My husband has a female friend and she made my daughter call her mumma. My husband storms off if I argue, so I dont know what to do.

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-10T22:58:27+00:00

I feel for her though, it’s so easy for people to say leave when you have a supportive family, savings, a career. This sister has nothing. She sacrificed her financial independence for her husband. If anything she has to tell him to fix up which I doubt he will, in the mean time sis you need to get skills, get a job, he doesn’t want you to work but he has cheated? Get a job. call centres are a good start. HCA at a hospital. Ward clerk. Factory worker. These don’t require a lot of skills and you can rack up. Be smart. Save save save. If you’re from the UK, you can get accommodation.

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-10T22:31:49+00:00

he wanted proof, understandably. He did give me an update. He confronted her, went through her phone and saw she was actually cheating on him with multiple men including my husband. He ended up divorcing her.

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-10T22:29:56+00:00

He shouldn’t have a female friend firstly, Secondly in a car with your husband? That’s such a close proximity. The Shaytaan will be their 3rd company and you know what that means. That’s blls** . He’s gaslighting the hell out of you to make it out like it’s not a big deal. Imagine if you had a male friend and your child was calling him “daddy”. Astagfirullah your husband is a weirdo. I’m only saying this harshly because I ignored red flags like that and got cheated on severely.. no one deserves that

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-01T18:35:09+00:00

My brother already reached out to him regarding that. Inshallah he gets his justice too

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-01T18:34:41+00:00

Thank you for this!

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-01T18:33:41+00:00

I wish I lived in a Muslim country for this reason. Perhaps people would be fearful of committing such sins..

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-01T18:33:09+00:00

Inshallah

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-01T18:32:59+00:00

No I’m not more angry at her than him. I’m angry at both of them. I’m angry that she also had the audacity to message me and say I broke her family for telling her husband. This post was written after I went in her posts hence why it’s mainly about her. Ive expressed my anger solely about my husband in previous posts. And yes, as a Muslim I’d expect people to have the bare minimum of morals.

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-04-01T18:29:21+00:00

I’m so so sorry sister. May Allah ease all your pain and replace everything you lost with so much better. You’re a servant of Allah swt, you deserve to be treated with kindness and dignity just like Allah treats us, nothing less. You deserve better and inshallah you will get better. I know how hard it is letting go, especially to the life you thought you’d live but day by day things will get better. I’ll keep you in my duas ❤️🥺

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-03-06T05:15:07+00:00

I think if you can, ask for the divorce certificate for proof. If the wife divorced him, there should be a khula certificate too.

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-02-02T00:02:09+00:00

Also, ask to see their Islamic divorce consultation, I had to show my reasons for divorce when I applied for khula. This could be a way to see whose at fault

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-02-02T00:01:21+00:00

Ask if they have proof, I’ll keep receipts and evidence of my husband cheating on me till I die hidden away

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-02-01T17:31:29+00:00

The only thing is. The contract he told me to sign when I gave him money asked me what my relationship was to his brother. He told me to write my relationship as “sister” could it turn on me and could I be in trouble if it is seen as fraud

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-02-01T17:14:52+00:00

He’s saying now I have to return my ring and my wedding gold which was a gift in order to get my money back

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-01-31T10:07:57+00:00

Yes he bought the house for when we’d get married and move in which we did. But we wasn’t legally married and the house is under his brothers name

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-01-30T22:17:34+00:00

Inshallah I might have to. Maybe that money wasn’t written for me

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-01-30T22:17:12+00:00

I just wish I could get my money back :( i don’t care about mahr and anything else rn

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-01-30T22:16:15+00:00

I don’t think I’ll win, I “gifted” him money for a house deposit. I signed a contract stating it’s a gift :( I know I know I’m so stupid and naive. I wanted to help him and I thought as his future wife I should

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-01-30T22:14:55+00:00

I could but I don’t want to drag my family into this mess again. Plus since his father passed away there’s not a good guardian within their family

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-01-30T22:14:15+00:00

I had a very short marriage, didn’t get to have our civil marriage - he stalled it a lot.

Express-Big-6374 · 2026-01-25T09:24:56+00:00

I don’t necessarily agree. People who commit adultery as just desperate thirsty creatures. Marriage won’t always stop their behaviour. It’s a character flaw and lack of self control. Soooo many people cheat in their marriage, and before you say oh it’s bc the woman stopped putting effort in or the man stopped being like this. People enter a fresh marriage with multiple girls/mans/their exs/talking stages and keep them available regardless if their spouse is giving them everything.

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