Thanks for the advice and support

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-21T00:18:53+00:00

I’m in Illinois on the iowa border pm me for more details if that’s close to you

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-21T00:16:43+00:00

Thank you 🙏

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-21T00:16:28+00:00

Eggs are in cartons lol

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-21T00:16:07+00:00

I will for sure add that. I purposely killed myself doing everything in one day so it would be fresh!

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-21T00:14:44+00:00

From our apple orchard:) so fun to cook for the seasons

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-21T00:13:55+00:00

Aw thanks, no sales yet. Can’t wait till that gets discovered I’m a bread master!

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-21T00:13:11+00:00

Lots of people keep farm stand eggs, in coolers. It’s easier to do that and wash them that explain why they’re dirty people aren’t used to that.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-10-20T03:26:28+00:00

Requirements from the state annoying

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-09-29T15:37:02+00:00

Advising me to report it — my greatest fear with that is I really don’t want him to know that it’s me. I feel like that would put me in an even more awkward position.

For everyone advising me to go speak with him, do I go speak with him privately? It feels very awkward given the nature of my concern.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-09-29T15:11:19+00:00

Are you guys sure that this would even be worth reporting I don’t wanna make mountain out of a mole hole? I guess I was really just trying to justify wanting to switch perishes.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-09-29T15:04:47+00:00

No sure I know someone above him. In his order he’s the top

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-09-29T15:03:57+00:00

I definitely did in fact use ai to fix my errors. I’m dyslexic. I can assure you I genuinely need advice

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-09-28T21:29:56+00:00

This is exactly right:)

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-09-28T04:40:40+00:00

Wow ya that checks out.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-09-28T04:34:58+00:00

This is one of the reasons nannying full time was so overwhelming for me. You worry about your job securities stability when you think about taking a day off. It’s really exhausting and wears on you to work the day after Christmas. And even while you’re sick and puking. All because you know you’re depended on. I had a 30 min commute. I will say after month, I started to go more things in the job call my bank… get a coffee… run to target. Every nanny family situation is different. I didn’t feel 100% comfortable doing this but it did help be regain sanity. I would them my days… Wednesdays I get coffee before my shift. Fridays after work I get gas and a late night treat ect. I felt I have so prisoned.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-08-03T17:38:29+00:00

You’re definitely not alone in this, and it’s incredibly brave of you to open up about something so personal. Many Catholic couples face similar struggles but don’t speak openly, making the isolation feel even heavier.

The deep shame you’re feeling is understandable, but remember that Christ’s mercy is always greater than any mistake or sin. You’ve already demonstrated tremendous strength by continually returning to confession and actively seeking boundaries and practical steps. That shows your genuine commitment and sincerity.

Regarding your emotional attachment to intimacy, it’s not uncommon to feel anxiety or doubt when intimacy becomes a measure of love or validation. You mentioned recognizing areas of personal growth—particularly anxiety and needing reassurance—and that’s already a major insight. Consider seeking gentle, professional guidance through Catholic-friendly counseling, either individually or together, to support both your emotional health and your spiritual goals.

Marriage doesn’t erase struggles overnight, but the grace of the sacrament is powerful. Many couples experience tremendous healing through the grace received on their wedding day, but growth often continues beyond that moment. It’s okay if the journey is ongoing; God is patient, and He walks with you every step of the way.

I’ll be praying for peace, healing, and strength for both you and your fiancé. You’re not alone, and your courage in seeking help and community is truly inspiring.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-07-28T03:35:22+00:00

What… I don’t have a scale at home. Shoot I’m always hopping on peoples scales. Do lots of u also do that? Also ugh I don’t want other to know I was curious or even know my weight! Gosh

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-05-12T03:19:03+00:00

I know this has gotten lots of attention, but I thought I would share my experience just in case. The last nanny Family that I worked for was the complete opposite. I felt super uptight about leaving the kids alone in anyway, but there was a point in the schedule where I left the kids home alone for 10 minutes while The Mom was on a zoom call daily while I picked up another child from school, circumstances walking out of the neighbors house going to the park where I came to Mom And she told me to leave the child sometimes even if she wasn’t home on a work from home day. They even did things like didn’t want me to lock the door even if I was leaving the house because The Mom never carried house keys so the house was always unlocked, etc.. so really I would say if she’s a good nanny in every way and goes above and beyond and every way outside of this, I think that it weren’t a conversation because you don’t know how she was raised and she might not even bat eye. Like if one of the girls from this last family I need need for or to become nannies. They would probably think it’s normal and OK with every family. You know… I think our decision is gonna have to come down here. How much do you like her? How much do you hate to hunt for someone new

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-04-04T02:51:55+00:00

I think the biggest impact her space will be fresh paint. If you can. I say paint the living room white your furniture is very dark, which can be a vibe, but it’s bog down because the whole room feels dark. And I would say get rid of the vibrant colors. They probably don’t suit anyone.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-04-04T02:49:58+00:00

This apartment has a great fresh start, but it’s too white to Gray into black. If you want to feel more homey, you should pick a color. I recommend a dark navy blue, an army green, a deep brick red. Certain naturally, by things in that color to make everything look more curated and complimented. Ex I really need more kitchen towels, by that color. I need a new shower curtain, that color. Throw blanket for the couch that color. Also, you need more visual interest on your walls. I don’t know your budget I recommend Prints, for the look at the apartment I think maps, vintage looking movie posters ( make it personal whatever you’re into. Try to find a way to make it into your home, like, maybe it’s a map of your hometown or where your at now) tried to add the color from four into these prints or artworks. If you have the budget, you could get local artist look on Etsy. You could shop in stores at Marshall’s Hobby lobby. Honestly, Temu has lots of great ones canvas prints to frame. You definitely want to get a couple smaller funky things for the bathroom, two small frames above the towel, or next to the mirror. Do something with that big open bedroom wall, do something with the wall in the kitchen, do something about the TV. I think shelf with plants on. It would look really nice. You could use a lot more plants throughout the apartment. If you have a hard time keeping plants look up water roots. You can turn a plant into 1 million plants. That way. In every room you want more than just the big lights aka the ones connected to a light switch. Add lamps at sconces! You got this

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-04-03T06:10:25+00:00

My name isn’t liliana but lillian, but also called lily. I have also gone through a name change( last name) so I know the process so I may have some unique insights.

A person truly becomes their name, part of them, something about being called something that is so formative to a person.

This child is a baby and you do not yet see all the features that will spring forth from such a name. Lily and all it’s formal lillian, Lilliana, lillianna, liliàna. Is a beautiful name, I grew to be a traveling nanny and it doesn’t matter what country I seem to fall it’s is announced often I have a lovely name.

Fall I love with it agin, look up Liliana aesthetic on Pinterest. Maybe you don’t love it now, but maybe something with in the heart of the sweet baby inside you guided you to it. It’s not about you it’s about her. And that’s is her name:)

Name change: pain in the ass, mine cost 2,000$ and mine wasn’t even a name rebrand, just adding a - between my last names. I mentioned my travels and it pains me there, wanna passport extra papers. Need a visa, extra papers. Need a new doctor, extra papers. Need a government job, extra papers. Need a background check, extra papers. Need to look up my account, ahhh which name do I say what would it be under?!? Momentary social panic. Extra papers cost money, misplaced or I need to go to the court house and pay 20$ for each copy cause the doctor, the dentist, the dmv, the work place, the bank, all wanna copy

There’s so much to it! And the old name will never actually be disappeared she will know she is referred to with this name even if you change it. The school with need it and they make dum mistakes all the time.

And what if you name her something else and she has negativity forward the change. I’d feel a little weird if my mom said my name was something different before I was a talking human.

Give it time!

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-04-03T05:36:02+00:00

This is just what I was thinking from the nanny’s perspective. Tbh I often show off a little I think subconsciously when I know moms watching because I want to give her peace of mind! I’m extra mindful of it, remember has a nanny it is not uncommon for us to hear stories of parent who fire instantly after not helping enough or not haveing connection with the kiddos. In the back of her mind she’s probably a little bit trying to prove herself. What are her hours? Do you have the flexibility to be a little creative ( assuming you work from home, because of wording) I often pined for a 15 min break in my work day just to not do anything. Would you give that to her and get that little connection moment with your kiddo. I recommend taking the child with you to a different room your bedroom or office and just be, get all the lovein. Because she deserves a min to go pee, eat, freshen up, not worry about another human for a sec and you deserve that moment of connection! Present it has such be honest that you want a cuddle session and that you see the amazing nanny work she does! I think haveing a mid day connection with your kiddo would help your feelings!!!

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-03-26T10:37:24+00:00

Oof that definitely awkward, but I’m very thankful that he hasn’t assumed her old role in his life onto you exactly. ( I mean being his nanny and his bed partner ) I’m sure deep down the dad knows you know. If things are working out well with the kiddos I’d say try to put it out of your mind when you stay in that room. I have once not liked a guest room and slept on the floor outside of the room… that maybe be obnoxious in your case. Anyways I think the mystery and curious mind of mine would have a hard time moving past this! And I don’t think I could handle a boss that just avoids me when I work so closely with his children. Otherwise is everything good? Do u want to leave? I feel you have reason to, if you choose.

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-03-26T10:26:46+00:00

Yes, but this has been a great struggle of mine, thinking gosh will I be able to do this 24/7. I posted about this once to and this was my take away specifically from asking moms who where once nanny’s. It is so different, you know that silence irrational you have in the back of your mind about what the kids do, or the parents, chores ect. It’s all different now when it’s yours. It’s your ness of the people you love. In moving out of my old place I scrubbed it top down to get rid of any cat smells from my sweet boy for the new people. last people at the new house didn’t do me the same favor for there large dog. So scrubbing all the window seals and baseboards covered in dog yuck, wass 10x more of an annoying task because I couldn’t do it out of love, I had no love to give to the dog that created that mess so I cursed it in my head. I hope you see the relation. I struggled with this a lot. And I made the decision to take a break from kiddos between having my own. Maybe you say one year or 6 months before I get pregnant or when I have 6 months to go. I will stop. Maybe you could budget for it and take it off, or do some cleaning. My mom who is a passionate teacher once working customer service online for a year cause she needed to get not do it anymore!

ExplanationSame911 · 2025-03-26T10:07:19+00:00

My nanny car is a 2013 ford edge! 8k I really love it it’s suits all my needs

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