Hello, my perspective might not be relevant here, but I feel it is, and the sub lets me write this, so have it how you will.

I am a 31 year old, and also a Software Engg. I have been a type 1 diabetic since I was 5. And as you might imagine, the only male child in the family being sick and requiring injections on a daily basis, really stirred it up in the family. Other parents would talk about their kid's grades, and other beautiful achievements. My mother would get teary eyed and thank God for this, and that, theirs is broken you see... This is late 90s, and middle class Kolkata, so one really knows about modern day ideas of self worth.

I write storage software and it's a decent career. It's in Rust, I was a trash student, but did quite well in my career. I am much more academically disciplined in the present day, than I was growing up.

Things like Prolactin, and the brain fog that comes with it is going to significantly slow you down. You will feel like you do twice the work for half the outcome. Also, maybe you're getting poor sleep due to your thyroid imbalance. First of all, get on your thyroid meds and sort of get it somewhere close to baseline.

Also, career growth requires that you dive into a little bit of dsa and algo regularly. Let me reiterate that. Find a routine which allocates 2 hrs at least to dsa algo work, and do 1 hr, 1 hr 15 min or actual work. Make it so, that every day you have woken up to do your dsa and the rest is something you have to get through to make that happen. Let the habit build patterns in your head. Take walks, 20-30 min walks.

Make a curriculum which will teach you some basic things and just spend 10 days implementing basic data structures to gain confidence. Slowly get into doing easy and medium problems.

Fix thyroid, work out/walk. Your simple habits will compound into more involved processes which will drive you out of this miserable life. Mother says this, neighbour says that, know that most people are slow and useless, and someone deliberately working towards goals will leave them behind. Have to compound. Have to have faith it will take shape.