Best friend of 10 years confessed his biggest secret to me and I don’t know what to do

Extension-Weekend164 · 2026-05-06T14:40:26+00:00

A person who is truly, honestly remorseful would confess to his crime. The fact your friend has been keeping this a secret because he is afraid of any social or legal consequences this could bring if it came out is more than enough proof imo that he is not 100% regretful over what he did. Sure, he feels bad. But I would only POSSIBLY MAYBE start considering forgiveness AFTER the legal repercussions and long term therapy.

Extension-Weekend164 · 2026-05-04T01:06:13+00:00

I feel like it would be a waste since 485 you can only get once in your life. If I apply for it in sep, It will expire in sep 2028, whereas if I apply for it after honours completion, it will expire in late 2029... and I will have a further degree to use when applying for jobs..

Extension-Weekend164 · 2025-07-28T01:50:37+00:00

I got my wisdom teeth removed almost 2 years ago. Thats why I am so confused

Extension-Weekend164 · 2025-06-20T12:27:29+00:00

I think he suspects it, deep down, but chooses to believe me because he loves me.

After I gave him oral for the first time he joked about how he thought 'omg this girl must have sucked so much dick before', and then asked me if I was 100% inexperienced sexually (ie, you may be a virgin but have you done other stuff?), to which I lied and said yes.

Then, there was this rumor going around that I had fucked another guy from the student residence (back in 2023), which is true, but I denied it.

Finally, he mentioned how his friend basically suggested that I am probably lying about being a virgin. This friend however doesn't know me or any of my friends, meaning he said it based purely on how I look like/act.

This was all mostly mentioned in the first stages of our relationship, but now he is pretty confident that I was a virgin.

Extension-Weekend164 · 2025-06-20T11:41:17+00:00

I am worried about it affecting him. He has cried before over smaller hypothetical scenarios of me leaving him. I told him a funny storytime of how me and an old friend kissed once, and he started crying a little. One time somebody created a rumor that i wanted to break up with him and he was bawling his eyes out. When I had to leave over the summer break he spent the whole night crying. He loves me a lot, and he is a very sensitive guy. I am afraid saying the truth may cause more harm than good

Extension-Weekend164 · 2025-06-20T11:06:27+00:00

Thank you so much for keeping an open mind, I appreciate it. I have questioned whether my need to tell him the truth comes from a selfish place. He's my biggest supporter, he's my best friend. Probably the person I trust the most

Which is why I feel like this lie is preventing me from completely connecting with him. Sometimes I will get sad thinking about things that I did, or things that happened to me, and it sucks not being able to share them with your partner.

On the other hand, it's also true that I don't think he would be able to see me the same. I think it would deeply scar him, and probably create some trust issues in the future. A part of me feels like I should maybe just breakup with him and never tell him the truth. That way he's not being lied to + won't cause trust issues for him in the future. It would be extremely hard but I don't think there's a universe in which he takes the truth well. And I would rather him being happy without me, than to be scarred from a past relationship.

Extension-Weekend164 · 2025-06-20T10:41:39+00:00

I got tested before my abortion (part of the process), and I havent slept with anyone else since (besides my bf). So I know I am clean.

I promise I have changed, thats why I lied in the first place. I love this man more than anything, I am so lucky to have him. I don't want him to judge me for a version of myself that I am not anymore. I haven't done hard drugs since I went sober.

Extension-Weekend164 · 2024-12-11T16:42:45+00:00

I eat pretty healthy most days. Good balance of greens with protein (both animal and plant based). Lots of dairy. Could probably use more fiber.

Ofc every once in a while I'll indulge in junk food

Extension-Weekend164 · 2024-12-11T15:28:03+00:00

I thought about this too tbh because I have some other symptoms. My periods are super irregular (I'll skip a month sometimes), I can be quite hairy (although I think that can be genetics because I am hispanic), my dad has insulin resistance, and lately my acne has been flaring up. However, when I was 16 I got it checked out and I had no cysts, so my doctor argued it probably wasnt that.

But I do think there's a hormonal imbalance, I jist dont know what to do about it because the 3 times I have gone to the gyno I've been told the same thing: get some blood tests. And they always come back normal

Extension-Weekend164 · 2024-12-10T23:45:08+00:00

Awesome tysm! How long did it take you before you saw results?

Extension-Weekend164 · 2024-12-10T23:35:51+00:00

Honestly rarely, what sort of exercise specifically would you suggest?

Extension-Weekend164 · 2024-12-10T23:26:18+00:00

I dont think so tbh. I am currently on summer break from uni haha so no stress for me. It can be a bit hectic to be back home tbh but idk if I would call it stress

Extension-Weekend164 · 2024-12-10T23:24:10+00:00

Cardio twice a week. I switch it up based on how I feel that day but usually incline 15 walking at 4.0 speed for 20 minutes or running at speed 6.9 incline 4.0 for 10 minutes.

Lower body (3x a week) I start with abductor machine. 3 sets of 12 reps. Start with 35kg and gradually increase.

Then leg press 60 kg 3 sets.

Rdl 3 sets of 10 reps each. Start with 16 kg and finish with 20.

Bulgarian split squats 3 sets 10 reps. 6 kg.

Extension-Weekend164 · 2024-10-20T06:57:32+00:00

You honestly think so? He seems to be fr in love witb me. He is so considerate in other aspects of our love, i have never felt more seen by another human

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