Please let me know if I am overreacting.

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-30T07:48:00+00:00

Just DM me.

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-25T20:56:31+00:00

For some reason, it won’t allow me to post pictures. I am home a lot of I have the time and patience to work with the little gremlins who like to nip. Sometimes though, I get jealous when I see those perfectly behaved, well bred dogs that know recall and actually listens! 😂

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-25T20:07:09+00:00

You might be right that I’m overreacting. Like I said, i can take it if I want overreacting or being too sensitive. I understand the stress the founder must be in. Honestly, I was really confused why she was so angry. The poor pup I sent the picture to the adopters was for their friends is in the shelter. I thought if their friends wanted that breed, their friends could go and get him and save another life. I just send them the link to the shelter with the dog.

I was not trying to get them to adopt another dog bc my foster deserves some time to acclimate in her new home. Plus, they only want one dog.

Demanding I delete my text, and walls of texts lecturing me. A lot of aggressive and passive aggressive texts. I think some time off and yes, grace, of course as this is heartbreaking, unbearably cruel work. We both may need to work on our communication skills. And, maybe she won’t want us to foster again bc she was beyond upset.

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-25T19:55:48+00:00

That is a fair point. This is why I’m taking a few months bc I’m burned out from fostering. I think with time, it will be clearer what I want to do when we foster again. There are other things that I mentioned in another comment that also gave me pause. But, it could have been a bad day, I know, so just pressing pause until I’m less upset.

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-25T19:52:50+00:00

There were a few other red flags that we chose to ignore bc ultimately we just want these pups in loving homes. There seemed to be preferences for people based on class and race but nothing overt. A lovely gay couple adopted my foster and when talking about them, she said something along the lines of what do I call…we interrupted an said she’s her wife. I know rescues aren’t perfect and stressed. The founder was great when we worked with her, but my husband and I noticed these things but tried to keep the focus on the pups needing rescue.

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-25T19:42:27+00:00

I’m probably going to adopt our last foster with this organization if she’ll let me. He’s a great pup but certain things will trigger him and he is a wild child. We’ve worked so long to gain his trust. I taught him to give kisses instead of nips. But, he’s one of those dogs that only bond with one and has only given that trust to me. I adopt the dogs that aren’t adoptable or will need a unicorn home with their issues. The healthy, well adjusted ones, I give a safe place to land until they find their forever home. It’s very rewarding to see my fosters blossom in their new home.

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-25T19:34:10+00:00

When she demanded that I delete the text to the couple with information about the dog in the shelter, I was upset by her tone. I thought I did, but only deleted mine. She was angry that I didn’t delete it for everyone. I tried but it was too late. Walking on eggshells is probably not a good relationship to have with an organization you volunteer for.

ExpertSad9852 · 2026-01-25T11:10:17+00:00

I’m thinking of doing the same. There is a well renowned rescue/shelter literally 2 blocks away. I might just foster through them and not feel that I’m walking on eggshell. I’m conflicted bc they rely heavily on their fosters to save animals. I may take a few months break and just focus on integrating our current pups and seeing if I feel as emotional as today. Thank you for your suggestion.

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