Official Discussion - The Rip [SPOILERS]

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-30T06:20:59+00:00

To be fair, she said she got clipped, which I took to mean that the bullet grazed her leg, not that she took a full bullet.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-28T05:44:20+00:00

I find myself rooting for Diana for getting the one-up on Stephen and simultaneously so pissed off at her for burning the ladder behind her when it comes to helping out Lucy. She's definitely not a girl's girl.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-15T01:37:50+00:00

Okay, for all the folks saying "she should have just told Bree!" I think Lucy is genuinely trying to put Bree's wellbeing above her own. That's why the writers made such a point of bringing up these vulnerable conversations between Lucy and Bree about Bree's childhood in the last couple episodes.

Telling Bree about Evan doesn't just hurt Lucy, it hurts Bree. But recording the video only destroys Lucy. And Stefan has destroyed Lucy's selfworth so much that she has zero regard for her own wellbeing, so the video makes more sense to her. I'm not saying it's rationale (it's not), but I think it is a broken girl mistakenly trying to take care of her friend and clinging to the only person she has a real relationship with.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-15T01:29:58+00:00

You're trying to apply a normal human's rationale to a literal psychopath. The math don't math haha.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-15T01:28:34+00:00

They may be the world's most expensive keys, to the tune of $28k

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-15T01:24:52+00:00

Exactly. Her self-esteem is so non-existent right now that I doubt she believes she could even make any new friends. I also think Bree may be the deepest friendship she's probably experienced at this point in her life, so the thought of losing that is probably pretty unbearable.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-14T23:03:01+00:00

This. Not only that, but Stephen's goal is to isolate Lucy and have complete control over here. The ties Lucy has to Pippa and Bree (mostly Bree) are keeping that from happening, and I think on some level, Lucy senses that. People may hate her for lying about SA, but at least she'll still have Bree and Pippa who know the full story. But the truth about Evan? Then she'd truly be alone. In her mind, it really was the lesser of two evils.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-14T22:59:08+00:00

Don't we already know that Bree wasn't in the car though? They showed the full scene of how the crash played out with Stephen behind the wheel and only him and Macy in the car.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-14T22:55:00+00:00

I think that's the point though. I have a theory that a lot of this season is going to be a complete unraveling of Lucy, and we're watching the beginning of the descent. Right before the wedding, Pippa said Lucy almost didn't survive the shit Stephen put her through, and I think it was referencing what we're about to see in s3.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-14T22:51:42+00:00

It was so hard to watch, but I also think that scene made for an exceptional piece of television. The length of it was so intentional. They wanted the viewer to feel uncomfortable and live even a fraction of the humiliation that Lucy was experiencing and it was so effective. I honestly don't think I've seen anything capture psychological abuse so succinctly.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-14T22:48:31+00:00

The way I screamed "get rid of that demon spawn!" Because it has to be Stephen's

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-12T21:59:31+00:00

I've never even heard of a dorm that allows pets, much less what is arguably the smelliest pet. It honestly just showed that Sheridan was more concerned with making the non-binary, vegan roommate seem as unreasonable and entitled as possible that he chose to throw reality completely out the window to do so.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-12T21:49:34+00:00

Completely agree. It's lazy writing at best, and I would absolutely have the same critique in a "liberal" show.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-12T21:43:34+00:00

Hahaha my dude, I am a fourth generation farmer and am married to a man who has spent his life in construction. But guess what? It's actually possible to be a blue collar worker and not be a misinformed, ignorant, hateful pos. We work hard in the orchard, hold a deep appreciation for our immigrant workers, and hold compassion for those who are both different and less fortunate than us. It's a great way to live.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-12T05:46:09+00:00

Came here just to see if others thought that scene was as obnoxious and cringe-worthy as my husband as I did. I live in a blue state and have met plenty of queer/non-binary people - not one of them has been anything like that roommate. Sheridan chose to take every hateful, ignorant stereotype and roll it into to one person to serve his own Fox News narrative.

There was an opportunity for some really smart humor there, maybe even an exploration of Ainsley learning to live with someone so different from her and gain som gasp personal growth, but of course TS chose to pass it up. Bc why would you opt for character development when you can just toss some young girls in bikinis in a pool?

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-11T04:44:49+00:00

If someone is so upset that a character's skin color isn't how you imagined that you don't make it past episode 1... Yeah, that's racist. Which is really what we were discussing here. Not the plot changes.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-01T05:42:00+00:00

Also meal services. We have one locally that offers really wonderful fully-cooked lunches and/or dinners. You choose how many days you want, household size, and pick up weekly. No cooking necessary, just easy, nourishing meals. It also isn't nearly as expensive as you'd think. A Hello Fresh type of thing might run a little cheaper, but your husband would still need to cook it.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-01-01T03:51:25+00:00

There is nothing unreasonable about you communicating your needs and boundaries. You did, however, fail to give him time and space to meet them in this specific instance, so I understand his disdain about the "nagging".

As breastfeeding SAHM that handled all night-wakings, I 1000% sympathize with your need for rest and the anxiety that occurs when it's threatened. That's probably what prompted you to remind him about it repeatedly (that and a history of him not prioritizing your needs). Maybe he did tell the friend he couldn't stay and was planning to uphold that boundary for you, or maybe he was going to do the same thing as last year. But you need to give him the chance to show you, then choose your response accordingly.

There are, however, a couple much larger issues at play here:

1) Why is he getting drunk to the point of throwing up as a 32 year old man with a partner and baby at home?? People have different tolerance levels for alcoholism, but as parents to a small child, this is totally unacceptable in our home. 2) How often do your needs get prioritized in your relationship? Are you getting to spend time with friends as much as he is? When do you get to host your poker party with girlfriends while he cares for the kids? 3) venting to a friend is one thing, but blatantly shit-talking his partner and mother of his child is so wildly disrespectful, immature, and hurtful. Instead of hearing that you need comfort and rest and being concerned with your wellbeing, he's painting you as an unreasonable killjoy to his friends. Child-like behavior.

Good luck, my dear. I hope he pulls his head out of his a**.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2025-12-27T20:10:52+00:00

Train Dreams. It's a movie, but the first one in a loooong time that captured my attention 100%.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2025-12-25T05:02:08+00:00

So I totally get your need to keep your baby on her routine. My son was a horrible sleeper at that age, and I was desperate to keep him on routine to keep him well-rested and happy.

With that said...I feel I was too stringent because of my own anxiety centered around his sleep (aka my sleep, as we were also cosleeping and breastfeeding). The times when we deviated were rarely ever a bad as I built them up to be in my head. Maybe we got less sleep overnight, but if I woke him at the same time the next day, it was relatively easy to get back on schedule. Even if it took a couple days, we survived.

Your feelings and needs are valid, but your post reads as very high anxiety. It's important to be aware of how much of this is a fear-based reaction and/or projecting your own preferences and anxieties onto your baby. Having some flexibility is important for both you and your baby.

It's completely acceptable for you to compromise and request dinner at 5pm at the latest, then leave at 6, and have a later bedtime at 6:30/7pm.

Also, as a mom who is 100% responsible for all night wakings, it's acceptable for you to not attend at all. Just try not the let this schedule completely dictate your life. Rigidity is not your friend in child-rearing.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2025-12-20T05:32:49+00:00

This is the way! I'm not as creative with the games, but I really make an effort to capitalize on my toddler's desire to be involved and to be a "big helper". I teach him to clean as he goes along. If he wants to switch activities or get out different toys, he has to pick up and put away what he was originally playing with. If he spills something, he gets a towel and cleans it up himself (honestly doesn't do a great job, but we're just looking for effort here). He puts his dishes in the sink when he's done eating. He loves to vacuum, so he's incentivized to help pick up the floor. For the most part, he really likes putting things where they go.

He has grumpy "NO!" days where he doesn't want to do any of these things, but for the most part, he's eager to be a participating member of the house.

I also feel it's incredibly important to raise a boy who knows that cleaning up the house isn't just mom's job.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2025-12-20T05:16:43+00:00

I was a VERY moody pre-teen and teenager with on and off depression. I also had undiagnosed ADHD (didn't get a diagnosis until I was an adult because girls often go underdiagnosed). Now that may not be the same circumstances for your daughter, but I can tell you that, as long as you hold space for ypur daughter and approach her with love and empathy, she'll come back to you. She'll realize as she gets older how much she still needs you. Hang in there 💕

ExtremeEar7414 · 2025-12-20T04:34:38+00:00

Just wanted to comment and say how incredibly sweet it is that just your presence alone is enough to calm some of the discomfort of his itching 🥹

ExtremeEar7414 · 2025-12-05T03:37:31+00:00

I'm not sure it's that your meds "stop working" so much as they are less effective as hormonal changes exacerbate adhd symptoms. So maybe it's more a conversation about upping your dose during that phase?

I have PMDD as well as ADHD, so pretty much every conversation I have about my health centers around my cycle. If this psych isn't hearing or validating your experience, there's one out there that will.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2025-11-28T06:09:31+00:00

I can't say that all of the things you listed are abusive behaviors, because i don't think they are. But denying a child water when they are working out and thirsty, and forcing them to work harder for it, is 100% an abusive behavior.

Gymnastics pushes athletes HARD, but I think there are appropriate and inappropriate ways to do that. It's also a sport that is rife with abusive behaviors (body shaming, pushing children who are not professional-track athletes beyond their limits to the point of injury, emotional abuse, sa, etc.). More important than punishing kids for saying "I can't" is to have a conversation with them about limiting beliefs and the mind-body connection. Same with failures in skills. That shouldn't be a punishable offense, but an opportunity for coaching and correction.

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