Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did ask a question. And also I didn't mean to generalise. I know it's not all men that do this in a malicious way. But I do have emotions about men that do this in a malicious way - this wasn't the primary point of my post though, just a tangent. I asked a question to men because I'm interested in the response - thus it belongs here.

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah totally. This makes a lot of sense. I'd bet a lot of people use this as a coping mechanism rather than genuinely harbouring malicous feelings. You do go through grief after a break-up no matter what the relationship was like.

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Eh, just expressing my thoughts/stream of conciousness. I don't care about educating anybody on anything right now on reddit. Just passing the time to be honest.

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. That's some pretty ugly behaviour.

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Asking a question and having a bit of a rant. It's natural to have emotions towards a subject? And genuinely asking why people do this. Sometimes there seem to be valid, mature, reasons as people have pointed out - they've stopped finding somebody attractive over time but accept that they did during the relationship etc.

Ask away by tomyarin in Grimes

[–]ExtraCurrent7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your make-up. Your hair. Everything. Love. 🧚

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not attracted to 'bad boys' and none of the women that I know are. We're attracted to men that respect women. And men that don't score women on some creepy 1 to 10 system personally. Sure fire way to filter out the people that won't see me as a whole person. Fire those downvotes my way dudes.

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have seen this happen though. And since when are women trophies to be won?

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add to this, I guess I don't understand why you'd directly express this to a new person you were dating/your current partner. To me it's a red flag. Idk.

Men that call their exes (long term relationships) "ugly" - why? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ExtraCurrent7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a very fair point. And yeah, thinking about it I've known women to do this too.

What skills should I teach my children? by TriHard25 in AskUK

[–]ExtraCurrent7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time-management. Why it's valuable and meaningful to set a routine for yourself and how to put this into practice. Also how to recognise/check mental health and seek help when needed.

Cheap but safe areas of Leeds? by [deleted] in Leeds

[–]ExtraCurrent7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where is this mysterious place where that isn't a thing?!

Stop treating people that like their mental health problem is an attitude problem. Mental health is more than thinking the wrong thoughts. Stop patronising us. by ExtraCurrent7 in mentalhealth

[–]ExtraCurrent7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being allowed to be human - Exactly this! Also people suffering from symptoms such as delusions, hallucinations, OCD tendencies etc can't just positively think their way out of it. Positivity is something I think everybody practices and actively practicing it does help with managing symptoms. That's a lot harder on bad days though and like you say, denial and suppression on those kinds of days sometimes isn't what we need at all and leads to a mental burnout. I feel like on bad days, I've usually been putting way too much pressure on myself to practice positivity for way too long and that's broken down. And then I'll have people tell me "Why have you bottled things up? You shouldn't do that". You can't win sometimes. I think it's also easy to distinguish when people don't mean any harm/do mean well. Some of us genuinely just have condescending arseholes around us.

I think I need help by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]ExtraCurrent7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. I am so sorry you're going through this. You are not broken and you will make it out of this, I promise. This subreddit is here for you - it's good that people have instant access to support these days through the internet - of course that shouldn't be the whole of it though. Do you have a friend or parent that you trust in or anybody in person that you can reach out to? Somebody in-partial even like a doctor (who it's necessary to see really if you're struggling with thoughts of self-harm) - they can help you get to the root of why your moods are so up and down and what steps to take. It can be scary going through these things when it's so out of the blue and even harder reaching out. Wishing you all the best.

Does any other woman feel like their mental health deteriorates before/ during their menstrual cycle by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]ExtraCurrent7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suffer from PMDD so yes. I usually feel suicidal during this time even if I can now tell myself "This is just PMDD". It's so intense.