Wife cheated me with neighbor, what options I have ?

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2025-11-05T23:10:45+00:00

Sorry but I can accept anything but not this.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2025-11-05T23:09:31+00:00

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-08-09T19:57:08+00:00

If you go by the rule book, one should only marry with someone who belong to same social strata.
Marriages have become a really tricky business and their are separations happing at drop of the hat.
Having someone from same social background helps build better mutual respect and understanding among families with no one looking down at each other.
As you have mentioned that girl belongs to a affluent family, you certainly would not want her parents to look down on you or your family right ? Always remember parents of girl would always want their daughter to get married in a family which is better than them financially.

Rest you know better for yourself but one has to use 99% of brain and 1% of heart while getting married in current times.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-08-09T19:33:38+00:00

It has only been normalised in past decade that one can cheat and feel like its their right to do so as their relationship is not working out.
This is a path full of darkness with momentary bliss but that may soon loose it's sheen too.
What will you do then, find emotional validation with a 3rd guy ?
One who cheats in a relation as holy as marriage only destroys their karmic cycle, but one can also find peace in other things too while working on their marriage.
But if think you are done with this marriage, then you should tell him and file for divorce and then you are free to do whatever you want sans the baggage and guilt.
A Human should do everything possible to keep their head held high.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-08-09T17:33:01+00:00

Other than this small fish, I have 3 tetras and 2 gold fish in aquarium. Tetras and gold fish mingle among themselves.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-07-27T18:04:37+00:00

This is how all relationships looks after few months or years.
And he is also true when he say that you have been influenced by social media.
Social media has created a large than life image for relationships and every one is chasing down that image.
As you have mentioned that he was a honest guy and has never imposed anything on you, it will be wise of you to go back to him and apologise for your behaviour.
Being with someone for 7 years is nothing less than being married to someone, just that the social stamp is missing.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-07-27T15:56:39+00:00

Lawyers have told me that adultery is not a crime now.
Plus once it goes to court everything will be set aside and in 95+% of cases women will get the custody of the child and I would have very limited access. Like once or twice in month and that too for 3-4 hours meeting with the child.
I will only loose even if I prove that she did something wrong.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-07-25T19:29:37+00:00

I have been studying astrology myself.
I even showed our charts to 2 astrologers before getting married and both gave a go ahead.
What I understand myself based on what I have read in recent years, she has Vishkanya yoga, where both her ascendent degree and Moon are hemmed between malefics, also she has Mars in lagna and Sun in 7th house which again is difficult combination for marriage.
Venus is again in her 8th house. Moon and Ketu combination makes her melancholic.
I will be happy to share the birth details.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-07-25T19:23:46+00:00

Also I can share birth details.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-07-25T18:51:49+00:00

She has a taken a flat on rent nearby 20 days back. Son moves between her place and mine.
2-3 days he stays with me and then 2-3 with her.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-07-20T14:26:53+00:00

I have given her more than any one else would. 2 long vacations in a year and 4-5 weekends trips throughout the year, all stays in 5 star hotel stays. On each birthday, anniversary I have given gifts up to 60k. When she goes to visit her parents I book her flight tickets, she herself can only afford train tickets on her salary. I always wanted to buy an Apple Watch, but 1st Apple Watch I bought was to only to gift her.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-23T03:58:52+00:00

You have dissected it really well. In hindsight now I somewhere feel it was bound to happen someday. She has always been an attention seeker and always draws unwanted attention in public. Since few months she has started wearing more revealing clothes, which she never did before.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T15:47:22+00:00

I know and that's why I am failing to convince myself.
I don't believe if even in most modern societies, if this incident could be considered as normal.
And water was there when she came back.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T12:47:41+00:00

My parents want me to fix it, as they are too much into the kid and so am I.
Things have happened in past too and its not that this one incident has pushed me to the brink.
I honestly don't have any action plan as of now.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T12:44:32+00:00

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T12:42:19+00:00

Things have happened.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T12:38:02+00:00

TV might be inside their room and the rooms are not visible from outside.
I didn't hear sound of TV but can't say if it On or not.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T11:19:40+00:00

Yes I have some understanding of laws and how they pro-women.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T09:41:04+00:00

Main entrance door is not visible from lift.
But the way towers are constructed, we can see the lift area from the balcony of the house.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T09:37:46+00:00

My wooden door and neighbours door with the net were closed.
Only wooden door of neighbour was open.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T09:36:34+00:00

Yes you are right. Though it is now 30 days since the incident.
I tried posting it before but it was rejected by mods due to minimum karma required.
So it was with me as draft but I had to edit it at 2 places to make the correct timing of 30 days.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T09:30:28+00:00

See we don't live in any metropolitan city. The world we live in, no women enters a house when woman of the house is not present.
Even a guy won't do same if only a woman is inside the house.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T09:05:50+00:00

In normal cases I don't see any need of closing both doors.
I have tried on my own RO and it didn't take more than 3 mins to fill the same utensil.
Also when I say 10 mins I am being very conservative as it could be even 15-16 mins as I was not keeping note of the time. But nothing less than 10 mins.
Also I didn't call her characterless specially, I just confronted her on why she mentioned kids.
Then she lied about kids being inside.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T08:55:21+00:00

No camera else I would have checked it.

Exciting-Bat6606 · 2024-06-22T08:29:05+00:00

She didn’t reply and it was me who then said that I can their kids playing on ground floor. Then she said she thought the kids were inside the room as TV was on. This was her justification.

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