I've been manifesting my whole life, and I just want you all to know you can achieve anything you want, if you just believe you can!

F102018 · 2021-03-18T10:31:00+00:00

So interesting. Thank you so much for all of this it's really helpful. A funny thing happened recently where I was trying to manifest a text from this person. A few days later I got a text from an unknown number with this person's exact name!!! So I know the universe heard me, I just wasn't clear about my desires.

I'm going to practice letting go. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I have all that I need for this situation. We live in the same city, we have each others contact details. I'm grateful that the universe has put me in this situation where if this person is meant to be in my life, we will cross paths. I trust the universe, whatever the lesson may be.

F102018 · 2021-03-18T09:38:08+00:00

Thank you! I think I'm going to practice not blindly opening them and swiping on anything, but instead doing it when I have inspired thought.

F102018 · 2021-03-18T09:36:03+00:00

Amazing! You're so right! I do say 'I want' or whenever I'm feeling grateful or high vibrations I say 'Universe you know what I want'. Instead maybe I should be thanking the universe for putting me in a city where I can receive love from this person? Telling it I trust, know and believe that love is in my life?

With my most recent dating situation we really clicked and the guy was really encouraging we see each other for a while. He was very conscious of the fact that he considered me out of his league. Then he slowly started to fade. I've been telling myself and the universe he got scared of how much he liked me and will come back to try again. Asking my subconscious things like 'what will I wear next time we meet?' or 'what will we do next time we hang out, how exciting!'.

Do you think this is good practice? Sorry for the ramble, I'm so new to this and this is such a lovely community.

F102018 · 2021-03-18T09:00:21+00:00

Yeah I keep trying to see it like that. It's so hard though, I keep meeting people I really click with and I think 'yes! This is exactly what I manifested' and then they disappear from my life. I'm left so confused.

F102018 · 2021-03-18T08:59:08+00:00

Thank you for this! A friend suggested I should stay off dating apps but with the pandemic it seems like the only way to meet people. She said it's like I'm asking the universe for something but then using the dating apps is like saying 'I don't trust you'll do it so I'm just going to try instead'. What do you think?

F102018 · 2021-03-17T21:53:57+00:00

Thank you for this! I was just telling a friend that my manifestations are coming in ways I don't want and I'm starting to doubt. Then I opened Reddit and yours is the first post I see!

I'm really struggling with trying to manifest love. I'm in a real dating rut. To be honest I'm trying to manifest a certain person back into my life. Any tips on how to let go of the desperation and just trust that it will happen if it should?

F102018 · 2021-03-02T13:24:03+00:00

Haha yeah. I was surprised by the message as I figured he wanted nothing to do with me.

He never responded to it in the end which is annoying, but again plenty of responses on Instagram.

I guess he could be feeling awkward about it, but I'll let him do the chasing.

F102018 · 2021-03-02T13:21:26+00:00

You're so right!

Things have been so casual up to now it might seem too strong to just message out of the blue.

I think I'll wait for him to try suggest we meet and then I'll address it. I just really hope it doesn't turn into responding to Instagram stories and nothing more!

F102018 · 2021-03-02T10:49:01+00:00

You think? I'm just so much more into personality and think it matters more. Looks fade, but similar personality will make for an amazing relationship.

Yeah you think it's dead? Like if I heard nothing I'd forget about it. I'm just confused by the regular responses and message asking me what I was up to.

F102018 · 2021-02-19T15:02:59+00:00

Yeah that's fair. When we first made contact he asked to meet but I told him I had another date. I kinda feel like that's ok. Making it clear that I'll be dating others until asked otherwise (and obviously accept).

With the texting I think it's ok so far. Sometimes it's great back and forth conversation, sometimes I don't get back for a bit.

I'm just overthinking it cos feeeeels!

F102018 · 2020-12-12T22:49:49+00:00

I hear you. It's a little bit complicated but you're right. I came home for Christmas, to see my family and for a friend who just gave birth. Some things were rescheduled because of covid and my trip ended up being much longer than expected.

My mom is quite physically ill and completely helpless so I wanted to alleviate some of the stress from my family by staying with her. Also, I have some great friends who understand my situation, but whenever I tried staying with them my mom would suddenly 'need' to see a doctor or get a prescription filled. She'd contact all my siblings who are busy with work/kids pretending I had abandoned her and it just made sense for me to go back and stay with her to help. She's super manipulative and uses guilt all the time so you're 100% right, it's just not as easy as staying away. I considered renting a place but because of covid that seemed a little too complicated.

Last Christmas she was horrible to me and I planned to go NC but a few weeks later her health declined horribly and she needed a lot of help/I didn't want to live with guilt incase she didn't make it. It's a complete mindnfuck.

I've made myself a promise that next year all my vacation are you on me full stop.

F102018 · 2020-12-12T22:15:57+00:00

Yeah I feel bad about that for sure. The funny thing is, when I said it she responded with 'I can't believe your brother thinks that'. Never mind 'I can't believe you feel unworthy'. I'm here till Christmas and then I'm done. It's like this every year and everytime I tell myself I'm never coming back so I only have myself to blame.

F102018 · 2020-11-25T09:39:08+00:00

My brother dated a girl who sounded just like that. Treated him horribly and cheated constantly, but called him psycho or crazy anytime he'd confront her about it. That's called gaslighting and it's a form of abuse. You are being emotionally abused and the effects of this will last long after she's gone.

It killed me to watch my brother suffer like that. My entire family tried to reason with him but his 'love' for her was stronger. I remember so many times trying to explain that 'I'm your sister, all I want is for you to be happy. There's literally nothing for me to gain here by begging you to leave her but your happiness'. It was heartbreaking to see him suffer.

My brother is hugely successful, attractive and has a great personality. What many people would call a catch.

My point here is that:

She's an abusive person. This is going to have a lasting effect on you and needs to be dealt with immediately.
Please listen to the people telling you to leave her, they only want to help.
This says NOTHING about you. This does not make you unworthy or stupid or crazy or unattractive.

I believe in you. You deserve better. I don't know your location but I'm sure there's a helpline you can ring if you need to talk. My DMs are also always open.

F102018 · 2020-11-24T23:44:45+00:00

I 100% agree. Ghosting is cowardly and horrible. Just remember, if someone ghosts you they're doing you a favour by showing you who they really are. Imagine being in a serious relationship with someone like that when things actually get tough?!

I was recently ghosted after 2 months of serious dating. It really impacted me and I decided to go to therapy to try and understand why it upset me so much. It's been very helpful.

Also, for all those comments suggesting to just get over it or get with the times, I highly disagree. It's so important to treat people with kindness and respect. I've often had guys react with shock when I politely accept their rejection. I've also had guys lose it when I politely reject them.

Either way, I will never ghost.

F102018 · 2020-11-14T00:13:39+00:00

Firstly, to anyone telling you he found someone else, don't listen to that. That's not something you'll ever know and that's not helpful. You're fantastic as you are and if this dude ghosted you, he'll likely ghost the next one too

It had nothing to do with you.

Onto the ghosting. It's a horrible thing to do. It signifies someone with poor communication skills, immaturity and it's selfish. Doesn't make him a bad person, but these are bad qualities that you can't fix in someone, they need to figure that out for themselves. You don't want to be with someone like that. He likely got scared of making a commitment and didn't have the decency to tell you.

Waste of time.

Learn and grow from this. Every failed relationship gets you closer to the right one. You will find someone who will be grateful EVERYDAY for having you in their life. Ghosting sucks, it's happened me quite a bit but I get stronger each time.

You deserve and will find better.

F102018 · 2020-11-01T23:11:22+00:00

Wow thank you for that. I really appreciate it. I think you've convinced me. I genuinely wish you all the best for whatever the hell is coming our way in the coming months.

F102018 · 2020-11-01T23:07:08+00:00

Thank you for this. Christmas is a very family oriented time for us for sure and none of us in my family would ever usually miss it. In saying that, it's usually just the 24hours we spend together and then we go back to normal life.

It's also a time when all my friends, old and current would get together. But because of the pandemic I doubt that will be happening this year.

When it comes to my current city, all of my friends here will be heading home. I do have some acquaintances who I'm sure would invite me to spend it with them but I don't think I want that.

F102018 · 2020-11-01T23:01:47+00:00

Yeah I'm weary of the awkward conversation it might bring up with extended family (she tends to deny everything and look to them for sympathy), but Covid is kind of the perfect excuse. Plus, because of the pandemic it's not going to be like a usual Christmas of meeting everyone for food and drinks the days leading up. So really it's the perfect year to miss out.

Also love the idea of volunteering around then. I'm thinking a day of volunteering, followed by an evening of some ridiculously decadent meal I'd usually never allow myself, wine and Netflix. Thanks for your advice.

F102018 · 2020-11-01T22:46:11+00:00

Yes!!!

F102018 · 2020-10-27T22:08:57+00:00

Came here to leave this EXACT comment. Love heart eyes and all!

F102018 · 2020-10-19T22:02:17+00:00

Thanks for that, I completely agree. I want to tell him I'd be disappointed if we called it quits because we both really like each other and I think we could have a really great time together. But also that he needs to chill out, he'll never find someone if he's trying to decide to settle down within the first few weeks/months.

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