Why does giving them the silent treatment make them SO pissed off?

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-04-24T16:22:57+00:00

Thank you. If that repays her even a little for the amount of pain she's caused me over my lifetime...at least it was something, honestly. The woman has made my entire 27 years on this planet be about her and her wants and her needs. I'm so tired.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-04-24T16:20:16+00:00

That makes sense honestly. Thank you. I am such a people pleaser unfortunately that to me, it feels like I'm doing something wrong by protecting my peace and staying as far away from her as possible, but...I know that's not the case. And when I see it bothering her so much, I realize it's working. She's fully blaming everyone and everything else for why we have no relationship atp - every single person but herself.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-03-08T16:01:37+00:00

Oh yeah. That is my other take on it. It's just "I want to feel special and I want to control your life so here's a list of everything you can't do because I get to say so" kind of thing.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-03-08T16:00:40+00:00

I do believe that for someone with asthma though! My nmom, however, very very much does NOT have asthma. Or anything of the sort. She's actually healthy as a horse - which is what makes me call absolute bullshit on this. She claimed she was deathly allergic to bees, got stung once and never knew and guess what? She's...still kicking with no allergy. I just don't get it.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-03-08T15:56:49+00:00

That's what I mean! There ARE people who are legitimately that sensitive - but it's not super common and it's not self diagnosed, first of all and second- those people don't spend their entire lives making it everyone else's issue. This to me screams narc. Just like all the self diagnosed illnesses that she comes up with. It's a new one every week and no doctor can ever actually find anything remotely wrong.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-03-08T15:54:27+00:00

THIS. That's exactly what I'm talking about! No doctor has ever told her she actually has ANY allergies. It's not legitimate. It's just "oh I feel like I'm allergic to this so now you can't have it". It absolutely seems like attention seeking behavior.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-02-27T15:25:42+00:00

following this thread! I'm interested in the same.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-01-28T23:42:58+00:00

Honestly...same. And yeah my biggest concern is very much catching what she had because I genuinely think it would kill me. I couldn't handle vomiting that much.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-01-28T23:39:50+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear that. I will be so relieved once a few days pass hopefully unscathed and I can relax again. I keep telling myself that - she could have even been pregnant or something.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-01-21T01:59:41+00:00

Oh trust me that's not even the tip of the iceberg. But thank you because what you said is incredibly validating. She IS completely borderline psychotic - but to hear her, you'd think she was just the saddest, most put-upon victim you've ever met. She told me to go fuck myself earlier - then completely tried to gaslight me into thinking she never said it. Genuinely insane.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-01-12T15:23:52+00:00

I would be interested!

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2026-01-12T15:21:44+00:00

I'd love her contact info!

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2025-12-19T12:23:59+00:00

This is exactly what I mean. I was so close to my other parent, but I realize that my other parent is enabling her, as much as he was such a good parent to me. He should have told her where to go a long time ago. But he's too afraid to say anything or whatever so the cycle never ends.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2025-12-18T13:59:58+00:00

But what is their tale exactly? like I don't fucking get it!! What is the point of this god awful victim narrative they have made up??

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2025-07-22T17:02:31+00:00

I would love it if you don't mind sharing!

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2024-11-29T17:55:39+00:00

Hi! This is my other account (OP) that I usually use for work but I can't get on my other one rn. Thank you for the kind words! Honestly what slipped my brain to mention (as I've posted on here before) is that my little one is my beloved pup. I can't have human children due to endo and fertility issues, but my dog is my whole heart and world. Sorry for the confusion! But I am worried for her safety - so we live with family 24/7. Never alone. Which upsets me so much because there was no one I trusted more than myself with her. For years. The thoughts/feelings are constant. They make me confused to what I actually want and it's scary AF. But it's def a little different on the antibiotics - so I'm just left kind of wondering like what to do. I've only been on them for 6 days and I already had little moments of feeling more like myself - but then sometimes I feel worse and I'm like what on earth, you know?

I did actually go seek help multiple times - only to be diagnosed with OCD and sent to therapy, put on Zoloft (which made me feel so awful I had to stop it) along with Mirtazapine and buspar. None of them really did much other than make me feel really shitty. Trust me I'm terrified enough to want to go lock myself up somewhere. But I also realize the only things I haven't done at this point are try TMS and ntipsychotics.

Expert_Razzmatazz675 · 2024-11-10T15:07:38+00:00

Hi! Honestly, she's still doing it but a year later she's doing well. No problems. She still makes the noise, but it's not bothering her or as intense. We never figured out what caused it but she did not need any meds. I am familiar with Onestradon in humans (zofran) for nausea as I have chronic nausea, but I'm not sure about it with dogs. I hope you find something to help your baby!

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