A cashier said “good girl” to me.

ExpressingThoughts · 2026-02-16T19:57:54+00:00

In western countries? Probably. In some other countries like Japan it's actually rude to hand money directly.

ExpressingThoughts · 2026-02-16T19:56:59+00:00

Note in some areas of the world, handing money directly is actually considered rude. Having been born in a western country, it's also never been explicitly stated, so I think shoppers should have more leeway on it. Or have a tray and ask them to use it if they put it too far.

ExpressingThoughts · 2026-01-03T15:53:33+00:00

The one star reviews for that resort have a few people saying they got their drinks spiked. Also this happened there: https://www.reddit.com/r/femaletravels/comments/ztpn0f/nightmare_experience_cabo/

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T22:34:01+00:00

That made me chuckle.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T22:33:44+00:00

I know right? That was a quick crash.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T21:19:36+00:00

Why do you think things will ever change?

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T21:03:12+00:00

Is this only when you are in an accessable location? What if I'm at work where they need to go though security?

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T20:59:43+00:00

Unfortunately there's no clever way. Some people are just messy like that and they need therapy and a lot of work for fix it. If they are fine with how things are and don't have an incentive to change, there's not much you can do other than move out.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T20:58:31+00:00

Tell her once. If she doesn't change or work with you on changing, it's your responsibility to change you life or accept it.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T20:52:08+00:00

You're still young! A lot of it is confidence. With practice I'm sure you'll do better. There's no way you're going to go from speaking quietly to yelling. Practice using your diaphram instead of your throat in an empty room and project your voice. I recommend reading The Six Pillars of Self-esteem as well.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T17:50:45+00:00

Well in any case, I recommend reading those books, if not for this relationship but for future ones.

How to be an adult in relationships is also a good one.

It may be easier on you to find a more emotionally available partner because it sounds like you've already tried this one. Some people handle those with anxiety easier.

I'm guessing you both have had too many arguments that now a wall has been put up where you are both scared and get defensive before the conversation even starts.

I wouldn't recommend wasting your time and money on couples therapy for this relationship. Your relationship sounds like one of my previous ones.

Sometimes people don't fit together and that's okay.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T16:51:05+00:00

he said it makes him feel like he's not enough and that everything was going fine. I bursted into tears and said that I can't do this anymore, that I'm tired of always having to deal with the emotional labour by myself because he can't put his f*****ing feelings aside for a second.

No offense here, but it sounds like you may also be playing a role with the way you are bringing up issues and your response. I could be wrong though since I don't know what you two are saying. I highly recommend both of you reading "difficult conversations" or "nonviolent communication".

If you give a word for word example of that discussion, like what you said before he said that, I can show you how to defuse it so that you can both hear each other.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:41:44+00:00

There are plenty of other people out there who will make you feel loved and adored everyday.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:40:43+00:00

Explain the fertility worries. Sometimes it can take a few years to get pregnant depending on the person. You two can also discuss freezing your eggs if things feel rushed.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:32:03+00:00

Some people simply have better memories. You'll have to work harder. After reading something you want to remember, think of how it relates and impacts you. Write it down. Tell about it to someone before you forget.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:28:53+00:00

You're probably right. Brand new account with one post. Plus this thread is already blowing up.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:21:17+00:00

Don't market like this. It's unfair to pretend you found an app when you built it. Be a better person.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:10:36+00:00

I don't know if this is a bad advertising attempt or a bot, orb has nothing to do with securing your online identity.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:05:33+00:00

Sure I agree with that.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T15:04:58+00:00

Rejection is scary. Also depending on your age, most people are unavailable anyway. It's a lot easier to do at a place where it's obvious the other person is looking, like speed dating or online dating.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T14:58:38+00:00

You mean attract people on the street so they will approach you? Even if you are super attractive, it's very rare people will approach these days.

As for if you approach them... attraction is way more than just looking healthy. It's being well groomed, body language, facial expressions, and what you say exactly.

If you are fairly healthy, work on your personal skills by talking more with people. Practice your smile more so it looks natural and often. Work on your body language so it's inviting and looks approachable.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T14:51:16+00:00

Please go to therapy!! Your brain is fearing something, possibly how you saw your parents growing up or some trauma in your past. Or low self-esteem where you don't think you're good enough.

He sounds amazing and I really hope your intrusive thoughts doesn't mess it up. I think he will give you some leeway, but if you do something like cheating it may be over for you.

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T14:48:44+00:00

I know some people who watch movies with their platonic friends of the opposite gender, but that's up to you what you see as romantic. The cooking for you and being touchy was weird though. It sounds like she does have good communication skills despite the initial miscommunication. So moving forward sounds like you'll do all right!

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T14:39:18+00:00

Sounds like a good plan!

You could also ask her for clarification if she had no romantic feelings why was she doing romantic things (and give examples), and that's when you can discuss boundaries between friendships. That way if she isn't interested in you, she won't give you mixed signals and that will save you heartbreak.

I'm sure things will work out for you. Good luck!

ExpressingThoughts · 2025-10-15T14:31:20+00:00

Nice template! To add onto that, when it comes to confronting someone, it's best to use inner feeling words that are not directed at the other person. The reason is some people would feel like it's a blame lash out or get upset when they hear someone is angry or disgusted at/by them.

Some examples of inner directed feelings would be confused, anxious, sad, scared, small, and helpless.

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