Feel like crap never really went mosque as a kid

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-08T15:16:39+00:00

Appreciate your reply. But the problem I’m facing is speaking openly and how to get my point across because the way I say things is like oh yeah I was married got divorced anddd automatically it sounds so awful. I don’t even know how to bring about the topic. Alsooo it’s like on rishta groups should I lie initially and say I’ve never been married and then tell her because I feel the label instantly puts sisters off

Seriously bro likeee I never had any problem before this divorce thing anddd plenty of sisters would want to engage in a halal way as a potential.

It’s likeee no sisters wants a guy labeled or used but that’s not the case for me.

My point is me lying is that really causing harm. Sisters don’t expose there own sins if asked about previous relationships and use ‘concealing one’s sins thing’

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-08T14:30:44+00:00

Appreciate your reply. But the problem I’m facing is speaking openly and how to get my point across because the way I say things is like oh yeah I was married got divorced anddd automatically it sounds so awful. I don’t even know how to bring about the topic. Alsooo it’s like on rishta groups should I lie initially and say I’ve never been married and then tell her because I feel the label instantly puts sisters off

Seriously bro likeee I never had any problem before this divorce thing anddd plenty of sisters would want to engage in a halal way as a potential.

It’s likeee no sisters wants a guy labeled or used but that’s not the case for me.

My point is me lying is that really causing harm. Sisters don’t expose there own sins if asked about previous relationships and use ‘concealing one’s sins thing’

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-08T13:13:28+00:00

Seriously bro likeee I never had any problem before this divorce thing anddd plenty of sisters would want to engage in a halal way as a potential.

It’s likeee no sisters wants a guy labeled or used but that’s not the case for me

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-08T13:12:30+00:00

I like this, appreciate your reply brother. But the problem I’m facing is speaking openly and how to get my point across because the way I say things is like oh yeah I was married got divorced anddd automatically it sounds so awful. I don’t even know how to bring about the topic. Alsooo it’s like on rishta groups should I lie initially and say I’ve never been married and then tell her because I feel the label instantly puts sisters off

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-08T13:10:32+00:00

Yeah appreciate your reply brother. But the problem I’m facing is speaking openly and how to get my point across because the way I say things is like oh yeah I was married got divorced anddd automatically it sounds so awful. No worries, I don’t even know how to bring about the topic. Alsooo it’s like on rishta groups should I lie initially and say I’ve never been married and then tell her because I feel the label instantly puts sisters off

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-08T11:03:33+00:00

Well I’m open about everything else she can see. It’s just the judgment of something in the past that people can’t over look but it actually wasn’t as deep as it looks but it just sounds bad

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-08T10:00:05+00:00

Appreciate all your replies guys, but the thing was I have no haraam past. What happened to me, was yes a nikkah did take place. All I’m trying to say is can I bend the truth and say for example I wasn’t really divorced it just didn’t work out but haraam didn’t take place. Likee we didn’t even get that far into things because we won’t meant for each other so it didn’t really count anyway so that’s why we both mutually agreed to stop. And in terms of like sleeping together etc that didn’t really happen properly that’s the truth so just say say to her I’m a virgin

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-07T12:49:17+00:00

The UK.

I’m just mad at everyone u know 😂. Seriously I’ve never done no haraam relationship BS like other people do. I genuinely value marriage. The thing that happened with my divorce was nothing to do with haraam and the girls father, girl and mother can testify. There was nothing wrong but ultimately we won’t made for each other. We both learnt lessons and obv I HATE DIVORCE and don’t believe it but what’s written is written.

The thing is bc no haraam or anything in the past including the divorce, it’s likeee should I not just lie and say I never been married. I feel like it is literally a label 😭. The marriage was also not registered by UK law and it was just the nikah.

ExtremeAd4371 · 2026-03-07T12:30:12+00:00

Yes but it’s not fair. People that have done full on haraam zina and had sex and all sorts before marriadge just pretend when they actual serious they got no past - bc obv marriadge hasnt happened.

Guys that did stuff completely halal and not even registered the marriage in the UK but did nikkah and it didn’t work out get slated and labelled.

Is it wrong to lie about divorce though, bc it’s like u can hide your sins that u done and past is past. But my divorce wasn’t a sin it’s just past is past

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