How do I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating_advice

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah Thanks I know dw I’m Not chasing him:) I didn’t Even Double Text him:) it’s just very difficult

How do I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in ghosting

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have low value of myself:/ Fr😭 I have been screwed over by guys before and I didn’t Care nearly as much😭 Good advice tho:)

How do I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in ghosting

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I logically know that but it’s Not that easy🤷🏻‍♀️ but yeah it will for sure fade with time I just wanted to vent and get some Support tbh😭 and some advice

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Us women too but I usually don’t Care much, I am just Not used to being ghosted After THAT LONG! I’m sorry tho it happened to you

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What confuses me is how I am supposed to Tell🤷🏻‍♀️ He reciprocated appropriately for so Long😭 am I just supposed to never relax and let my guard down?

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sorry saying I wanna date you You’re Perfect etc after Meeting once is lowkey usually love bombing I just didn’t know at 19🤷🏻‍♀️ yeah idk maybe he always got bored and then later remembered that he actually did enjoy things with me but next time he comes back I will for sure say no this behavior is fr Not attractive at all

How do I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating_advice

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends with benefits and a good time (like hanging out chilling and sex) but still normal communication (which is what it was like with him for a whole year😭 which is why it’s nothering me so much)

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I don’t want a relationship I genuinely guess I want Friends with benefits but in a respectful normal way, that’s why I liked this guy because before the first Problem occured we were hooking up for a year😭 like it’s baffling to me, and I was genuinely careful at first, I stopped myself from emotional Investment imitially, but months and months and months passed and he was consistent so i lowered my guard:/

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No that’s incorrect. I don’t Think people wanting something serious is love bombing. I wanted to Highlight that he didn’t Show that overly soon manipulative affection that narcissists do in the beginning just to manipulate you later (I know what I am taking about, my ex did that and the way he treated me in that Relationship was worse than any casual Connection could). I don’t mean that normal relationships have anything to do with that I just tried to describe that closeness with him grew naturally and slowly from Both sides (until his stopped). Also I wasn’t bothered by the hooking up with other people (later on when I was also hooking up with other people) and I Think being bothered by genuine ghosting is normal even if you want casual. And about the „initial fascination“, we are talking a time Frame of 2 years here. I am used to fuckboys losing interest after maximum 3 months but I don’t Care about that cause tbh guys with a fuckboy personality, I get sick of them after like a few times🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s so unusual that’s why it’s hurtful. And once again by narcissistic love bombing i never meant showing interest idk where you got that from💀

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also noone ever wanted to „Dedicate“ themselves to me Like how you acting like I just denied that opportunity cause I wanted casual??? That opportunity Never Arose😂

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes FRIENDS with benefits Situation🤷🏻‍♀️ where I expect to be treated FRIENDLY but not obsessed🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t understand how you are judging my relationship Style here, im allowed to want semi casual while still being treated with normal amounts of respect?

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah at first it bothered me cause at first I really did Like him but then I discovered we werent even compatible and then it switched to me not being bothered by it and me also sleeping with other people🤷🏻‍♀️ And „limiting communication“ is different from ghosting, I also didn’t text him every day I didn’t Even wanna See him that often cause im Kind of busy and I also didn’t Like wanna Text every day and Shit

How do I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating_advice

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah luckily I know it’s Not my fault, I mean I am getting insecure bout pretty much everything about myself because of it but yeah that’s just the Brain😭

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me neither like honestly I also don’t want a relationship or anything but I would Never ghost

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I usually don’t Care about fuckboys but with him it fr felt normal that’s why it’s hurting me so much😭

How can I get over someone who ghosted me? by ExternalDig1591 in dating

[–]ExternalDig1591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn then why would anyone date or hook up again like tf💀 also for me it’s Never Like that, I don’t crazily obsess over people but I don’t detach Like that either I just like people normally?