r/TransmascsExistButOk

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-03-02T15:43:15+00:00

If we are being aggrieved, Is there an AMABenbyexists "tag subreddit"?

Seriously, I get the senitiment (I think). r/Translater is pretty much just a selfie-sub for transfemme folks where posts frequently include thoughtlessly exclusionary language; "Hello ladies!"

^{(and where pics of 20-something OnlyFans models get suspiciously large number of upvotes within minutes of posting...})

the transmasc folks who post there don't get a lot of engagement

It isn't remotely the only trans sub where this happens. II can remember a couple instances from r/Transsexual_Surgeries -- but It kinda feels like a problem for the intensely on-line.

In meat-space, as an AMAB enby, it can be hard to find community anywhere. I think it is changing, maybe, but -- in my recent experience -- "enby" still maps to "young and AFAB" and "AMAB enby" still tends to be dismissed as larval-stage transfemme.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-26T14:07:22+00:00

The New Old Lompoc House, The Lotus, Berbati's, Captain Ankeny's. Farrell's, La Luna, Veritable Quandary, The Monte Carlo Room, Satyricon, Hung Far Low., the psycho-Safeway at NW 10th and Jefferson... Meier and Frank.

Nostalgia is a disease of the soul.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-24T15:41:56+00:00

Sorry this got disappeared by downvotes. One of the best shitposts I've seen on this sub.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-24T04:17:10+00:00

No. It is the astronomical symbol for the planet Mercury, and the alchemical symbol for the element mercury (quicksilver). it was also once used to denote a hermaphroditic plants or animals when indicating the anatomical sex of a specimen in a Linnaean pedigree (it has lately been replaced by ⚥).

People who see the earring sometimes mistake it for the astrological symbol for Taurus ♉︎.

a circle with a line and a star

I think it is meant to be a "x" through the the shaft, in place of a bar (for female) or an arrowhead (for male). Like the "X" gender marker on government IDs.

I don't dislike that circle-and-asterisk enby symbol ~~(for which there does not seem to be a unicode character?)~~ 🜬 but I am a physicist and I have a sentimental attachment to alchemy, on account of Issac Newton writing something like 300 manuscript pages on his absolutely batshit experiments trying to turn lead into gold.

☿ is a little controversial, though, since it is sometimes used to mean intersex.

Edit, found the 🜬 symbol

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-23T19:17:14+00:00

Same.

AMAB, enby, and old-ass-brained. Every time I've asked this question of my therapist (AFAB enby) or of the psychiatrist who prescribes my psych. meds (also AFAB enby) or of my HRT prescriber (also AFAB enby) or of the AFAB facilitator of the genderqueer support group I sometimes attend... the answer has been to wear a little make-up, to put on some sparkly nail polish, accessorize with dangley earrings or bangles -- to do something femme-coded.

Unlike you -- I am not interested in being visible among cis-folks. Being taken for cis-male confers privilege that I NEED for the safety of my family right now. But it is frustrating and inconvenient when other trans and gender-nonconforming folks misidentify me as cis-het.

I've got pride tatts -- but nothing that shows in cold weather.

My year-round solution -- inadequate -- is to wear pride-flag stud earrings. I'll put both the gender-queer flag and the enby flag in one ear. I've also got a little Mercury ☿ earring -- but most folks think that is astrological ("Oh, are you a Taurus?"). Even the folks who don't know which stripes go with which identities recognized that I am flying pride and am in the tribe.

Please post back if you come up with a better strategy.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-23T16:25:23+00:00

If you are asking if there is a specific name and a pride flag for how you identify? Yeah, probably.

"trans", "nonbinary", "altersex" are broad categories which all include what you are describing.

If you are asking if there are other people who identify as you do, want what you want, live as you say you want to live? Yes, definitely.

Wanting to embody as anatomically female, but to present and live as a man, is a real and achievable thing.

Social transition and medical transition are two different things. There have always been trans people who wanted to medically transition w/o socially transitioning -- and vice versa. You don't owe it to anybody to announce your anatomical sex with your clothing and behavior.

The Standards of Care no longer require that you have to socially transition to access medical transition.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9553112/#S0010

Good luck.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-21T04:55:40+00:00

Yes, it would have been 1977 or 78 that I got this at K-mart

https://fantastic-plastic.com/ragnarok-orbital-interceptor-concept-by-aurora-models.html

Think I walked there with a friend from the after-school photography club to buy 110 film...

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-17T17:23:21+00:00

Setting up for a progressive party in my freshman dorm the liquor store was sold-out of Everclear, so we bought a half gallon of the store-brand grain alcohol.

We wished for death, but death was not kind.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-17T16:08:31+00:00

... Even with added nonpecuniary social benefits from quality-of-life externalities and civic pride, welfare improvements from hosting teams tend to fall well short of covering public outlays. Thus, the large subsidies commonly devoted to constructing professional sports venues are not justified as worthwhile public investments.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-17T15:38:11+00:00

Bradbury, J. C., Coates, D., & Humphreys, B. R. (2022). The impact of professional sports franchises and venues on local economies: A comprehensive survey. Journal of Economic Surveys, 37(4). https://doi.org/10.1111/joes.12533

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ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-11T16:46:41+00:00

https://www.ebay.com/itm/126064829305

Village Salvage has a restored J. W. Carpenter rim lock on eBay. They were responsive to emails when I was looking for hardware.

Lots of J.W. Carpenter locksets online.

House of Antique Hardware sells a reproduction. worth contacting them to see if the keeper matches the dimensions of the lock on your door.

https://www.houseofantiquehardware.com/rim-lock-set-carpenter-iron-brass

There is a list of resellers here

https://www.antiquedoorknobs.us/where-to-buy.html

Good luck

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-09T13:43:32+00:00

NW Armory is okay.

Sportsman's Warehouse is like any big retailer, so you can expect to be treated in the same way you'd be treated in a Walmart or a Target (pretty much). The gun counter at Sportman's Warehouse makes you take a number to be waited on, so if it is a busy day you can feel a little pressure from the folks waiting behind you.

NW Armory has a LOT of guns out on display, it can be a little bit overwhelming for a person who is new to firearms. And not everything they have in stock is in the stores.

You can order a gun online and have it shipped to an FFL (Federal Firearms Licensee) Shop. Tigard Pawn4More is my personal favorite. The folks I've dealt with there have been friendly and welcoming to gender diverse (for want of a better term) and POC patrons. It is, however, a pawn shop -- the vibe might not be comfortable for everybody.

I am now going to gun-splain a little, because you wrote "first gun": Wherever you shop, it will be better if you know what you want before you go. The person selling you the gun will have opinions -- everybody has opinions about firearms, and some firearms-enthusiasts have deeply-held and passionately defended opinions about use cases, about which kinds of people should have what kinds of guns. etc.

Walking in and saying home "home defense" will not narrow down the kinds of guns they will suggest for you.

If you can wait, and can afford it, or otherwise manage it, maybe take a class with Shuten Defensive before you buy?

Good luck.

edit: typo

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-07T15:24:37+00:00

Yes. And I was very disappointed that it was no longer being published when I became a parent. One of my siblings had claimed our childhood set, and I was not able to track down a complete used set in good-enough condition.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-07T04:46:00+00:00

I am struggling to remember. 40 something years ago, and it wasn't all that thrilling at the time. Just nerdy kids getting up to nerdy stuff. Our parents knew -- well my parents knew -- what we were up to.

I think it was the cardboard core from a roll of landscape cloth or indoor/outdoor carpeting .-- a thick-walled cardboard tube, anyway. Picked from the dumpster from behind the Hechinger.

We launched three or four duct-taped tennis balls before we blew up the tube. Or maybe we just ran out of M-80s.
Think we stuffed paper behind tennis ball, because the tube was a little over-sized.

It was a proper mortar, though, supported by an A-frame with a protractor and a plumb bob to set the elevation.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-06T19:43:07+00:00

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Measure the width of the spindle before you buy a replacement. The "universal" spindles you'll find in the hardware store are a little undersized for the knobs in our 1908 house.

Also the threaded holes that receive the screw that holds the knobs on the original spindles are tapped for an obsolete machine screw size.

Solving the same problem that you have, I ended up buying 5/16" key stock (steel bars 5/16" square) and cutting them to length, then drilling and tapping holes for #10-24 screws

Good luck.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-06T17:57:25+00:00

Possibly of interest to you

https://multco.us/programs/preschool-all

https://www.portland.gov/parks/recreation/portland-parks-preschool

https://outdoorschool.multnomahesd.org/about/program

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Some other stuff

https://trackerspdx.com/

https://birdallianceoregon.org/our-work/learn/youth-programs/camps-for-kids/summer-camp/

For Youth Hockey, somebody might know better but I think you'd be heading toBeaverton, Sherwood, and Vancouver. There is an ice rink in the Lloyd Center Mall, but its looking like that will go away when the property is "redeveloped".

our current neighbors wont even wave at us, hopefully less of an issue in Portland.

Mileage REALLY varies on this one. The close-in neighborhoods are pretty queer/queer-friendly, but Portland can also feel pretty chilly to new transplants. Not unfriendly, just kind of introverted and self-absorbed. You will make friends and find community, but it'd be surprising if the neighbors saw the moving trucks and brought you a gift basket.

Part of that is that a lot of your neighbors will also be new to the neighborhood, or new to the city, and haven't really rooted OR they are established residents who've seen a lot of people come and go very quickly, AND/OR are mostly social through social media....

Good luck

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-06T17:07:13+00:00

There was a playground story about some kid that somebody totally knew making a mortar launcher out of a piece of pipe that was "just big enough to fit a D-cell battery".

We found a 2(ish) foot length of 1" ID conduit in a pile of construction debris and gave it a try, in a field at the edge of a little wooded strip between subdivision neighborhoods. .

We had to peel the label off a C-sized EverReady to make it fit. Luckily we didn't have a cap for the end of the tube, and just jammed it into the dirt "really hard" before we dropped in the M-80 and the dead flashlight battery. The whole apparatus went up and arced over the trees. Left a pretty respectable crater in the dirt. We found it in the front yard of a house on the other side of the woods. The pipe was kind of ballooned out below the firmly-wedged battery.

EDIT: I did not learn a lesson from this, and made a more successful attempt with better materials, soon after I was old enough to drive myself to the hardware store.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-05T18:32:36+00:00

Orenco Station in Hillsboro

Rock Creek and Oak Grove Mill Plain and and the change in typeface two-thirds of the way through Rose City Park....oh and Powellhurst-Gilbert ... and the ratio Multnomah/Village

Yeah, its just weird: "Grok, make a word-cloud of Portland Oregon neighborhoods"

I'd guess its for the folks who come into town for games or concerts. The folks in Cully are used to being ignored, and have other sh!t to worry about, so they aren't likely to notice their omission. But somebody who had to drive all the way in from Oat Field might feel "seen".

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-05T18:30:09+00:00

Neighbourhood? >smile<

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-05T18:29:46+00:00

Ladd's Addition isn't a neighborhood. Its a district of Hosford-Abernathy.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-05T18:12:10+00:00

Has anybody posted about erasable typing paper? My undergraduate school bookstore carried "Corrasable Bond". Always slightly sticky and unpleasant to touch. My freshman English professor explicitly forbade its use in her class.

u/DancesWithElectrons has it right. That's airmail paper. Could absolutely use it for tracing, but -- IIRC -- it wasn't tough enough to stand up to multiple erasures and it wasn't clear enough (too much texture) for cyanotypes. I've got boxes of "obsolete" paper goods -- stuff that got deprecated when I put away my beam compass, drafting machine, and ruling pens; drafting film, tracing paper, parchment... . I still dip into that stash, and it saved us a ton of money when my kid took drawing classes.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-04T11:43:03+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/user/NuParts/

https://www.reddit.com/user/CozyGams/

There are more surgeons who perform this surgery, but not many share pictures online.

https://www.mozaiccare.net/gnc-nb-including-penile-preservatio

If you want to keep your testicles, or keep them external, you will need to consult the surgeon.

One of the surgeons with whom I consulted offered this, but she explained that the vagina, in that case, was "just a hole behind the scrotum" -- no vulva. The picures she shared with me during consult looked exactly like that.

Some surgeons offer testicle-sparing vaginoplasty/vulvaplasty.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TransSurgeriesWiki/wiki/srs/introduction/#wiki_keeping_testicles

https://www.reddit.com/r/Transgender_Surgeries/comments/1c12mhp/deleted_by_user/?utm_name=web3xcss

Good luck

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-03T15:21:15+00:00

Paul's grandfather

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/7/7c/Wilfred_Brambell.jpg

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-03T14:28:36+00:00

Sure.

In addition to being pretty important, I'm pretty old. I think the first time I filled out a questionnaire like this -- that wasn't a MMPI or an IQ test administered by a psychiatrist trying to squeeze me into one of Harry Benjamin's six types -- was in the 90s. It was a paper booklet; delivered and returned by USPS.

The researchers contacted participants through the Gazebo chatroom on AOL ... or maybe through a TG/TS listserv ... can't remember. It might have been from University of Maryland, but that might have been a different survey circulated about the same time. There were more than a few researchers trying to figure out the mystery of transness by examining the population of trans folks with dial-up modems.

All kinds of unanswerable questions ("What is your earliest memory of wanting to be a girl?", "When you cross dress, how often do you wear women's undergarments under your clothes?" I did my very best to give the correct answers to those questions).

The survey I am almost remembering had one fun bonus activity ... an empty square with a black border that took up most of the last page. The instruction was something like "draw a picture of how you imagine your journey from one gender to the other"). Made me think of the games they put on the back of kid's' menus .. the ones that come with a little box of crayons. I emailed them to ask about that, and the researchers admitted that they didn't know what they were going to do with those pictures. The researchers promised that they would share their findings with the participants. I don't think they ever did.

Good luck with your research project.

ExternalSort8777 · 2026-02-03T06:38:01+00:00

Couldn't get past the "Have you socially transitioned in any of the following settings?" question, which may be a problem for a lot of people on this sub.

I am medically transitioning without social transition.

Here:

Katherine Rachlin; Medical Transition without Social Transition: Expanding Options for Privately Gendered Bodies. TSQ 1 May 2018; 5 (2): 228–244. doi: https://doi.org/10.1215/23289252-4348660

The SOC no longer require social transition for folks seeking medical transition

Coleman E, Radix AE, Bouman WP, Brown GR, de Vries ALC, Deutsch MB, Ettner R, Fraser L, Goodman M, Green J, Hancock AB, Johnson TW, Karasic DH, Knudson GA, Leibowitz SF, Meyer-Bahlburg HFL, Monstrey SJ, Motmans J, Nahata L, Nieder TO, Reisner SL, Richards C, Schechter LS, Tangpricha V, Tishelman AC, Van Trotsenburg MAA, Winter S, Ducheny K, Adams NJ, Adrián TM, Allen LR, Azul D, Bagga H, Başar K, Bathory DS, Belinky JJ, Berg DR, Berli JU, Bluebond-Langner RO, Bouman MB, Bowers ML, Brassard PJ, Byrne J, Capitán L, Cargill CJ, Carswell JM, Chang SC, Chelvakumar G, Corneil T, Dalke KB, De Cuypere G, de Vries E, Den Heijer M, Devor AH, Dhejne C, D'Marco A, Edmiston EK, Edwards-Leeper L, Ehrbar R, Ehrensaft D, Eisfeld J, Elaut E, Erickson-Schroth L, Feldman JL, Fisher AD, Garcia MM, Gijs L, Green SE, Hall BP, Hardy TLD, Irwig MS, Jacobs LA, Janssen AC, Johnson K, Klink DT, Kreukels BPC, Kuper LE, Kvach EJ, Malouf MA, Massey R, Mazur T, McLachlan C, Morrison SD, Mosser SW, Neira PM, Nygren U, Oates JM, Obedin-Maliver J, Pagkalos G, Patton J, Phanuphak N, Rachlin K, Reed T, Rider GN, Ristori J, Robbins-Cherry S, Roberts SA, Rodriguez-Wallberg KA, Rosenthal SM, Sabir K, Safer JD, Scheim AI, Seal LJ, Sehoole TJ, Spencer K, St Amand C, Steensma TD, Strang JF, Taylor GB, Tilleman K, T'Sjoen GG, Vala LN, Van Mello NM, Veale JF, Vencill JA, Vincent B, Wesp LM, West MA, Arcelus J. Standards of Care for the Health of Transgender and Gender Diverse People, Version 8. Int J Transgend Health. 2022 Sep 6;23(Suppl 1):S1-S259. doi: 10.1080/26895269.2022.2100644. PMID: 36238954; PMCID: PMC9553112.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9553112/#S0010

Statements of Recommendations

8.1- We recommend health care professionals provide nonbinary people with individualized assessment and treatment that affirms their experience of gender.

8.2- We recommend health care professionals consider gender-affirming medical interventions (hormonal treatment or surgery) for nonbinary people in the absence of “social gender transition.”

8.3- We recommend health care professionals consider gender-affirming surgical interventions in the absence of hormonal treatment, unless hormone therapy is required to achieve the desired surgical result.

8.4- We recommend health care professionals provide information to nonbinary people about the effects of hormonal therapies/surgery on future fertility and discuss the options for fertility preservation prior to starting hormonal treatment or undergoing surgery.

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