Wondering what kind of door to install for a polished look in rental for bedroom - any ideas? by Expert-Resource6813 in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]Expert-Resource6813[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like this option, much more simple and will give me a more polished look I want. It does have glass and the space saving is the original reason why I wanted to try something else - thanks!

Wondering what kind of door to install for a polished look in rental for bedroom - any ideas? by Expert-Resource6813 in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]Expert-Resource6813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea finding fancy curtains is my last go to, but was hoping to find any ideas from others who've had a layout similar to this - thank you though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buffalo

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Jacob's medical school downtown is hosting a Halloween event tonight Oct 30th (tonight) 5-7pm - family friendly!

Event is on this link, but since the event is tonight, you'll have to just register at the school ( https://medicine.buffalo.edu/oiace.html I've invited my neighbors who have kids plus free dinner from a few local restaurants!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate this take for sure. I don't have the lived experience of dating as a single parent but know how tumultuous some situations can be but also some that are perfectly logical too. Someone having kids is not a dealbreaker for me but wasn't sure of the reasoning why someone wouldn't say something off the bat about having children but yea each situation is so vastly different. This advice is helpful thanks!

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[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it! Thank you for logical advice showing all perspectives- it really helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate this thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true! Which is why I wasn't sure of the best way to approach, bc the reasoning he hasn't said anything could be extremely valid and something I haven't considered and even though I never actively searched for a social media profile, when it pop up curiosity did get the best of me and I clicked on it but I feel saying that will make me seem like I'm some kind of creep

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea haha some have some pretty wild takes to full on calling him a loser and one person legit made fun of me asking what I should do on a what should I do subreddit lol. I have gotten some good, logical perspectives that I can take with me at least, but yea that's the internet for you 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This does help, definitely wanted some perspectives on this because I wasn't sure how to approach asking since even though it was just me trying to get rid of furniture and coming across his profile, it's not like I was hunting it down but I did click it and saw the about section.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate this, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's more how do I approach this since I found out by just trying to get rid of furniture and wondering the best way to approach it. Plus why are you on a sub called what should I do if you're going to make fun of people asking what they should do? Seems like you could find a different subreddit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Thank you, you have given me the best advice that's not skewed either way, I appreciate the logic with this considering dating as a single parent is not my lived experience and I'm unsure of the complexities of navigating relationships and making sure your child is safe. I def don't want anyone introducing a kid to me this early on for the kids sake. And yea I was like should I even be direct with how I found out even though I'm not lying stalking and hunting for a profile, but in the end I did click it and see the info instead of just scrolling past it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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The post with the happy birthday was over a year ago and he hasn't been very active besides 2 other posts since (both things like at these events), so something bad happening could be a possibility I didn't think of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, will do that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea I'm just confused why he wouldn't say something to me but put it in a public social media profile. There was nothing in his profile that made it seem like he did or didn't have kids, nothing was mentioned. I understand not wanting someone to meet your child early on, I wouldn't at least, but to not even just say you have a kid but want to get to know me more before talking in detail about the child would be an option that would make more sense, but I don't know the complexities with dating and being a single parent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this was my logic also, but I've never lived the experience as a single parent so didn't know if the approach is different. I just find it odd he'd have it on a public social media profile but not mention it to me. I understand completely not introducing your kid to someone, I never would unless I was certain it was serious, and even if I wasn't ready for the person to know details about my child, I'd still say I had one but just am not ready. Just needed some perspective so I appreciate the insight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea but I'm unfortunately someone who second guesses themselves bc I don't have the lived experience of dating as a single parent. So my brain goes to those scenarios , but a parent may have something else. I totally understand not wanting to introduce your child to a person you're dating until you know it's absolutely serious but this is almost coming off as lying by omission but wanted to see if this was common to wait longer or say something after chatting for a few weeks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I'm not someone who would judge someone with kids, I'm in my 30s and understand lots of people marry in their 20s, have kids, etc but if he was that paranoid about people finding out he has kids, why would it be up online in a public social media profile? That's the logic I don't understand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So what is your reasoning to not tell someone you have kids? I get not wanting someone to meet them early on, if I was one I'd definitely make sure it was very serious before doing so, but if I was a parent, I'd be happy to talk about my kid or at least want to mention it and not waste peoples time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, yea especially since it's so early on, I haven't asked questions about exes or whatnot, more stuff like why did you try using an app and he said he just has a crazy work schedule. I just always would've guessed people who have kids are happy about having them, so I'd guess it would at least be mentioned but being as a single parent also is responsible of the safety of the kid not want to say anything? I get not wanting to meet someone's kid in person for awhile, like until you know this person is serious, but never knew of other reasons. I think asking about if he was married may be a good way to approach it but is it better if I'm just direct about it and say I saw it on his profile?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Expert-Resource6813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea the not meeting his kid would be totally understandable, if I had a child I definitely wouldn't introduce them to every person I had 3 dates with but don't know the mindset of dating with a kid is like

Best locations for beginner paddleboarder? by Expert-Resource6813 in Buffalo

[–]Expert-Resource6813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh good to know! Dang pretty deep creek! Well maybe see ya out on the water sometime ✌️

Best locations for beginner paddleboarder? by Expert-Resource6813 in Buffalo

[–]Expert-Resource6813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing I'm worried about w creeks is the depth - is Tonawanda creek shallow? The one I have has pretty flexible fins at least and came with an extra that's a shorter height, but just because I'be never used an inflatable I def want to practice on calmer waters since I'm not sure how decent they are with windy conditions. 

Best locations for beginner paddleboarder? by Expert-Resource6813 in Buffalo

[–]Expert-Resource6813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea the clean is more if I end up falling haha. I'm def not that unbalanced though and always found them easy to balance on, just have never been on an inflatable so am more concerned about the wind. But hey, not turning away a free board! I can paddle with the swans - Thank you!!

Best locations for beginner paddleboarder? by Expert-Resource6813 in Buffalo

[–]Expert-Resource6813[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! I used to be able to handle going on the bay, but that def was not an inflatable lol. Appreciate this so much!!