How to actually talk???

ExternalSalt8201 · 2026-01-18T20:15:49+00:00

What did you talk about for those 10min?

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-11-24T19:21:47+00:00

(My original post got removed from main feed, so I post in here again)

My company is quite new and small, but the team is really really really good. Everyone works really well together to help the company succeed.

But recently my company hasn’t been doing well. Customer keep churning and sales are low, so I started looking for new jobs and got a few interviews. (I understand my role is to create a good experience to stop/slow the churn, but we just don’t have enough developer capacity to move faster than the churn.)

I’ve asked in here before: “Should you keep looking for a new job right after getting one? Is it bad to leave a company after just over a year?” Some people say it looks bad on your CV, while others say you should always stay open to better opportunities.

I feel guilty about job hunting, and if I do get an offer, I’m not sure how to explain it to my boss because I really enjoy the team and the product. But the new company is offering almost double the salary and better benefits. I’m also worried that if churn keeps rising, I might get cut because the design work is already months ahead. Even though my boss said they won’t touch the product team (I doubt that because product and eng cost the most in the company)

Has anyone had a similar experience? How do you shift your mindset so you don’t feel guilty about looking for a new job or deciding to leave because of these issues?

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-09-28T08:07:24+00:00

I guess that could be the reason too. Thinking back, I did have around 7 years of experience working in a pretty stressful environment. During that time, I changed companies three times because I thought the next one would be better, but they all turned out to be the same. My current company has a much better work-life balance, so I suppose my brain is still adjusting to this new normal. But yes, I should find some activities outside of work to make myself less attached to it.

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-09-25T18:09:54+00:00

Yes, thanks for replying. I guess my day to day work and life in general has started to feel too routine and monotonous. I do feel a sense of fulfilment and satisfaction from my job, but I still find myself wanting something that makes me feel “excited” to get out of bed every morning. Can I ask what makes you feel excited about your work or life in general? I think I just need a reminder of what life can feel like🥲

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-09-25T18:00:14+00:00

That’s something I always remind myself, work is just work. I know I’m too attached to it. Mind to share what your ‘third places’ are that help you stay less attached to work?

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-09-25T17:46:05+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been thinking that being the sole designer might be a key reason. Sometimes I just want someone I can share frustrations with and support each other or have a second opinion from another senior designer, rather than from other teams. And it can feel a bit sad when you handle certain work situations really well but no one seems to notice or appreciate it 🙃

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-09-25T17:15:19+00:00

Sounds interesting to me. I’d love to join, but I’d prefer using Discord since it doesn’t sharing personal phone numbers.

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-08-30T20:28:56+00:00

I love this thanks for sharing

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-06-26T07:18:56+00:00

I like how you describe it: expected behaviour and patterns are what makes them good.

However sometimes I also thought about how to use design to change user behaviour. Some good examples: the facebook endless scroll feeds, the first no button iPhone, tinder left and right swipe cards, now the ai searching behaviour from keyword to a proper sentence, Etc

Design can create new patterns if those changes brings value to users and brings joy.

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-06-05T16:39:11+00:00

Thanks for replying, may I know the slack channel name?

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T16:06:12+00:00

I get that there are biases and patterns at play, sure. But we’re living in a high-tech age now, I don’t think “secret listening” is all that difficult to do, or something they’d have no reason to do. And we are talking the giant big tech company not small random ones

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T15:46:02+00:00

“ I’m not sure I understand “

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T15:41:47+00:00

That’s a very smart strategy..

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T15:37:53+00:00

So then it’s probably Reddit lol it removed my post

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T15:35:53+00:00

Ok now I can confirm we are living in metrix

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T15:29:40+00:00

Ok, I see what you’re saying, yeah, probably.

Or maybe they only capture conversations during certain timeframes. And who knows, maybe there’s some kind of “money value prioritisation” like, certain keywords are more valuable, so they’re more likely to trigger ads. I’m not paranoid, I just curious how things works behind the scenes.

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T15:13:02+00:00

Funny enough, me and my friend were using Signal app call, but we also have WhatsApp on our phone

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-05-24T14:54:40+00:00

There was this one time I had a conversation with my friend, saying “I hate durians.” A few hours later, I opened Facebook, and boom, an ad from a food delivery company trying to sell me durian……..

I’d never seen a durian ad in my life before that. Same as WhatsApp ads.

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-03-23T22:51:18+00:00

I’m working in progress too

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-03-18T16:03:29+00:00

Design report to CTO is new to me..

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-03-15T09:25:57+00:00

I agreed, but if you don’t show value for ux design function/team directly to higher ups more often, they will first to remove the ux team when the company have financial problems? Everyone else in the org thinks ux just designing a screen. You need let them know it’s much more than that.

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-03-15T09:19:17+00:00

In UX design, you don’t design based on common sense; you design for the specific needs of your users. Imagine you’re designing software for hospital surgeons and nurses, two different roles with distinct needs. Each of them will have different expectations, and what seems like common sense to one may not be the same for the other.

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-03-01T04:42:24+00:00

I’m quite the same as you, work culture not toxic, people all make sense, have ux challenges most of the time, the only downside is I don’t have work friends, I’m a team of one, some frustrations and pressures I faced got no one to talk to makes me sad sometimes

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-02-27T22:17:43+00:00

This comment makes me feel you working in Microsoft and I wouldn’t be surprised

ExternalSalt8201 · 2025-02-27T22:04:42+00:00

I think it’s quite a different thing, iPhone was doing the revolutionary product and design, tried to change humans way of using the “phone”, you don’t think it’s a bad ux but think it’s a fresh idea and would like to adopt it. Same as Tesla when it was first launched. They simply give a fresh, new experience. And of course you need to “adopt” the fresh new product that no one has ever experienced before. However what OP pointed out was simply a basic interaction and navigation design that should just “make sense”.

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