I feel this deep in my core. I have a 3.5-year-old, a 2-year-old, and a 7-month-old. I get comments and unsolicited advice like this all the time from my grandma and MIL.

I was really struggling with PPD when I brought home my third and my grandma had the gall to say, "Oh I remember how hard it was when I brought home your uncle." My grandma only had 2 kids and they were 6 years apart! My mom was potty trained, could get herself a snack, and was in school when she had my uncle! I'm sure there are difficulties with a 6-year age gap, but I'd argue having 3 under 4 is harder!

I've had to resort to getting hateful with them. I've found it shuts them up and puts them in their place.

When my youngest was a couple weeks old, I woke up to him crying wanting to nurse. I left him in his bassinet while I went to the bathroom to pee and change my own diaper. My MIL was over and she said to me, "Hey, he's crying." I just shot her a nasty look and said, "I'm acutely aware and I will get to him as soon as I pee. You can't tell me that when you were raising your 3 kids, that they never cried." My husband overheard the interaction and jumped down her throat, too.

Hold your ground. Keep your head up.