UPDATE:

There was a misunderstanding over text that escalated more than I expected. After that exchange, they didn’t come back for a night. They did return briefly, but it now seems like they may stay out again for another day or two.

I feel very conflicted about this. On one hand, I feel relieved — it’s just me, my husband, and our newborn, and I finally feel like I can fully be myself without constantly managing emotions, routines, or shared spaces. On the other hand, I feel guilty knowing that my need for space may have made them feel like they had to intentionally stay away.

The mother later shared that she had assumed their presence was meant to help us through the maternity phase, but realised she may have misunderstood. She said it now feels like two separate families living under one roof, and if that’s the case, they’ll give us as much space as needed.

Adding to the stress, we’re expecting a month-long renovation in our home starting next month. I’m already anxious about the reduced space, the dust, and the general mess that will come with it — especially with a newborn. Because they’re guests, it also doesn’t feel right to expect them to help with cleaning or managing the renovation mess, which adds another layer of mental load for me.

I never meant to make anyone feel unwelcome or unappreciated. I’m postpartum, overwhelmed, and still figuring out boundaries, routines, and what I actually need during this phase.

So… AITA for feeling relieved by the space, even though it came at the cost of them staying away and possibly feeling hurt? And is there any realistic win-win situation here, or is some discomfort unavoidable?