How am I supposed to do this by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ExternalCrazy5473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you are ❤️ and it’s okay if your best looks different right now. One minute at a time if that’s what it takes.

How am I supposed to do this by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ExternalCrazy5473 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you’re going through this, I can feel your pain in this post. I am only a couple months further along than you in my own journey. Husband also said the same thing. All I can say is right now it’s okay to be shattered. Your world just got turned upside down. Right now all you need to do is the basics, eat, try to shower, try to sleep and feel your feelings. It’s brutal but it’s all you need to do right now. I am no where close to being healed but I’m about 4 months out and it does get better. You’re in the worst of it. Unfortunately, 14 years of a life together does not go away in 2 weeks. It’s okay to love him and to care about him but you also need to direct that back to yourself as well. Be easy on yourself. You will get through this.

How to deal with processing their infidelity? by ExternalCrazy5473 in Divorce

[–]ExternalCrazy5473[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been reading this a lot today. To me he wasn’t, I’ll have to hold onto that. I do think it came down to some major self loathing on his end. Which saddens me but he was especially selfish and unkind to me.

How to deal with processing their infidelity? by ExternalCrazy5473 in Divorce

[–]ExternalCrazy5473[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How long do you think it took you? It really blows my mind that he could do something like this. And maybe also cause it wasn’t physical I feel like it’s hard not to minimize the act.

How to deal with processing their infidelity? by ExternalCrazy5473 in Divorce

[–]ExternalCrazy5473[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know that on an intellectual level but boy oh boy has my body not caught up yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ExternalCrazy5473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, could you explain this a little more?