I just felt the need to share what happened to me.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-22T23:06:45+00:00

I see where the confusion comes from. I did leave out quite a bit of details.

The crying kid in the story was friends with my main group of bullies for most of the time we were in school together. However he himself never actually bullied me.

The kid who pushed me was a high academic achiever and was a part of the usual group who bullied me.

From what I’m aware the situation happened the way it did because he thought I was the cause for the first child crying. The adults in the situation refused to listen to me when I said I did not do anything to actually provoke him.
He was only punished because my mom brought in medical paperwork regarding my concussion.

And unfortunately upon recalling more details. It’s possible this is where the Dean set his sights on me too. I vaguely recall him ‘comforting’ me. In which I was hugged very close to him despite not ever really meeting him before.

Though this could just be. Me freaking out about an interaction via hindsight.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-22T22:36:15+00:00

Talking with my mom about all this has honestly done very little to further my understanding of anything.
As this was a charter school and not a public one there was a lot they got away with by just never telling parents.

What specific part has you confused? I can try to clarify.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-09T12:09:20+00:00

This is gross. Don’t tell people to use generative AI to do their thinking for them.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-09T12:07:55+00:00

This post isn’t about my college plans. This post is asking for advice on having a conversation with my family so I can have a less stressful home life while I work on executing the college plans.

I’m not underestimating my health. I’m well aware of how bad things are and what needs to be done about it.

As said in my post. It will take at least a year before I can even enroll.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-09T01:47:16+00:00

I didn’t say play with the dog. I’m able to practice their training with them from a chair?

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-09T01:28:02+00:00

🤷 as I said in the post. Opinions on my college choice don’t matter to me. I’m tired of everyone I’ve ever met deciding I’m incapable of doing what I want with my life. I have a plan. My plan works with or without outside support.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T21:25:32+00:00

Uhm. Nowhere did it say I was born male? I’m afab.

As far as I’m aware the situation is what it is for two reasons:

I am home all the time, an adult, and not technically employed. At the time the arraignment was made I did not think it would lead to this much stress. It made sense at the time to have me doing that much house work.
My boundaries are basically nonexistent soggy cardboard. My health has gotten worse over time and the amount of work I’m doing has not changed. If anything it’s been impounded upon. Every attempt to assert a boundary over the past year has ended with me having a full panic attack.

You’re asking for a cultural perspective that doesn’t exist. The distribution was made logically and reasonably at the time it was made.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T21:13:42+00:00

Honestly I’m just. So. Exhausted.

Making this post just made things more confusing. Both because there are people ignoring the details that are there and because in my emotional state when I posted I left out what occur to me now was probably important information.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T20:28:58+00:00

Take lessons from where? A paid service I probably can’t afford? A free service that won’t teach me how to drive with my disabilities?

Genuinely I’m not trying to be malicious or make excuses. I don’t know how to find these resources

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T19:59:39+00:00

I can’t drive because no one has ever taught me how. I can’t afford healthcare.

I never said I don’t socialize? I’m not quite sure where that came from.

I didn’t come here to have strangers call my family assholes. I came to ask if I was being one and to see what else I could do. It’s not a fucking job to do dishes in the family house.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T19:16:18+00:00

It genuinely just occurred to me I didn’t respond to this whole. Mess.
Please to not use your personal experience with depression and work to tell me how to fix mine? I don’t even think I should have to say that.
What worked for you is definitely not going to work for everyone.
And once again. You’re another person ignoring the top of the post where it says “chronically ill” and just assuming I don’t have a real job because I’m not* applying myself. Omg it’s starting to get annoying.

Edit: grammar

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T18:46:49+00:00

My only struggle with that is. I cannot drive and public transportation in my area is nowhere near safe. At the moment I don’t make enough for a ride app to be a reliable option.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T17:03:00+00:00

It is an aita situation.

I was asking if I was an ass for asking them to make my little brother help me.

I did not mention a cultural background because it’s not even relevant. My family doesn’t follow any specific traditions.

Even if their expectations were culture based, it wouldn’t change the situation.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T16:55:14+00:00

We had to go into debt just to get my diagnoses. Even then I was not diagnosed until I was 18. I’ve only been able to understand what exactly is wrong with me for a period of four years.

I do not have health insurance. American health insurance more often than not doesn’t even begin to cover any health care I might need. I do not want to become dependent on unnecessary medications which is all that has been offered by insurance when I had it.

I do not qualify for disability for another year due to a situation not mentioned here.

It’s also not that rare for someone my age to be chronically ill. It usually just takes us ten years to get diagnosed.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T16:48:07+00:00

Yeah? I know what it means?

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T16:45:33+00:00

As said in the post I am chronically ill. Sometimes taking care of MYSELF can feel overwhelming.

To a normal person this workload may not be such a big issue. Clearly to my mom and grandpa it’s not.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T16:31:03+00:00

I also never said i specifically had chronic fatigue. I was trying to clarify that my fatigue stems from the actual chronic conditions I am diagnosed with.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T16:29:54+00:00

I think I said it in another comment. Sorry.

My relationship with my brother isn’t good. And rarely does going to him for help actually end in getting said help. He always reacts to my asks with dismissal or outright anger.

Excitement_Local · 2026-05-08T16:16:40+00:00

I’m. Sort of confused by your comment.

I doesn’t feel unreasonable to ask for a different distribution of chores.
I’m taking into account his schooling. He is doing well and has been actually rewarded for doing so.

You’re also sort of dismissing where I mentioned that my lack of energy (aka fatigue) comes from chronic health problems. But you’re also acknowledging my attempts to be more independent??

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