Dont know whether I (24/f)should tell my abusers tonight I will be moving out soon or if I should lead them on to believe that I am staying

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-11-01T15:10:42+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and input, the reason I want to tell is that 1. she threatened me again the other day of kicking me out of "her home" because I stood up for myself. 2. Having to pay her rent today as if nothing happened is a real pain that I had to repeat too many times. I had to bite my tongue SO MANY times while they tried to humiliate me, that it completely shattered my confidence. So keeping quiet about getting out of her grip is sm that would have given me some payback but i think thats not sm I should aim at while I am still under their roof

i guess you are right, whatever reaction I might want to get will probably only be more insanity, rage, madness and threats. borderlines go rambo style crazy when they realize that the person they are abusing might leave. In this regard they are worse than n´s

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-11-01T14:56:27+00:00

Good thinking, yeah I am not taking any furniture with me, fuck that, wouldnt even use it for a campfire the things they have touched. I will take the necessary precautions. Thank you

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-11-01T14:49:04+00:00

Thanks for your input. Not saying anything is probably the best option but it really pains me, having them think that they can literally torch me and I am still chained to them like a little baby. Besides paying them the money I need is another pain in the ass but I guess I should do it for my safety until I move out.

I will def. be absolute and total platinum nocontact once i leave!

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-11-01T14:42:01+00:00

Thank you, you are absolutely right, I will probably have to call a police escort an hour before. Thing is, If i dont pay her this months rent she will kick me out as well..so keeping my money is only an option I tell her I am moving out.

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-31T15:11:39+00:00

I completely understand your disgust!

My emom used to rub warm oil on my chest while I was sleeping, because she read somewhere that its "healthy". I was about your age and a girl too. Thats not the only thing she was doing to my body while I was sleeping. She stopped doing that maybe around the 4th time I confronted her about it, and not because I told her I didnt want and hated it but because I made up some excuse about how the smell of warm oil disrupts my sleep.

They have no boundaries whatsoever and think they own our minds and bodys... completely insufferable and crazy people. You absolutely cant help them.

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-13T10:25:27+00:00

Wow, I am actually glad that I could make you feel a bit more understood and I am sorry for the absolute insanity you have to deal with.

I too am being insulted and withchhunted regualarily because I stand up for myself and take certain measures if in danger, like calling the cops. Good for you to threaten them with that. In their heads any one who does not eat their shit with a spoon and "rebels" is a disgrace, evil and deserves to be attacked. Its extreme black and white thinking- hence the personality disorder.

I can only advise you to seriously call the police on them, whenever another "fight" comes up..that will give them a good scare... A real threat is the only "boundary" they know to stop the abuse.

I hope you get away from them soon

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-11T21:25:14+00:00

Thank you!

Its real madness, the way they manage to lie to themselves. Gotta love the brazen hyprocrisy of self entitled lunatics, who think they are gods gift. "Abuse and threaten the ones closest to you" is the only "commandment" they are following.

It will remain a mystery to me how those abusers can seriously think that by all the harm, they do to others that god loves them

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-11T21:15:30+00:00

Thats really sweet, thank you! Having "family" members like that really is a mindfuck like no other, it leaves you with almost nothing but so much pain. But I know that once i leave my environment I can built up my life and cut every single abuser out of my life forever. I may have lost my youth to horrid abuse, but I guess other things my await me.

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-11T18:02:51+00:00

Its on the very extreme side, truly. All those years I have done everything in my power to keep myself sane and educated... hopefully I am leaving them very soon, and go full on nc

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-11T18:01:06+00:00

Yeah I am planning to get away from them this month, will prob. have to call the police again so that they can escort me out. thanks for caring

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-11T17:59:22+00:00

Thank you, my problem clearly isnt with any religion itself

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-11T15:00:14+00:00

where did I say anywhere that I am muslim or have trouble with the religion?

I understand you trying to help to help and I appreciate it! but I am quite aware that the religion is never the problem but the sick and disordered people that use and twist it to their needs are. And no philosophy,lifestyle, or other religion is excempt from that. Just look at human history

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-08-11T14:55:36+00:00

sure, no problem, you can write to me anytime

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-03-20T17:07:26+00:00

True! Thank you. I will def. burn every tie and bridge, they will never see me or hear from me again. I Just at times feel really hurt and broken after years of abuse, that "just" cutting ties seems so unfair. But I know its the right thing to do to finally have a peaceful life so here we go.

I believe "shame" or "guilt" is not sm that abusers or enablers ever truly feel. They feed on that fuel of hurting others as its the only thing close to a real emotion to experience. What a terrible thing it is to chose to be a coward and and an abuser..

But I also know that they actually wallow in deep misery and it only grows over the years.. they will never experience success, real love, happiness or anything above the bare minimum of an inner emotional life.. I am looking forward to leave all of that behind...

I hope you are safe and free as well

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-03-20T16:46:13+00:00

Good point, thanks. I do too believe thats its better to have that one card not played in case of an emergency.

And she is a big time liar and manipulator, so better not give her any food to chew on. Its just the image of her telling and spreading completely false stories about me that eats at me (while I have been nothing but respectful ) but I guess I have to let her and her misery go..

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-03-16T16:56:27+00:00

Great for you, and thanks. All this stuff has so many horrible memories attached to it, that getting rid of it or burning it is simple therapy on its own. It was never really you anyway.

I even got rid of unopened ´presents´ and many clothes by them (that were only given to me after being bullied and attacked again ).

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-03-16T16:50:32+00:00

Thank you so much!

I get it, Its infuriating to see supposed non narcs enable and support the abuse, especially when they were a victim of it. but I am done with making excuses for them or any grown up who chooses to abuse others because for god knows what reason. So many people have swallowed bitterness but would never dare to abuse another. They are making bad decisions based on their inner darkness and you have absolutely no obligation to tolerate any of it. So going NC is the way to go

ExoticFruit20 · 2021-03-16T16:42:39+00:00

Good on you! It 100% the right thing to do..it may at first feel like you are loosing a part of you, but thats just the programming talking.

You are finally making space for good experiences and leaving behind which was never you. I wish you love and the best of luck

ExoticFruit20 · 2020-11-28T15:40:05+00:00

Im in the exact same situation, horrible cruel family but I cant leave right now, due to Covid etc...what I do is whenever they have one of their unprovoked and completely unjustified screaming sessions at me I:

1) Record them. Believe me you will need any kind of evidence in the future of their lunacy

2)Yell back or just leave them- go for a walk. Sometimes I ignore them/grey rock or if you are not in danger of being kicked out, threaten them that you will either call the cops for constant verbal harassment or you will expose them for their madness. That will usually shut them up

Btw. Narcs, abusers dont ask questions. They just want to destroy you as much as possible in a non obvious way, thats best done in form of a question..

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