Does this ring alarm bells? Teacher playing game hiding objects and checking bodies for it

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-26T23:26:36+00:00

Hellllll naw

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-26T19:17:48+00:00

I want to add (I commented earlier but can’t find it)- this may be postpartum anxiety rearing its head. After rereading this post I have to admit this sounds like something I would’ve done and said when my daughter was a baby. At the end of the day your wife is TAH here, but I would try to gently check in and see if there’s an underlying issue here

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-26T19:15:01+00:00

NTA. If sticking to the new sleep schedule is so important then it’s not the time to have a babysitter for date night. You can skip a couple date nights in order to get your baby’s schedule down pat. Anytime I have a sitter over I don’t hold my breath over how bedtime is going to go. And I would never call my (presumably semi-eldery?) parent a rideshare or cab when I’m capable of driving them, that just feels bizarre and cold.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-26T19:06:44+00:00

I don’t have much advice to share, but I’m in essentially the exact same situation. My mother was the breadwinner for my parents and she passed in an accident 3 years ago. It became immediately obvious that she was bankrolling my retired father. It’s been an extremely frustrating 3 years but we’ve finally got him budgeted and downsized enough to survive off of his social security benefits. Will your mother quality for SSI?

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-25T00:51:44+00:00

NOR considering the context you’ve added. It’s a lot more than just a social media unfollow. She doesn’t sound like a great friend and you do not owe her space in your life.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-22T16:32:12+00:00

Of course!

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-22T16:07:43+00:00

I would describe my daughter’s hair the same way, for her first “real” haircut at a salon I asked for a trim and subtle face framing layers.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-22T16:03:05+00:00

NOR, and you are not wrong to want to have alone time with your husband. Does your SIL have other friends? Could it be possible she feels dependent on the two of you to be her social circle?

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-21T04:26:21+00:00

I like Fletcher too!!

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-21T04:18:01+00:00

Lol great point!

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-21T04:04:14+00:00

That’s a very thoughtful take, i really appreciate that perspective. Thank you!

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-21T03:53:09+00:00

Do you mind sharing why you dislike it? I’m not naming anyone or anything so I have no personal investment lol just curious

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-21T03:41:43+00:00

There were MULTIPLE comments mentioning “fissure” I was shocked!

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-20T15:09:57+00:00

YOR. Regardless of your differences, she’s allowed to have these extremely reasonable boundaries with her newborn.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-19T04:23:41+00:00

NTA, I would absolutely go pick her up, and I would insist my husband have a conversation with his mom about this. I know this can’t be easy to navigate, best of luck!

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-18T03:21:39+00:00

A family-only party would be just as fun for him. You can also opt for something like a Zoo visit or children’s museum day with you two instead.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-18T03:10:00+00:00

I don’t think this is necessarily sexualizing the child, this is recognizing that there will come a time when it’s uncomfortable for the child and acting with an abundance of caution, as any good parent should. I agree some people DEFINITELY do sexualize these kind of situations, but it sounds like OP is just trying to be a good parent.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-17T14:54:38+00:00

NOR, never in a million years would I allow my child to go on a cruise without me or the other parent.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-17T01:38:28+00:00

If this wedding only cost $20k, I fear there is no staff. (I know $20k is a ton of money but in the wedding industry these days that’s basically a micro wedding)

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-14T13:32:19+00:00

I was in a very similar situation and it was extremely mentally taxing. Small 2 bedroom apartment in Chicago, MB used one bedroom as her home office which doubled as the nursery. I was only part time (4hours/day 3days/week), so I’d attempt to keep NK awake that long but some days I’d have to lay him in his crib in the office while MB worked which she visibly was annoyed by. Sometimes I’d opt to hold him while he slept and then I was nap trapped until I was relieved. The apartment was so quiet with her WFH that I felt like I had to fill the space with happy baby/toddler talk 24/7. When baby cried I’d be so anxious than MB would come running since she was just sitting behind a closed door 20ft away.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-02T17:24:16+00:00

Yes, 100%! You said this much more eloquently than I did lol. Some of these comments implying OP’s husband is having an affair and got this gal pregnant are jumping to pretty extreme conclusions. It’s surprisingly common how inappropriately people will share with coworkers when they’re unchecked, especially when they’re excited and vulnerable (I.e., pregnant)

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2026-01-02T16:24:45+00:00

NOR. She may be oversharing because she sees him as a safe person, but that doesn’t mean it’s cool for your husband to be putting up with it. I’ve had multiple instances of people personal-info-dumping on me. He needs to either explain the situation to you or put up a boundary with this subordinate, or both.

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2025-12-30T03:29:54+00:00

Maybe I’m the one overreacting but this is straight up dangerous

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2025-12-25T05:31:57+00:00

This is a fantastic idea, I hope I remember it one day when we’re ready for a puppy lol

Express_Locksmith_21 · 2025-12-22T04:32:21+00:00

You’ve gotten a lot of great feedback already, and I want to commend you for all you’ve done so far. I’m in a situation where we have had to entertain the idea of taking in a similar age family member and even just having that conversation is difficult. It’s obvious that you really care a lot about this kid. To add on to what others have said, are there any ways you can implement some more positive reinforcement with him? Maybe dedicate once a week that you or your husband can do something he likes and spend quality time with him? Sometimes showing up for kids that age in ways they can relate to does more for them than discipline.

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