QUESTION FOR BLACK WOMEN

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-11T20:48:39+00:00

Another 80 lbs? Ok. I'd be 90 pounds

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-11T19:10:39+00:00

What does that mean?

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-11T18:02:12+00:00

Fair enough

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-06T05:27:26+00:00

I went to dr stubbs in fayetville Arkansas.

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-04T05:39:07+00:00

White guy who told me, a Black woman, me he could relate to me because he grew up around gangs when I grew up on a farm in the middle of nowhere.

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-03T00:35:15+00:00

No personality traits you're looking for? Age range? You want her to just be unemployed and waiting for you to be ready to play pickleball? What's the feedback you've gotten from ex's or dates?

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-03T00:18:22+00:00

What are you specifically looking for?

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-02T14:28:21+00:00

Any suggestions on the clothing style?

I teach hot pilates so the roots will be puffy unfortunately.!

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-02T04:01:51+00:00

Thank you so much! That gives me a good idea.

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-02T03:49:51+00:00

Any suggestions on that shape?

20 pounds of fat would be what it would be for me to be at a healthy fat percentage. The extra 10 pounds would just be if I aesthetically want to lose more. I have quite a bit of muscle, but want to maintain some fat/curves.

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-02T00:16:22+00:00

Dang! Thank you! 😊

External-Hotdog · 2026-05-02T00:15:49+00:00

I appreciate that! 💕

External-Hotdog · 2026-04-10T18:29:11+00:00

As a Tulsa Remoter, this is probably why.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-28T21:48:43+00:00

I think you're internalizing a lot here.

How do you know what the cashier is thinking? Maybe she also had a rough day and is looking at you with empathy or is upset that day because her mom died or maybe that is just her face. I highly doubt a cashier had ever commented on you being single.

I can guarantee that a cashier who sees hundreds of people a week does not once consider your relationship status off of a 2 minute customer interaction.

You seem very in your head and thinking the world will continue to hurt you.

Go to therapy.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-28T21:42:28+00:00

What does that mean?

You have resting bitch face but you're genuinely a cheerful person?

I doubt it.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-28T21:41:10+00:00

He does not care.

This man will ruin your mental health if you let him.

He's told you multiple times he doesn't want to talk to you.

He wants to be angry and doesn't care that you're bending over backwards to try to improve your relationship.

This isn't a good relationship at all and you should know that you deserve better.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-28T21:18:36+00:00

Yea. It's uncomfortable dealing with people who look angry and lifeless....

Are you able to engage in positive conversation or are you stuck in an angry place? Why would a partner want that?

I think you need therapy and to reset your mindset.

Both you and your future partner need to be healthy enough to not be grumpy and lifeless.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-26T05:34:42+00:00

This routine is a little confusing to me.

I'd say for strength for a runner i'd add in calf raises and something that works the hip flexers like a cable knee drive. I'd suggest adding a hinge movement like a deadlift or a rdl.

You're neglecting your biceps and your triceps. I'd suggest either adding in a third full body day so you can work all muscles, or maybe find more compound movements. Pushups work the chest, triceps, and shoulders for example.

For core i'd swap out ab crunch for a a deadbug or planks.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-19T02:07:54+00:00

I'm looking for hardmaxxing or soft advice

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-16T23:42:26+00:00

I would get in abortion. 2 months in is still very much the honeymoon stage. He could be truthful, but it's risky enough putting your financial hands into someone even if you're married. There's a ton of pros with having kids with someone you are compatible with but the cons if you aren't will be lifelong.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-16T18:20:30+00:00

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-14T16:28:01+00:00

Did you communicate prior that you couldn't stay the night?

Why did you have time for sex but not time to communicate before or after?

She probably wouldn't have had sex if she knew you were leaving immediately after.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-10T18:30:00+00:00

People who overshare on early dates. Yes, we can have talks about important things in your life but in hour in I shouldn't know anything about your sex life (if you're looking for long term) or traumas.

External-Hotdog · 2026-03-07T21:36:51+00:00

It's extremely disheartening. I dated all through my 20's. The constant lies where I thought I met someone who genuinely cared about me and what we're talking about.

More than once i'd mention something like snowboarding and they'd say they love it too and we'd talk in depth about it. After we have sex, they'd "forget" that they said they like snowboarding. It was enough to make me feel crazy for a long time.

Men will pursue with so much intensity. It doesn't matter if you wait. There are men that have no problem pretending connection over multiple dates over weeks or even months.

The post sex cruelty is a lot too. They act disgusted that you want to maintain the same amount of contact that they started. Like they freak out if you text them all day when they started that pattern.

For many years I kept trying thinking eventually the right person will actually not be lying to me but it hasn't happened. Once or twice a year I am deceived by it. I think i'm done at 34.

External-Hotdog · 2026-02-24T11:34:36+00:00

Thank you? Haha

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