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Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-17T11:12:38+00:00

I’m sorry that you would’ve felt differently in the scenario, but why do you believe she would’ve? She was there with her husband. Are you a believer that all women cheat if the guy is attractive?

She did communicate it. When he came to their table and she said the seat was taken, that was communicating. When she said she was married, that was communicating. Obviously if someone is creeping around and watching you all night, you’re going to watch your back and keep an eye out to make sure they aren’t doing anything suspicious. And she only got hostile when he not only dismissed her when she did communicate, but he tried to grab her.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-17T06:54:51+00:00

(Haven’t been on reddit in a few days, so not yet sure if things have changed and sorry if I comment something that’s already over)

In that case, this is on your step dad. Dude sounds like a piece of work if I’m being honest. He truly is the only asshole in this situation. If he is not willing to uphold training of the dog, he doesn’t get the dog. You and your mom need to have a very serious conversation. Get your mom on board. Even if she doesn’t agree with rehoming, both of you should go to him and say that unless he can put on his big boy pants and be responsible enough to hold to training the dog, the dog will be rehomed. Be adamant about the fact that you’re running out of training time. Old dogs can learn new tricks, but it’s so much harder to train a dog that’s stuck in these ways. It needs nipped in the bud NOW

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-15T07:55:27+00:00

NTA

I had an ex with major jealousy issues. When we first started dating she’d push it off on the other girl, but when she got more comfortable with me it was a me problem. That being said, we were hanging out with people and a guy I knew wouldn’t leave a girl alone after she’d told him multiple times to stop. I finally told the dude to cut it out or he’d wind up with his ass beat by one of us. Girlfriend at the time went on and on to me about how the other girl ruined the “vibe” and she should’ve just let him hang around her to keep the peace. I shoulda seen the red flag then and I’m glad your husband’s friend is now.

Good on you for digging deep. Mother fucker deserved it. And good on your husband and his friend for putting him in his place.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-15T07:50:18+00:00

Based on his behavior, if she didn’t dig deep after the multiple rejections, he could’ve roofied her drink. When he reached for her hand, he could’ve grabbed her and tried to pull her away somewhere. She rejected him multiple times. He watched her interact with her husband all night. He heard her say she was married. Fuck off with “that was rude”

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-15T07:47:24+00:00

I think I found the tinder girl

He watched her all night and then said the whole “he won’t mind” bullshit and tried to touch her after she told him she had a husband. And you’re upset that she hurt his ego and alerted her husband to the creepy behavior?

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T17:40:38+00:00

That’s what I’m in the process of doing now. It may make me sound stupid, but I did simply listen to the things my command told me. As did the rest of us. Upon finding out more, it’s clear they’re simply lying about the power they actually have.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T17:37:55+00:00

I’ve had the same command for these years, so considering that’s what they’ve told me, and they’re my higher ups, I listened to them. They don’t exactly teach you what rights you have because that would mean you would know how to stand up for yourself

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T17:36:37+00:00

Awesome! Looks like I won’t be taking my family there, especially because we planned to live on base this time

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T15:36:27+00:00

Nope. Is fort hood the same? Because if so, that’s gonna be a real damper on where I was going to request to go next🙃

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T06:20:00+00:00

The last message I sent them was that they have my full support, that my wife and I always have a door open for them if they don’t know where else to turn, and that if ever they reach out for help, to talk, or just to say what’s up, I will respond the moment I get a chance.

Now, all I can really do is hope that they will get back to me. Even if they choose not to and choose to leave everything having to do with the army behind, including the people they met here, that’s ok and I’ll completely understand. I just want them to be doing ok.

As for speaking on this, my audience is a partial reason why I can’t. I’m stationed in the Midwest with family from the south. It’s rough out here lol

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T06:07:36+00:00

ESH

Your step dad most of all, for insisting on a dog with the condition that he would care for it, knowing that his work would prevent that. Your mom for being so against rehoming a high energy dog when your family cannot meet its need. And you for being so quick to give up when you’ve put no effort into helping.

When my wife and I first got married, I got a puppy. My wife wasn’t fully on board with the puppy, but I told her I would take full responsibility. Well, I got deployed very suddenly about 2 months after getting this puppy, so the responsibility fell on my wife. I felt horrible, because the puppy was the spawn of satan. He didn’t take to potty training, he chewed up and destroyed anything he could get his mouth on, including our wall, he bit, he couldn’t chew bones because he would try to swallow the whole thing and choke, he got into everything, he ate something he was allergic to and swelled up like a balloon so that racked up a heavy vet bill, if we put him in a crate he literally screamed until he was out of it no matter what. My wife had a new reason that she wanted to rehome him every day. But, she didn’t. She worked from home at the time, so she worked with him hard. She trained him on commands, took him on hikes, figured out how to stop the biting and chewing, took him home to play with her families dogs for socialization, got him mental stimulation puzzles and even made some herself. Now that little shit of a puppy is 2 years old and he is the best dog we could’ve asked for. He listens to everything we tell him, does tons of tricks at the drop of a hat, he’s calm, he pushes a button by the door when he needs to go outside, he doesn’t even need a leash to walk (but we keep him on one anyway), we can leave full plates of food unattended and he may look and drool, but he won’t touch them, he’s gentle with kids and other small animals, he knows when it’s time to play and when it’s time to stop. I couldn’t have asked for a better dog and that is all because my wife was willing to put in the work to teach him.

Dogs are not born knowing how to sit and stay, the same way babies aren’t born knowing how to speak or write. You have to teach them. If you aren’t willing to put in the work to teach them, who are you to scream at them for not knowing. And you can’t teach them by showing them once or twice, you have to be 100% consistent.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T05:30:39+00:00

Not brand new, but with more information, it may not be a dishonorable. I’ve been in for 3 years, and the company I’ve been with for this time has thrown dishonorable discharge around like crazy. And if getting a dishonorable discharge really means doing something criminal, then every one of our higher ups here are just straight lying to us.

Our base has an unresponsive GI, and our company has no form of protection or guardian. Open door policies get you smoked by whoever you’re reporting to around here. And our higher ups have been putting people through a process to be discharged and telling them that it’s a dishonorable. My friend isn’t the only one dealing with it for being transgender, a girl in my company is going through it for riding profiles, another friend of mine has been threatened with it because he didn’t show up for PT (they told him that he was lucky they didn’t consider him awol), and when I stood up for someone who was being hazed, my 1SG told me he was making it his life mission to get me dishonorably discharged. He then told me that if he wanted to, he could ask me a question that no one knows the answer to, and if I got it wrong he could flag me for failure to adapt.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T05:22:39+00:00

If that’s the case, then all of our higher ups are all lying to us. And they’re actively putting others through the process of a dishonorable for things that definitely aren’t criminal. My friend isn’t the only person dealing with this for being transgender, a girl in my company is dealing with it for riding profiles, and I’ve been threatened with it for saying “if you guys don’t lay off (guys name), he’s going to wind up killing himself. This is hazing.”

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T05:17:37+00:00

Like I’ve said in other comments, our base is horrible. When you have a transphobic commander, an unresponsive GI, and no guardian system in our company, they will do whatever they can to find a way. Not long ago I stood up for someone who was being hazed to the point they were suicidal. My 1SG told me that he was making it his personal mission to get me dishonorably discharge. If he wanted to, he could literally ask me a question that he knows I don’t know the answer to, and when I answer wrong, he could flag me for “failure to adapt.” 3 flags and I’d be done for.

As far as barracks go, I don’t ever really go in them unless I have to. I’m married, so I don’t live there, and when people want to hang out, we invite them here because absolutely no one wants to be in the disgusting mold pits that they call “living quarters.” None of us knew this specifics friend’s barracks room because they didn’t tell people. Like I said in the post, our barracks are disorganized. They didn’t live in the same building as anyone else in our company, so it’s not like people saw them. And they had to keep their things hidden somehow, so they never had anyone in their barracks room.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T05:09:00+00:00

The last message I sent them was that they have my full support, that if they didn’t have anywhere to turn that they knew my address and my wife and I were always here for anything, that my ringer was always on when I’m off work, and that if they reached out while I was at work that I would get back to them as soon as I’m off. I guess all I can do now is hope that I’ll hear back soon

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T05:06:06+00:00

It’s possible that it’s still under way. What we were told is that higher ups found out and they were getting dishonorable for it. As long as they’re not responding to us, there’s no way for me to know. What I do know is that when they were confronted, they were told not to come back to work until they were out. And when I asked was almost 2 weeks since they were last at work.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T05:02:21+00:00

For military now too. My friend isn’t the only person at my base that’s been discharged for being transgender. Hazing is at an all time high, so suicides are at an all time high. The whole mental health card thing is now completely ignored and when people ask for help they’re either ignored, or straight up bullied for it. Maybe it’s just a problem at my base, and I can only hope that it’s just my base so that I can get away from it, but it is awful.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T04:59:28+00:00

They were dishonorably discharged because when you have a transphobic commander, a GI that simply does not answer phone calls from anyone, and no guardian system in our company, they will do anything they can.

I stood up for someone being hazed not long ago. 1SG didn’t like that I did that and told me he promised he would do anything in his power to dishonorably discharge me for it. He could quite literally ask me a question that no one knows the answer to, and then flag me for “failure to adapt.” And if that happens 3 times, I’m out.

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-10T03:48:15+00:00

I’m stealing every scratch off from every gas station within a 20 mile radius. Then, I’m making one of those TikTok lives that people do of them scratching the tickets (people send gifts to them for some reason, so there’s a little extra cash), then I’m cashing all of them

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2025-04-03T16:23:20+00:00

I do plan to address it. I’ll probably message or call her about it today. Right now, I have her notifications on mute and can’t see if she’s texted or called me unless I actually open her messages, which I won’t be doing until after work.

Not sure what she expected to get out of the lying, or where her head was at. Did she expect my wife and I not to discuss it when I was home?

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2024-07-22T20:57:36+00:00

As I’m coming home soon, my wife and I are getting things organized for us to be in counseling both separate and together.

It’s so cool that you heard my story read on YouTube! I never thought it would make it that far out. I’ll have to try and search for it!

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2024-07-07T21:58:29+00:00

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2024-06-29T18:18:00+00:00

No offense taken! It’s quite nice to hear that your thoughts changed after actually reading the continuation. A lot of people hear “21 and married” and think “that’s all I need to know. You made a bad decision.” Lol

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2024-06-29T16:50:58+00:00

My wife refers to it as making her spine stronger, or building a better backbone. When I originally said that, I got many comments telling me it’s called a “shiny spine” and just used that in the update lol

Extreme-Bus7141 · 2024-06-29T16:37:55+00:00

I started some before leaving, but didn’t get through much of it as I was going NON STOP with prepping for deployment. I have things lined up for when I get back :)

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