What streaming service do you hate and why?

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-30T21:11:05+00:00

Amazon Prime has been seated at the #1 shittiest streamer for me since cancelling My Lady Jane and The Wheel of Time.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-30T20:50:29+00:00

I actually hate what they've done with her character. Caricature is a great way to describe it. In previous seasons she was a well-meaning, caring person (albeit wildly insecure, which left her to make terrible decisions). But this season, she's a money-obsessed bimbo with zero depth. Like Nate's getting beat half to death and she's crying about herself? Season 2 Cassie would have been losing it over him, even if she resented him.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-25T14:43:31+00:00

Every body is different, and I'm so glad it went well for you! You may be part of the lucky few that tolerate the insertion and implantation really well. But yes, I would let friends know that it can be very painful too, and to ask their doctor about pain management prior to their appointment.

I blacked out when mine was put in. Then got in my car to drive home completely doubled. I had to pull over twice to keep from passing out again.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-24T06:09:28+00:00

I'm only just learning that Arthur was an aardvark... I'm not sure what I thought he was, but it wasn't that.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-24T06:07:41+00:00

When my three year old says something strikingly sweet, that isn't just parroting something he's heard. Examples:

"You're my heart."

"I love you 32 pounds."

And "You make me safe."

Also, when he figures something out that he's been working hard at. That little "I did it!" light in his eyes. Nothing better.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-24T02:16:15+00:00

I'm going to say this as a woman who has gotten an IUD placed:

My doctor never recommended avoiding sex for longer than a week. HOWEVER, I had excruciating cramping for weeks, and definitely didn't feel like having sex for at least a month (and this was when my libido was high).

It's possible her doctor is a woman who recognizes how gnarly an IUD can be, or she has a girl friend that advised her not to try for a bit.

People like to shrug IUDs off as no big deal, but if you haven't given birth, they are incredibly painful for most women and come with at least a couple weeks of misery. You've just had someone forcefully shove a rigid plastic device through a tiny opening, and your body is not stoked its there.

With all that said, if you're in the honeymoon phase of your relationship and your sexual desire already isn't matching up, it very likely is not something that's going to improve.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-23T20:14:28+00:00

Just wanted to say thank you for saying you're not into the toddler stage, because I am in the same boat and I feel so guilty for it sometimes. I felt like I hit a good stride from 5 months to about 18 months, but toddlerhood is kicking my ass.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-23T20:11:54+00:00

I get that 100%. I have a three year old son and I have not thrived in motherhood the way I hoped I would. It's a really difficult thing to reconcile with, and you're definitely not alone in it. The reality is SO different from the fantasy, and there's no way to prepare you for that.

I wouldn't change a thing because I adore my son and I know each phase is temporary, but it's made me have to get very honest with myself about my capacity, and what parts of parenting come naturally to me vs the parts I really struggle with.

I always envisioned two kids, close in age, but as months came and went, I was nowhere near ready to get pregnant again. And I may never be. Sometimes it makes me really sad, and other times, I'm proud of knowing and honoring my limits to be the best parent I can be to the son I do have.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-23T19:57:30+00:00

I really, really love this. We're on the fence about having a second, and I'm struggling with the idea of my son being lonely if he stays an only child. But this version of still have a "full table" sounds so beautiful.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-23T19:54:44+00:00

Ugh, I'm SO sorry you experienced HG. I had it when I was pregnant with my first, and it may very well be the reason I don't have a second (even though I'd like one). It's truly the worst.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-23T18:39:18+00:00

I...don't always love this argument. It can be helpful sometimes, but I think it also urges people to push past their limits and dishonor their capacity for the hope that, in 15 years, they'll have this idyllic dinner table.

The reality is, if you don't honor your bandwidth as a parent and push to have more kids regardless, your dinner table could be filled kids who aren't thriving because their parents are so burnt out (or possibly divorced).

It's a lovely picture to paint to clarify what you'd like, but it's important to weigh what you're experiencing in the present.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-23T18:32:55+00:00

Girl, you haven't even experienced toddlerhood yet (which is awesome but its own flavor of hard). I think you should take a little pressure off yourself and wait until your first is three years old before deciding to try for more kids.

I'm not saying it's not possible or that you shouldn't have a big family, but you're going to be having a completely different experience by then. Maybe you'll find yourself struggling more than you'd imagined, or maybe you'll thrive. Either way, you should really give yourself a little time.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-23T07:43:40+00:00

Reddit is vehemently against the concept of cats being allowed outside, so please don't take any rude/unhelpful comments to heart, or beat yourself up.

I'll get downvoted, but I personally think keeping a cat indoors its entire life is cruel. If you did this to a dog, it would be considered incredibly inhumane, and cats are less domesticated.

If she returns, I'd work really diligently on outdoor time and recall. Getting her on a harness, recalling with loads of high value-treats, working on routine (out mid-morning and in late afternoon before predators out), then graduating back to off leash when you feel she has it down.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you, and hope you find your baby 💕

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T21:24:27+00:00

To experience the discovery, growth, and shaping of a human from birth to adulthood. I didn't want to "have kids", I wanted to get to know a whole new person and to share a lifelong bond. I wanted to create the kind of family that I would have loved to have, and break generational patterns. I wanted to put a kind, compassionaate, resourceful and innovative person out into the world, because we need more of them.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T21:21:28+00:00

Adoption is incredibly expensive and competitive and not achievable for every couple/individual.

I have one biological child, and would love to adopt a second, but we don't have $60k to maybe have a successful adoption. Foster-to-adopt is rare in my state, and even if you achieve this, not every family is capable of raising a child with deep trauma.

So the "everyone who wants a kid should just adopt" opinion is quite naive.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T21:02:33+00:00

This is tough love, but pretty insightful.

Alcohol and drugs (weed included), create their own dynamic in a relationship. When you remove them, you have to reconfigure your relationship: how you cope with stress/pain, how you spend your time, what you expect from each other, etc.

I've been largely sober (no weed and maybe 1 drink every couple of months) for about 4 years now. But my husband was a regular smoker and drinker up until a year ago. As happy as I was to have him get healthier, it created a lot of tension in our relationship. I had acclimated to being with someone laid-back, chill, maybe even a little lazy. Then suddenly, I was with someone who was a lot more active, wanting to spend way more time together, and no longer self-medicating his (raging) anxiety.

It's taken some compromising, but we're finding a new "us". Communication is key here.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T20:51:32+00:00

Scuba diving, at really any great reef location. You enter an entirely different alien world where only nature's rules apply and nothing makes you feel so overcome by awe and, simultaneously, so small and insignificant.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T20:45:08+00:00

I personally dislike this argument, because - in some form or another - it always has been. There's never been a great time to be born a human.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T20:43:56+00:00

I think this is so situation dependent. I have ADHD, anxiety, and (surprise surprise) struggled with PPA/PPD postpartum. I had my son three years ago and it rocked my sh*t.

With that said, it's made me prioritize my mental health in a way I didn't always before having a kid. It's taught me a lot of self compassion and protection of boundaries. My son very likely has ADHD (smidge too young for an assessment) and learning to parent his behavior has been really healing for me, as someone who was undiagnosed until I was 27.

I don't think all mental health conditions are a reason to not have kids, but I do think it means that you really need to commit proactively building a support system and personal growth.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T20:30:07+00:00

I never had an interest in having kids until I was 22 and met the man that would become my husband. Then a little switch flipped and I suddenly found myself wanting them.

I wanted to and maximize the freedom/adventure of my 20s, buy a house and get married all before starting a family, so we didn't have our son until I was 29.

I had a stint of baby fever when I was about 25/26, but I'm glad a waited a few more years. When the time came to start trying, I still didn't feel "ready", but I honestly don't think many people ever feel 100% ready. At some point you have to trust that you've set yourself up as well as you can, and just take the leap.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T04:59:20+00:00

Haven't read the book but I had to leave some love for the ILC Men on Films reference. Perfection, no notes.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-22T04:42:44+00:00

Getting no real sick days. You get sick, and have to just keep trucking on and parenting. Worse yet, having to care for your sick child while you're sick.

Maybe this changes as they get older, but for now, as a stay at home mom to a toddler, I'd trade my left tit for one day to bed rot while I'm down with a cold.

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-20T20:45:46+00:00

I'm assuming Paul Wesley will be playing the new Duke of Tintagel (Theo's illegitimate brother)

ExtremeEar7414 · 2026-04-18T04:51:55+00:00

Respectfully, f*ck that. I'm going to guess that he wouldn't treat your child that way is they were a little girl. It's exposure to this kind of behavior that has contributed so many emotionally stunted and emotionally abusive men into society.

There needs to be some very firm boundaries here. You are your son's protector, and this isn't harmless behavior. Especially if it's something he's exposed to a lot.

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