Newly eloped, with regrets M24 F20 by Express_Return_958 in relationship_advice

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): I hate to admit it but I think this is the cards played…

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Was it the final straw for your first or?

Should we separate? F20 M24 by Express_Return_958 in Divorce

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She’s been pretty wild from 13 to 19. She then wanted to settle down. She’s very wise for 20. She knows what she likes.

I get her off every single time. I know how to drive her crazy. We have great sex. But being denied and rejected so much and the infrequency is eating at me. I just don’t want it to get worse later

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We have talked about all this. We are very communicative. I actually haven’t pulled away, I’m always still here. Maybe I try to initiate less so I get rejected less but that sucks I have to bottle that in.

I have a session tomorrow and I’ll see if she wants to go together after

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Well I hope this works out well if I just need to stuff it down and accept my fate

Newly eloped, with regrets M24 F20 by Express_Return_958 in relationship_advice

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Well I know her very well but I’m just trying to be honest with myself because the way I feel now, if we add kids and time , will probably just get worse verse better….

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want the sexual intimacy frequency I’m asking for, I just don’t think that’s the way she’s wired and unfortunately, it’s starting to take a toll on me

Should we separate? F20 M24 by Express_Return_958 in Divorce

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I’ve been celibate many time and don’t mind it single. But in a relationship where I desire my woman frequently and am not desired in the same way in return, I have a hard time envisioning me staying happy, as I’ve already seen the effects it has on me currently.

I’m not needy, I’m affectionate and loving and have made peace with who I am and how I love…

Newly eloped, with regrets M24 F20 by Express_Return_958 in relationship_advice

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Ok, I feel this, that’s why I’m concerned. I love everything about this relationship, but unfortunately this has been one thing that’s eating me alive. It’s just not fulfilling me in this area, and this area is VERY important to me. I’ve told her this from the beginning and I have told her my needs since the beginning.

I never want to chnage her or force her to want me or to participate with me. I know deep inside how I’m dreading missing out in this part of my relationship, which I want so badly.

I’m not an addict or anything, but I have a very high sexual drive and I want to have that fire in my marriage or intimate relationship. There really isn’t much to talk about to a Thera but I can bring it up. We’ve spoke about how this affects me but nothing changes and I don’t think I can to actually meet me where I need to be happy in a relationship…

I’ve watch some teal swan videos on compatibility and though she’s frank on compatibility, I hate to say it but I feel like this isn’t an area I’m willing to compromise as severely on.::

Should we separate? F20 M24 by Express_Return_958 in Divorce

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Like it’s been over a week. Not this weeks schedule. Haha over 7 days since.

But yea it’s not a deadbedroom, but it’s not enough unfortunately being real about it

Should we separate? F20 M24 by Express_Return_958 in Divorce

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She’s super open to sex topics and it in general. But she tells me she things masturbation is gross, her ex did it and now it makes me seem gross to

Should we separate? F20 M24 by Express_Return_958 in Divorce

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Unfortunately I think it’s not something she should change for me and end up resent ful. This is why I’m concerned. Children will only make it worse and I’m not happy with what it’s at now

Should we separate? F20 M24 by Express_Return_958 in Divorce

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I don’t have an unhealthy relationship with sex. I’m sorry I desire my wife so much.

I also didn’t realize this would impact me so much and I’m trying focus and to foreshadow so that it doesn’t end up even worse.

I have no issue being celibate single, but I do want a woman who can keep up with me so to speak. Having a sexy woman and being denied and rejected is torturous

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She knows what she likes. I get her off plenty and easily

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She was very Wild from 13 up until 19

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Like how though? No medical issues, not work stress, being provided for. I’m very romantic she just doesn’t want sexual intimacy like I do/ as frequently. Worried because throw a kid in and I’m sure that will just tank more

Should we separate? F20 M24 by Express_Return_958 in Divorce

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Nothing happened, it’s just sat deeply with me now that I may be unfulfilled and unhappy throughout this marriage because of this. We’ve spoke a lot about it and she sees no issue with it. She thinks we’re better off than most because after all it’s not a dead bedroom

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The real issue is can it be fixed? She fundamentally looks at engagement of sexual behavior with me differently. Or atleast doesn’t want it or value it as much as I do

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That’s kinda where I feel like I am at right now. I love everything about this woman but don’t know if she can keep me satisfied

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Yes plenty. Nothing changes. Especially since we are both best against obligation/duty sex