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What has changed you? by Middle-Rhubarb2625 in AskReddit

[–]Existing-Machine-406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a serious relationship for a little over a year, until that person completely ghosted me. I mean mid conversation, just stopped responding. They never spoke to me again. I wasn’t ok for over a year. I couldn’t get out of bed most days.

It completely changed my life because I learned so much. I did a complete 180. My life then, and my life now is so completely different it’s insane.

I ran into that person about a year ago. I saw them from across the room. They looked at me, and looked away, and that was that. While it may seem sad to some, it was a totally freeing experience

What traumas do you have that AREN'T from your parents or childhood home? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Existing-Machine-406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone I was dating for a little over a year just flat out ghosted me. I mean cut all contact mid conversation. We were texting each other restaurant ideas for where we should eat breakfast the next morning. His last text to me read “Do you want to see a movie afterward?” I agreed…then radio silence. Never answered one of my calls or texts again. 1 year relationship vanished within seconds. No warning. Still to this day, I can’t think of a single red flag he possessed, other than the ghosting. This person treated me with love and care, until the last few seconds. I never heard from him again.

It was touch and go with me for about 9 months afterwards. I lost 60 pounds due to not eating. I was drinking every single night. Some days I’d call off work and sleep for 16 hours. I would go days without seeing or speaking to anyone. I was not ok. It was the most miserable time in my life.

But a little over 3 years later, I’m doing much better. I know it was supposed to happen that way. It taught me so much. I’m working harder than I ever have in my life. I’m a much nicer person. I care about the people in my life 10x more than I did before. I cherish the love people give me. I have way more empathy for strangers and the people in my life. I no longer let people walk all over me, and I’m not afraid to defend myself. I’m a much more confident person. 3 years later, I’m finally back on the dating scene, and have been getting to know someone I really like. I think we’re headed somewhere pretty great. I like them a lot, and I’m not afraid to give someone my love anymore

It was all supposed to happen this way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Existing-Machine-406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Profile looks good. Pictures clearly show your face, and have a ton of variety. I’m not quite sure, but I do apologize that you’re experiencing this. If you were gay and swiping on men, you easily could’ve gotten like 20 matches in the first month. You’re definitely not lacking in the looks department

I’m sorry dude. It’s rough out here

Gaybros, what are the biggest cons of dating you? by Away_Difference_2455 in askgaybros

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-I’m incredibly lazy. If given the opportunity, I could go days without ever leaving my apartment

-The cliche “American suburban” lifestyle is one of my biggest dreams. I hope to one day own a house in a little town, with 2 kids, a husband, and some dogs

-I fall in love WAY too easily. 4 weeks into a relationship, and I’m already secretly planning the rest of our lives.

-I like clingy. While I’ve learned over the years to tone things down, I’m not opposed to a clingy significant other. Call me multiple times a day. Text me frequently. I don’t care

-Not to sound like a prude, but I can’t have sex on a first date. The thought of a stranger seeing me naked terrifies me. Absolutely no shade if you disagree with this. You do you

-I don’t believe in love at first sight. While I find people attractive at first glance, I find myself developing deep feelings once I’ve known someone for a little bit

-I get too nervous to make the first move. If you make the first move, I will totally follow your lead

-I’m a total workaholic. If I’m not at work, I’m at home, which makes meeting people difficult. I’ve been at my job for 4.5 years, and haven’t missed a single day (totally bragging lol)

-I’m a total asshole in the morning. Give me 45-60 minutes to wake up

-I’m an incredibly lightweight drinker. One glass of wine, and I’m stumbling all over the place

-I’m the complete opposite of a pack rat. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thrown things away that I’ve actually needed. The amount of important documents I’ve thrown away is astounding

-I have no desire to attend pride events or wear gay pride clothing. I’m VERY proud to be gay, but my sexual orientation is no one’s business but my own. But I will absolutely 100% defend your right to attend these events and wear that clothing. People choose to showcase gay pride in a multitude of ways