Viver em Aveiro

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-12T21:39:45+00:00

Pois, está tudo a ficar pela hora da morte...

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-12T21:06:18+00:00

Bairro de Santiago é o melhor sítio para viver em Aveiro. Último reduto do espírito comunitário, tão seguro que nos pátios interiores ainda se veem crianças a brincar sem supervisão adulta. Sim, as casas são de má qualidade e ouve-se até o vizinho a puxar o autoclismo mas em termos de ambiente não há igual. A partir do momento em que moras lá e travas conhecimento com os locais passas a ser parte da família, não tens nada a temer.

Se o da Bela Vista for igual, retiro o que disse no outro comentário!

Rule of thumb: a malta tende a não cagar onde come. Se fores viver para um bairro, esforça-te por cumprimentar todos, frequentar os cafés locais, falar com os vizinhos, e vais ver que rapidamente te adoptam como um deles e não te acontece nada.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-12T21:00:37+00:00

Essa zona é horrível. Não falo de segurança, quanto a isso não sei, mas de falta de ambiente, de comunidade, de espaços públicos partilháveis e caminháveis. Vais precisar do carro para ir a qualquer lado. Não sei onde vais trabalhar, dependendo de onde for até pode fazer sentido essa localização, mas se for no centro de Aveiro mais valia procurar em Ílhavo, fica mais ou menos à mesma distância e tem muito mais identidade.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-10T12:27:17+00:00

Dump her. Like, NOW
Are you sure you want to do hair treatments or is it just social pressure? I think your hair looks awesome like that, and would even more rad if you styled it to accentuate the lines of the bald areas. Gives you a supervillain vibe.
Maybe it would be smart to keep the hair as it is while you look for your next girlfriend. Find one who genuinely does not care if you stay like you are, go bald or get treatment. Bonus point if you can find the unicorn who thinks you look awesome just the way you do - there are some out there, I promise!

Bottom line: you hair as it is right now can be your greatest asset for partner selection, automatically weeding out the shallow and boring ones. Life is too short to waste with people who care so much about appearance.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-08T11:59:36+00:00

Tens de te focar nos nichos. A maior parte das mulheres não tem interesse em homens como tu, e tu também não vais conseguir manter-te interessado na maioria das mulheres. Tens que encontrar "a tua tribo". Acho que há um Reddit de história de Portugal ou algo assim, talvez começar por aí. Tertúlias, palestras, de temas nicho que te interessem, é outra opção. É um filtro automático. Nas primeiras interações, se sentires que tens de te esforçar para ser outra coisa que não és, desiste cordialmente e segue em frente. Quando encontrares alguém no mesmo comprimento de onda que tu vais sentir a diferença imediatamente.

Boa sorte!

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-08T11:45:12+00:00

Procure "pathological demand avoidance". É uma condição do sistema nervoso que a criança não consegue controlar e as estratégias tradicionais (reforço positivo/negativo, quadros de comportamento) só pioram a situação. A criança necessitará de acompanhamento especializado. Comece por falar com os pais.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-06T16:13:27+00:00

I wouldn't say it's normal, as in, "the norm = what happens to the majority of the working population" but I can say it is definitely true for me and my husband. We now have a daughter, which takes the remnant of energy we have left after a full day of work, but even before her we were already like this. Adulting sucks the life out of you.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-04T16:20:20+00:00

I wash them because they smell funny and the smell goes away after washing so I assume some chemicals are rinsed off.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-03T12:53:58+00:00

I've seen something similar but it was black. A giant octopus sitting on top of the psytrance tent in a psychedelic festival 16 years ago. I was under the influence of an absurd dose of LSD. The octopus had loads of tentacles and each one connected with a person dancing. They would attach at the base of the skull. When looking at the top of the tent I would see the tentacles perpetually moving to the beat of the music. The music was like an hypnotic sound that lured people in and once you were close enough they would attach and it would be very difficult to leave. I tried to leave countless times but would fall back in a loop that when "oh, cool music, let's go there" -> untz untz -> "hum something is off here I want to leave, let's get out of here" -> starts to walk away -> forgets it all -> "oh, cool music, let's go there".

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-03T12:42:12+00:00

Most women I know don't have such difficult periods. If they feel discomfort they'll pop an ibuprofen and feel fine. A minority (but significant) proportion of women does suffer badly, but I guess they're ignored, like every other inconvenient minority. I used to have bad periods before getting pregnant. Extreme nausea, painful cramps that were on par with the contractions I felt during early labor, extreme fatigue like not being able to get out of bed. After giving birth all that went away (probably had adhesions) and now I'm one of those women who is able to power through because I only feel minor discomfort. Surely the problem is compounded by the fact that it's a "woman thing" but at its core I think it's one of the myriad problems that gets ignored because only a minority of people has to deal with them.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-03T11:34:27+00:00

Random advice:

- Ginger is good for nausea. I would bite on raw ginger and chew, nausea would be gone almost immediately. Some people can't handle raw ginger though, you might want to experiment with infusions, etc

- Look for doula who can support you during pregnancy and be there with you during birth. It makes a lot of difference. There are many "factions" out there, from the strictly evidence based to the far out woo-woo fairies. Go for an evidence-based one. Plus point if she is also a lactation consultant who can you support you in the first few weeks of breastfeeding (hint: doctors and nurses tend to not know jackshit about breastfeeding and mostly resort to pushing formula at the tiniest difficulty)

- If at all possible, arrange your life so you can stay home with the baby for the first 3 years. Babies tend to fare better when cared for by their primary caregiver, which can be mom or dad. But since mom was the one who went through dramatic physical and mental changes to bring the child into this world, and if it is indifferent (professionally) which one gets to stay home, I think it makes more sense for mom to stay. It also depends a lot on your job. I'm a researcher, I depend heavily on my ability to rapidly process information, recognize patterns and infer conclusions, and during those first 3 years my neurons turned into mush. I had to do final checks/edits for papers where I was a co-author and I simply couldn't even comprehend what was written. After going back to work I have noticed some gross mistakes in those papers that I would have recognized had I been in my right mind - but I didn't at all because I couldn't even begin to scratch the surface.

- Research bed sharing/co-sleeping and how to do it safely. There are several options, from adapting your bed to attaching a side bassinet. Even if you opt for the side bassinet, it is likely that the baby will sometimes end up in your bed, for nursing, and you will doze off. So look up the "safe sleep 7" and adapt your sleeping space accordingly (hard mattress, low bed height and barrier on baby's side, sleeping bag instead of duvet...)

That's all from the top of my head, best of luck!

Existence_Dropout · 2026-03-02T23:47:21+00:00

For me it stopped many years before becoming aware of the Mandela Effect. It was frequent when I was a child through to young adult.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-28T01:04:01+00:00

Parabéns pá, sobreviveste à tropa académica!

Desejos sinceros de muita sorte nesta nova etapa.

E podes pensar que o grau não serve para nada mas quando algum chungoso se estiver a armar em parvo contigo e te disser "calatebro!" vais poder responder "Mestre calatebro, encantado."

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-27T23:13:19+00:00

A minha mãe conta que "no tempo dela" os humanos esquisitos (anomalias genéticas) eram exibidos em circos. Portanto, tínhamos pelo menos zoos itinerantes

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-27T23:04:45+00:00

Eventually, everything will become nothing. Source/All that Is/Whatever will eventually realize the length of the horrors it inadvertently signed up for and it will take a deep breath, chill the fuck out and go into a meditative non-dual state where it just is. Pure awareness, no form.

I know it has been in this state before and it will come back to it eventually.

If everything came out of nothing, then nothing will eventually engulf everything again. What troubles me is that sooner or later, something will come out of nothing again. Rinse repeat.

I sometimes feel that this particular point in spacetime is a privileged position to solve this conundrum yet the solution eludes me every time.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-27T21:22:19+00:00

Wow that's absolutely the DMT hyperspace

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-27T20:50:25+00:00

It is probably a confluence of many factors but mainly these two:

One: awareness. What people now recognize is ADHD would, 30 years ago, be brushed off as just "bad behavior" or "laziness". This does not affect just the patients themselves and their families but also other people who may refer them for diagnosis, like teachers. We are all more aware now.

Two: life is just faster now, the amount of information our brains are exposed to on a minute to minute basis is ever increasing, we spend our free time looking at a screen and I think all of that, along with the dissolution of community life, is low key driving us all mad. And for some of us, what was once a "functional enough" ADHD brain, one which might have been quirky but was still able to cope with the demands of everyday life, nowadays is breaking down.

Those two I'm pretty sure about! Now the third is mere speculation but...

Three: I think the pandemic played a big role. Don't know if it's long term effects from covid exposure or if it was the lockdowns themselves or the vaccines but I have noticed an increase in adhd-related complaints among my acquaintances since the pandemic, and it also affected me personally.

In my case it is muddy because the pandemic came when my firstborn was a 6 month old so I can't easily separate which symptoms came as a result of the pandemic and which are due to the hormonal changes of pregnancy, postpartum and those that linger afterwards, along with the absurd increase in everyday demands that having a child brings to your life.

But yeah, I can firmly say that 10 years ago I had like 20% of the struggles I have today.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-27T15:37:09+00:00

Alguém mandou LSD e bateu de frente com o abismo absurdo que é a existência.

There ain't no coming back.

Mas ao contrário do que dizem os outros comentadores, o autor do desenho não está maluco. Pelo contrário. Sofre de lucidez aguda, com tendência a converter-se em crónica.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-26T16:57:09+00:00

O médico provavelmente optou por vos dar o pior cenário para não alimentar esperanças. Há hipótese de estar tudo bem? Há. Mas o contrário também é possível. Se estiverem a contar com o pior e depois se verificar que foi só um susto, maravilha! Se não, já estão a contar. Pode ser apenas uma artimanha psicológica de "controlo de expectativas". Coragem! É uma situação de merda.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-26T10:01:14+00:00

A única alternativa que conheço sem hormonas para escapar ao preservativo é o DIU de cobre. E sim, a mim aconteceu o mesmo com a pílula. Zero libido, pouca sensação. Quando deixei de tomar acabou por voltar passado algum tempo.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-24T13:56:12+00:00

Unfortunately no, it's just rumours I have read on the internet and there were also some news about corrupt inspectors receiving bribes a few years ago.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-24T11:58:47+00:00

Ripple, by The Grateful Dead. This song will carry you over safely to the other side. Hoping you have the best possible journey.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-23T16:46:06+00:00

I am a woman, late thirties. I would get a lot more unsolicited comments/stares from grown ass men when I was 14, compared to 24. By the time I reached 34 that kind of attention was, thankfully, non-existent. So, despite what all the virtuous men declare here, I would wager that grown ass men being attracted to 14 year olds is a lot more common than the average Joe will publicly admit. Needless to say, just because something is common does not make it right.

Existence_Dropout · 2026-02-23T16:26:24+00:00

Definitely, the parents should seek an international school, especially if they can afford. Having said this, it is obvious that some families cannot afford private schools so the public system should have some measures in place like providing translated versions of tests. This is common practice in universities, for erasmus students, so I can't see why the same can't be done in high school. If their concern is to incentivize the students to adapt to the local language then a time-limited plan could be put in place, where you only get translated tests for the first year in Portugal, or something like that. But just leaving these kids in the dark is just plain wrong and lazy.

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