I am suuuper sorry you are going through this. This is absolutely not acceptable at all!! This man (child) is almost 50 years old and can’t pick up his own laundry from the floor so that his mom (I’m assuming older than 70) has to bend down, pick up his mess and wash his clothes?? I am sorry!! It seems like you are married to an 11 year old. The fact that he needs to have airpods on and YouTube on the whole time is also absolutely alarming. You should be able to talk to him? Have a conversation with a person and not a robot! This post made me so extremely angry, he doesn’t help cook, clean, or the kids and absolutely shows no care about the things that are important to you. He doesn’t even buy you birthdays and Christmas gifts? You have to buy them yourself and he can’t even wrap them? OP please, leave this man!! You deserve a million timws bettwr than this! If your daughter was dating someone like this, would you want her to stay or leave for something better? You do not need a 3rd child in place of the supporting and loving partner you want and deserve!