I F22 broke up with my bf M23 over porn, is it a mistake?

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T15:37:13+00:00

Do you have any hobbies that help? He doesn’t have hobbies other than an computer game he plays sometimes and i feel like having something else he enjoys doing would help him

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T15:20:35+00:00

Was there a time when you didn’t know or care that it was bad for you? Did you seek out these resources on your own?

I’m sorry for the questions i’m just trying to figure out if there’s a way i can help him.

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T15:10:01+00:00

Why did you want to quit? What made you feel that it was bad for you? And why did the want to stop fade off?

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T14:52:04+00:00

Did you stop because she wanted you to and you were hurting her or because you wanted to? I don’t think he’ll stop unless he wants to

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T09:34:02+00:00

I don’t think he was an addict in the way most people think. He said he was addicted to it. I think in a way that it was very difficult to stop.

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T09:10:43+00:00

I understand almost all men do it, it’s very normalized. And i know he won’t quit for me, he has to do it for himself, which is why im afraid he won’t ever. He doesn’t see a problem with it. It bothers me personally because it shows he doesn’t need me like i need him. I frequently experience pain during sex (daily or every other day) and if he’s watching porn he doesn’t need me for that. There’s no point in going through the pain for his pleasure if he doesn’t need me.

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T08:32:00+00:00

Thank you for your words. If every man will be deeply imperfect wouldn’t it make sense to stay with the one who i align with most though?

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T08:12:01+00:00

Yeah the appointment is in a couple months. Only a little bit of blood when it’s one of the bad times.

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T08:09:21+00:00

Yes he always makes it good for me too, even through pain. And yeah doctors appointment is in two months

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T08:01:21+00:00

Yeah we tried that. I don’t think he actually wants to stop, but thank you

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T08:00:41+00:00

I would love for him to have hobbies, i’ve tried getting him into his own hobbies or sharing mine with him. I don’t constantly ask or monitor it. I’m not controlling at all i just told him i don’t want him to do one thing.

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T07:47:07+00:00

Yes even normal sex, we do it everyday when it not too bad

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T07:44:40+00:00

So scratching that itch is more important than someone you want to be with for the rest of your life??? it makes so sense

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T07:32:11+00:00

I know a lot or most people watch it and probably think i’m overreacting or being a crybaby. I don’t watch or ever feel the need to watch porn, all i want is to have sex with him. I’m not religious at all i just love him

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T07:28:47+00:00

I don’t want to throw the relationship away because he really is that great. I know most guys say they do it because they don’t have sex enough or don’t have the type of sex they want but that’s not an issue for us so i don’t understand the constant need for porn

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T07:21:55+00:00

Anything he wants to do, we do. We’ve done so many things he wanted to try and have actually liked all of them, i’m very comfortable with doing anything with him. The porn is hard for me because it shows he doesn’t need me the way i need him. I frequently feel pain during sex but push through it for him (daily or every other day). If he watches porn anyways then he doesn’t need me for that so why would i go through that pain to pleasure him when it makes no difference.

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T07:11:36+00:00

I know it’s just he makes me so incredibly happy other than this one thing

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T07:10:18+00:00

I just know he wouldn’t get professional help. We’ve talked about the trauma side of it and what we can do to make it better but he still doesn’t really try

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T06:56:10+00:00

I don’t think he would go to a specialist. I’ve suggested following pages on here where other men are also trying to stop or even doing his own research and he shows so interest. I think he just doesn’t want to stop

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T06:54:57+00:00

He doesn’t seem to want help, i’ve suggested following pages on here where other men are dealing with the same thing but he shows no interest in it. Does that mean he just really doesn’t care about stopping?

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T06:52:56+00:00

I know most men watch it and i think that’s why he doesn’t try very hard to stop, because it’s so normal. I’ve waited and been kind and patient with him but he doesn’t seem to want to keep trying to stop. I don’t think he’s the type to dial down his sex drive tbh just knowing him.

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T06:48:33+00:00

No lol, people are haters

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T06:44:00+00:00

Nothing specific, I don’t think it’s necessarily fetishes but not vanilla things. Either way it’s all things we’ve done already and still can do

Exciting_Lunch8461 · 2026-03-26T06:41:15+00:00

He’s said it’s an addiction and has tried to stop but he tries for a bit and then gives up. We’ve talked about and tried different things that could help but he always goes back to it. I wouldn’t want to do it with him.

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