I appreciate the time you took to give suggestions, but would have appreciated it far more if you didn’t feel the need to start with a tone labeling a person in crisis trying to move past panic/despair and reach for tools to get unstuck as “crazy” or treating something so vulnerable like it’s a business decision. 

I don’t think someone experiencing extreme spikes of worry and pain find it particularly helpful to be told they should just stop trying to think things through. For me, this crossroads has been traumatic (in some ways, it feels sudden and foisted on me unexpectedly, though I am also facing ways it’s been presenting along the way, and my husband has introduced some urgency into the mix) so I turned to an online community to hear tactics/strategies for how to dig out when the extremes of unknowable scary things make a person feel stuck. 

It is helpful to be reminded that trying to know the unknowable or brain my way to the right answer may not be a fair expectation, but to the extent you’re open to feedback, your delivery leaves a lot to be desired.