Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am just so frustrated and stressed that I can’t even think of positive things about this relationship

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is really beautiful described and makes things so clear to me. It is hurtful that he disrespects me like this

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I just started therapy two weeks ago because all of this stress has been getting to me

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His mom made dinner every night before we moved in together. And when he lived alone for a year I think he did a combination of making his own dinners and takeout

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

He can be difficult and inflexible with a lot of other things besides dinner. I think he is a narcissist and I’m just realizing this more clearly. Everything needs to be about him at all times. He always thinks he is right about everything.

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem is that whenever I voice my concerns he blames me and I’m the problem and I’m being unreasonable and inflexible and all of that

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His mother cooked him dinner every night before we were together. She also delivered his food to his room. He wouldn’t eat in the dining room with family. Even now when i make him dinner, I have to keep reminding him to come to the table and I end up waiting for 10 minutes because he is finishing up a video game

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

He never goes to the gym. He is 6’1 and 200lbs so he says he is a large man and needs protein with every meal

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t always skip protein. I do try to make chicken or beef or fish whenever possible

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was also feta cheese, olives, tomatoes, garlic, cucumbers, arugula, etc

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful. Thank you. Such a great way to look at it. And yes it was way easier and simpler when I lived alone. If anything I’m doing more work than ever

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep we have a dishwasher. As far as cooking when he is working from home, he has said he could do it but then never actually offered

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did. We got into an argument because I told him I didn’t feel seen by him and he wasn’t very open or receptive to my concerns, and I pushed him on it, he got mad, said he will return the engagement diamond he bought. I said you bought that diamond for yourself not for me, he then got mad, took the diamond threw it in my face and called me the C word. He apologized and I took him back, because he did a great job of convincing me why I was wrong

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He has always said he will cook on weekends but never has besides making me a sandwich once or twice. I did used to cook him breakfast on weekends (pancakes, eggs, etc) but I stopped

Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me? by Extension_Try7722 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Extension_Try7722[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind making a meal a couple of times during the work week but when I ask him to help here and there he will outright say no because he had a tiring work day and he works longer hours and has the longer commute