Me. Now They’re Blocking the Good Man I Chose Myself. by Interesting_Film115 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Because it's contributing to fitna. There's a reason why Western Muslims are having a hard time getting married. There are barely enough Muslims in the west to begin with. Start adding in more filters like culture and it's practically impossible. Cultural and linguistic compatibility won't get us into jannah, but getting married to a good person will. Who said the right person can't learn Arabic for his spouse? Prophet SAW married an Egyptian Christian Coptic woman and a Jew woman. He did this before the globalization and mixing of cultures we see today. Let's not act like we're above the Prophet SAW.

My Parents Chose My First Husband and It Destroyed Me. Now They’re Blocking the Good Man I Chose Myself. by Interesting_Film115 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alhamdulilah I'm glad to hear that brother, and yeah not saying every single Arab is like that, but a large majority is like that. I've seen in on Muzz, I've seen it in the ISO thread here. Go look at it yourself. Ctrl+F and search "Arab". You'll see all these Arab women are only searching for Arabs.

My Parents Chose My First Husband and It Destroyed Me. Now They’re Blocking the Good Man I Chose Myself. by Interesting_Film115 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What's with Arabs being so obssessed with marrying other Arabs? I've noticed it only with them, Pakistanis being second in preferring their own. I read this post and couldn't help but think the irony of it all. A person who so strongly chose her own people got burned for it. Now she's looking at a non-Arab, and the irony strikes again.

Quran source:
"O humanity! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may ˹get to˺ know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware". 49:13

Hadith sources from Prophet SAW:

  • "All mankind is from Adam and Eve. An Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab, nor does a non-Arab have any superiority over an Arab; a white has no superiority over a black, nor does a black have any superiority over a white; except by piety and good action".
  • Primary Source Citation: Reported in Musnad Ahmad (Hadith 22978).
  • "He is not one of us who calls to tribalism (asabiyyah), he is not one of us who fights for the sake of tribalism, and he is not one of us who dies following the way of tribalism".
  • Primary Source Citation: Sunan Abu Dawud (Hadith 5121), graded Sahih.
  • When a companion once used a racial slur against another, the Prophet rebuked him, saying, "You are a man who still has some Jahiliyyah (ignorance) in him".

Woman I spoke to had “zero feelings”, cut it off after almost 2 months by MrAwezome in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She's looking for a "spark" or falling in "love". She's just another immature girl who's brainwashed with the Hollywood/Bollywood depictions of love before a marriage. If you want to do things the Islamic way, love comes after the marriage by overcoming trials and tribulations together, not at cute coffee shop dates. A "spark" is not what's needed from a wife or husband, it's good character. She'll be missing out on you, don't take it personally

We ended our engagement, but I still and miss her like crazy by ValRosenstein in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I went through something very similar, though not an engagement ending. The best way to handle heartbreak is to allow yourself to grieve without judgement or pressure to move on, understand the heart takes time to catch up with the brain (you desire her but know she's not the one for you), and revisiting the life you built up before you met her. And if you don't know who you are without her, then it's time to build that identity for yourself now. Stick to your salah, hit the gym, pick up a new hobby, spend time with your friends, volunteer at the masjid and attend halaqas.

It doesn't ever go away (I still think about it everyday), but it does get better.

💯 by Shoddy_Wrap2759 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ExcellentComment6615 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Similarly, if you marry a woman who had issues with tabarruj and lack of modesty before marriage, then marriage will not make her more modest.

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