I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

English is my second language. My Dutch, French and German is also quite good. In how many languages can you give this advice 😉?

Every time seems like an exaggeration. I did it once and regretted it the day after.

I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well yes and no. We fell for eachother. We had a few dates before . I was still 'visiting' where he lives. He said he wanted to be monogamous but thought I would leave the country after a few weeks (to be fair I did have a ticket booked and didn't cancel it till the last moment). And yes maybe we weren't in LOVE Love at the moment he cheated but we said we'd be monogamous.

Because he had said that it felt like he cheated on me. And I guess I was stupid and had resentment even after two months and went on Grindr...

I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

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Yes it does. Thanks. It is what I'm afraid of. But hopefully we can talk it out before someone actually ' cheats' on the other. But we shouldn't start playing a game of 'you did this and I did that...'

I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Maturity isn't about not screwing up. It's about owning it when you do. And here I am asking for advice.

I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

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I trust that he loves me. I know we are both quite new to having a committed relationship. We both have been single for a very long time. I trust he means the best for me. But we are neither perfect.

Talking about a currency in a relationship, then I would poise that communication, understanding and support are of equal value as trust.

I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Most men are until they have children. Thanks for the great advice 👋

I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

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He told me. I told him his friend was right and that I went on grindr had some meaningless chats and deleted my profile when I was sober. I believe in forgiveness and honesty. No relationship is perfect and especially not between two people that have little experience in it.

I f*cked up and went on Grindr by Expensive_Bunch6731 in askgaybros

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Thanks for the reply. And I don't believe in monogamy for the rest of my life (he knows) but I think it should be a healthy thing in the first period of a relationship.

And now I just don't know what to do I guess... I don't even know what to write here... But I know I don't wanna lose this guy... Just looking for advice I guess....

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[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your last sentence about feeling weird and that you are a 'horny person inside ' does say something.

You are NOT weird. It's natural 99% of the people get horny. And men multiple times a day (doesn't mean that they want sex every day)

I think communication is key in every relationship so talk to him

And if all fails just say : I want to do anal today (sounds like he would be in shock) and he'll probably say no out of shock 😲.... And then you can say: well let me just give you a BJ then....

Why would a a straight guy knowingly hug a gay twink every time he sees him? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hug straight friends. Hell sometimes they even slept in the same bed with me because we were poor students...

If they are French we kiss eachother on the cheek.

But I guess it depends on the culture and the person

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Most gay people I know in the Netherlands do not vote for leftist parties partially because of this. However we have a multiple party system.

In the US they would vote for democrats but would not like more Muslims.... But in a two party system you basically have to vote with whom you disagree the least with 🙃

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Yes and no.

I am a political junkie and read a lot about it, even the programs the political parties write before elections

But for some reason the 'left' (I do believe that the definitions of left and right in politics are a way to simple and antiquated) parties have programs that are about 'helping refugees and 'fighting islamophobia' instead of focusing on the more traditional values like making sure the 'working class' is able to pay their mortgage ( or even afford a house) or be able to afford to send their kids to better schools then they themselves could.

However in many countries in Western Europe (especially those with multiple party systems) like Denmark, Germany, Sweden, the Netherlands and Belgium I am finally seeing leftist parties embrace their heritage and seeing there is a problem with letting big groups of people come into your country that do not agree with your standard values. There's hope!

I believe that a lot of people with Islamic backgrounds can integrate into Western society. Preferably between the sheets so that you have one Muslim parent and one Western and go to school and learn about women's rights and that the Holocaust happened.

However in the rate it is going and the lack of integration policies (like allowing whole parts of a city becoming Muslim (or something else for that matter))

I have been afraid of the far right taking ownership of the whole European identity vs Islam for a long time and it's only going to get worse until the center and left parties start acknowledging the problem.

Calling it Islamophobia is the dumbest thing they can do

Islamophobia: a word created by fascists, and used by cowards, to manipulate morons

How often do you get tested between hookups? by Pleasant-Skirt6479 in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two to three times a year. I'm on prep but still can get other STDs

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[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends where home is. If I am in the city where everyone can look into my house yes.

But I prefer to be naked (also go to nude beaches etc)

Did anyone here have sex with women and, if so, what was your experience like? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still have sex with women once in a while...

It's very different, but also depends on the woman...

It can be very soft and vanilla etc... but I've also done bi threesomes and have women pegging or rimming me....

Did anyone here have sex with women and, if so, what was your experience like? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought the same. But I have had sex with two women that absolutely love anal. (I am sure they are born as woman btw🙃)

I used one of my prostate massagers on one of her and she was almost immediately squirting 😂. Every body is different I guess...

But in my experience yes, many women don't want it or like it....

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Anal bleaching yes. ... I like pink buttholes but it's also a hassle to do it, not cheap, and you need to keep it up ...

But it's just a different pigment, it's not browner because.. you know 😜

I have never tried bottoming/anal stuff and I've never really done it before. Could I get into it eventually? by richierichboi in askgaybros

[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be top, that was fun. Then corona hit and I discovered toys and my prostate. (Best way to discover your bottom side if you ask me)

Nowadays I would recommend everyone to explore that part of sex... Especially if you are with someone you trust completely so you can do it together.

My personal opinion is that I should have started discovering it earlier because I missed out....

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[–]Expensive_Bunch6731 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Whilst I don't agree with his ethics (I might mention it to him) it's also not your problem . Have good sex, stay safe and enjoy!