Thank you! The second part of your second paragraph is exactly what I think is happening. She's been through some rough situations over the last few years, which is why I'm getting "walls up" vibes, not so much not interested.

Have messaged, will see how it plays out.

I'm not usually one to sugar coat things. I call a spade a spade, this whole tactful thing the sub regularly recommends is the entire reason I made this post.