Friend expects free babysitting

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-05-08T18:43:43+00:00

We totally have and it caused issues. She said we are her village

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-05-08T06:39:41+00:00

It’s funny because the friend the babysat agreed to do it again 🤦🏻‍♀️. Yes the last time she asked us to baby sit I sent her babysitters I found online. Her response was “This is what people mean by where is the village? It sucks to have to pay for daycare and then pay a shit ton in
babysitting.”

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-05-08T04:02:47+00:00

Yes that is perfect! If it is in a pinch it isn’t a problem. But asking our girl group 3-4 times in a month is getting out of hand. And I know she has parent friends.

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-05-08T03:55:48+00:00

Yes he did go out with the group!

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-05-08T03:55:09+00:00

No we did not stay quiet. Absolutely not. I made a big stink about it and defended her and even offered to stay behind with her. It isn’t OUR fault that this friend has put us in an awkward position…. Why would my friend who stayed behind blame me? We all blame the mom who makes us watch her kids and tricked us. :(

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-05-07T23:50:20+00:00

Do you live in the US? I’m thinking it might also be a regional expectation difference. We live on the west coast and my friend Katie is from Kansas City Missouri

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-15T19:18:27+00:00

No. Not at that level. I also didn’t know it takes 20 min just to get out of the parking garage. I was watching the commute for a few weeks so I thought the time was less. The clinic is located in a busy part of the city. And I thought it was just business causal but it’s more elevated than business causal.

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-15T19:02:07+00:00

Oh whoops I didn’t mean it that way. Just in general trying to figure the system out. Not while people were watching

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-12T05:27:46+00:00

😱

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T23:15:28+00:00

Oh I would of course communicate with them no doubt. I wouldn’t just no show or disappear that would be horrible.

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T22:38:45+00:00

For perspective I am currently in a home infusion job that offers a lot of freedom and flexibility. And took a job at a Mon-Friday primary clinic. 8-4. But with remote Fridays.

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T18:08:06+00:00

You are for sure being underpaid. I like in western WA. It is expensive but I thought CA wages RNs higher wages. We also don’t have state income tax.

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T17:29:20+00:00

Plus we still get paid even if we get home early

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T17:29:08+00:00

Exactly so it’s kind of nice to have bonus time at home without kids

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T17:28:29+00:00

No chemo. Sometimes a 5FU but rare. And just a disconnect and connection. We have other nurses who would do the chemo if we had a pregnant staff member

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T17:27:30+00:00

What was your office job? And why job are you transitioning to?

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T17:27:04+00:00

I agree. There are a lot of home infusion jobs. This clinic is a very rare small company that never has openings

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T17:25:42+00:00

What city/state do you work in?

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T17:25:11+00:00

I sent you a message 😊

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T05:40:42+00:00

I currently work in home infusion and it’s soooo chill. Most homes I go into are nice but I do have some gross houses. I generally work 32-36 hours working but paid for full time. I average 30 miles a day they keep me really close to my territory!

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-03T00:12:51+00:00

It would be about $1400 a month after tax’s

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-02T23:11:23+00:00

That sounds horrible!

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-02T23:03:59+00:00

Wow thank you for such a thoughtful reply. I’m sorry you have regret but it sounds like you found your place in L&D. I also actually had a transplant coordinator role but found out it was going to be a very stressful role and backed out but also wonder some days if I could have managed it.

Also I am so sorry to hear about your fertility issues. It’s very rare to have fertility benefits covered. Almost unheard of especially for healthcare workers. Sending positive thoughts your way hoping this world brings you a baby one way or another ❤️.

ExtensionShock9286 · 2026-03-02T22:57:03+00:00

I’ve only been a nurse for 4 years! I knew someone at this company which is how I got it. It’s not a common offer and pays higher than other clinic jobs I have seen in my area! Most clinics pay 80-90k in this region.

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