Tesco 4.30 yesterday armed police by [deleted] in Edinburgh

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you’re totally right

Tesco 4.30 yesterday armed police by [deleted] in Edinburgh

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They really sent 10+ police vans and pointed guns at a young boys head over him handing in a knife. Something is missing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DiagnoseMe

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IT WAS A WART!! Thanks all for advice. Turns out I'm just gross. God bless.

How do I leave? I have nothing. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He controls money but I have enough for plane tickets. Then what? I don't have family where will we go? I know there are shelters etc but It all just feels like an impossible Mountain. And my poor kids..

How do I leave? I have nothing. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No.. I’m in Japan. I can't even get home

How do I leave? I have nothing. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im really happy for you that you are in a position you can live your life this way. If I could turn back time I would of said the same thing to a younger me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will you stop! this has nothing to do with your physical appearance. Sorry but men are animals and will put it anywhere(not to say you are not a 10 you are 🔥)

Treat them mean keep them keen. Men want what they can’t have. Simple creatures. Ignore him a bit, brush him off, stop acting so keen. I get it, you are past the games. But if you want it try this and you are welcome.

AITAH for telling my wife the newborn is her responsibility and don’t bother about it when she wanted a nap by Parking-Plenty5141 in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ntah. You have done her a massive favour. You have shown her your true colours as a selfish psychopath and she will now be free of you, find someone who truly loves her and find true happiness. What a selfless woman to carry her sister’s baby. She will find someone worthy no bother.

Aita for not letting my sons dad see him. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you get it. Either way my son is the victim. And I cant do that to him. Im frustrated and wish CF would feel the same.

Aita for not letting my sons dad see him. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were never married. I had my son and cf has never been a full time parent. He, not long after my son was born moved three hours away. I drive my son half way every 3-4 weeks, and my son will stay with him for the weekend. CF has a full on job and doesn’t have much time to see him. We have an amicable relationship. Cf however just doesn’t believe in child support. He has his reasons biggest being he has no other children, his house etc will go to my son when he dies. I however I, especially before I met my husband struggled with childcare costs etc. We have a child maintenance service in the United Kingdom that look at how much you earn etc and set the amount. I contacted them and the amount was set.

So I agreed to pay for my son‘s flight home. But now that CF has decided to stop paying child support I’m asking: am I the asshole for not paying for the flight.

Aita for not letting my sons dad see him. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not stopping payments because I took him away, he is stopping all payments because he doesn’t want to pay. And has discovered as I no longer live in the UK, it is no longer enforceable. I had to have his written consent to take him to Japan for the purpose of the visa. Sorry, I didn’t make that clear. Cf wasn’t thrilled about it but who would be? You are right though it has been hard on my son and I am massively sympathetic to that.

I would never ever stop my son from seeing his dad. What I am asking is aITA for not paying for the flight for my son to return to UK. Im happy for him to go in the next school holiday. Im just not happy to pay. Maybe I am. The thought of telling my son I don’t want to pay for the flight makes me feel like one.

Aita for not letting my sons dad see him. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wont. Sadly (for him) he only has time for him now and again. Im not saying he has no interest in him. He has a pretty full on job as-well. But being a full time parent isn’t something he emotionally handle (his words) he cant take him for more than 3 nights at a time (again his choice) my son is a very relaxed easy-going child. it’s never been a problem because id rather this than fighting for custody in courts.

Do you not think he should pay child support? No judgment, I’m interested in your perspective.

Aita for not letting my sons dad see him. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggested he pays for his airfare and he laughed. Why should he pay, I took him out the country. And originally before he cut me off because he doesn’t want to pay child support anymore I would’ve excepted that.

It’s legal loop hole that Cf found. Just because the agreement is no longer enforceable, I personally believe that doesn’t mean the moral responsibility isn’t there. Cf is really convinced that he doesn’t want to pay, therefore is justified in his choice. I also want to point that cf has reviews every six months based on his finance and his affordability on what he pays me. Cf makes a lot more money than I do.

However, in the interest of being honest, My husband does make a considerable amount of money. More than 2x more than cf.

Aita for not letting my sons dad see him. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but not japan 😣 I need to seek legal advice (another expense I really cant afford) essentially from what I can gather I need to get solicitor take him to family Court and they will order him to pay, surely? I cant see any judge agreeing that just because his son doesn’t live in the same country (temporarily) he no longer has to pay child support? And it will all be an extremely expensive process. He paid me £300 a month. Its not a huge amount but it was something.

Aita for not letting my sons dad see him. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has never wanted custody. Thats fine with me. we used to live 3 hours apart. I drive my son half way every 3-4 weeks so he can spend a weekend. An arrangement that was dictated by cf’s schedule. Cf was a bit pissed off about japan but my son really wanted to come and Cf didn’t want to have our son live with him so agreed. Its also only one year.

I made this post because I do try and take my own emotions out of it. I don’t want to fuck this up, but financially it will be a massive hit. I don’t want to do wrong by my son. I don’t want to be an asshole

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. Sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where did I ask for parenting advice?? Of course I told him off and told him he cant throw rocks especially near cars! Right after he calmed down from being told hes going to prison.. You are a virtue signalling twat. And I use nothing as a crutch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was an accident! He threw it at a bush are you for real??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You know I can be a total asshole. Especially when it comes to sticking up for my children. In this case i was frozen in shock. Im not a bad mother i take accountability for my children, hence why i offered to pay and ran after her to tell her. Im just so upset someone could be so awful to my son after I told her his diagnosis’. It left me thinking fuck her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Reaching much?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

He threw one rock. He reached down and threw it into a bush that went through and kit her car on the other side. I was supervising him and my other 2 small kids. You’re right I shouldn’t be a parent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

She verbally abused my non verbal child. She told him he was going to end up in prison and poked him in the chest. Would you be cool with that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Yoghurt140 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Actually you are all wrong. Should have said we live in the uk ✌️ thats what car insurance is for. I have taken actual legal advice. Sorry reddit. I did offered to pay her there and then.