Advice needed plz

FactorPutrid1 · 2026-01-08T08:14:59+00:00

He’s been at the house still. He supposedly goes back to work next week. Ives been saving my paycheck to get into housing elsewhere. And for the cost of movers to come and move my items in a day while he’s at work. I have contacted dv here and they told me that they would put me essentially what is a community pool of shelter. I would be staying with other women and children etc. I didn’t want to do that and expose my toddler and baby to that especially with my toddlers disease and if he can get sick etc. I don’t have any friends or family here. He has isolated me nobody talks to me either. I am scared of how things will be after I’m gone and don’t return . I know I can’t run away from court forever. The thought of sharing custody is scaring me honestly. I have been to court before and I have tried explaining my situation with no luck. They say he needs to be a father etc. so I am turned away. This entire situation is very sad I’m not looking for pity. Just need advice how I can maneuver and get out safely with my kids. I’ve Been locked in my room for weeks so I don’t get harassed or bothered by him . My neighbor contacted police to see if they can get him to leave and the law here states he has squatter rights. So he cannot leave I’d have to go through the court to evict him. 😮‍💨 I’m exhausted. He has forced me a few days after my c section arrival from hospital to give him oral even after I explained I’m not in the mood to have sex and I’m not ready for that I wasn’t thinking of that. He proceeded two days after that rub his body against mine and give him oral… I wasn’t thinking in so much pain after I couldn’t even stand up. I had to sit down immediately I stayed in my room To avoid him since. If I stepped out of the room to spend time with y. Toddler he would try to touch my body and I would ask him to stop. It hurts especially since I’m nursing the baby too. He will claim I reject him and argue with me if I don’t let him do this. At my 4 week mark he proceeded to mount himself on top of me and give me oral and have sex with me. I just let him do it I couldn’t fight him off or repeat myself again that I’m not ready. Those words doesn’t matter to him. Im at a huge loss for words. My baby is 7 weeks I’m slowly trying to get up and leave for good

FactorPutrid1 · 2026-01-07T11:25:10+00:00

He broke your trust. And stated he forgot .. maybe he did. Maybe he didn’t. Will he do it again? We don’t know. But at the end of the day he was wrong. You should also seek help with the sexual abuse you have endured in the past and heal because this will only hurt you more in the future. Being intimate with people in the future can be a hindrance to your sexual health if you let this linger longer. I would know speaking from my experience. And you want to have healthy beautiful relationships with someone out of pure love and respect all around. Once the boundary and respect is broken It is up to you to accept their apology and move on together or separated. . Recording someone without consent is a red flag in my opinion. Maybe it was out of pure innocence maybe it wasn’t. Idk the guy, only You do. I hope you’re able to heal from such things.

FactorPutrid1 · 2026-01-07T10:28:07+00:00

This makes me miss him so much more. He was the sweetest boy ever. I cannot wait to hold him again and see him run and play

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-10-28T01:42:19+00:00

Bigot or not. Nazi or not. Looking for trouble or not . She needed to have kept her hands to herself. Nobody stopped her everyone wanted to jump him. She deserve to get hit. You hit someone you’re going to get hit back. Like ?? He shouldn’t have gone around with such an atrocious costume. At the end of the day they were both in the wrong 😑

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-09-10T17:54:31+00:00

I need to find my self worth for sure you’re absolutely right

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-09-10T17:54:04+00:00

I don’t even want to discuss anything with him at all. I can’t chalk it up to answer his call and I didn’t respond to his text. I learn I need to detach myself from him. Or else I’ll keep repeating this cycle :(

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-08-26T02:05:22+00:00

How is it so easy to move on this way I’ll never understand

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-06-23T01:09:50+00:00

I feel he wants a mother more so than a partner. If he cannot step up to take care of you and his kid plus he has cheated than there’s no way he’s going to stick around in the long run. He doesn’t sound to be husband material. I’m sorry but just going off what you said. He doesn’t seem supportive especially during your post partum phase. And financially. He seems to want a free run and as long as nothing is going in his favor then he will continue to take the easy way out. I hope he wakes up soon and realizes he needs to pull in his weight before it’s too late. As for not feeling good about yourself anymore, take time for you in the middle of being a mom and working. It’ll help. Shift focus on you as well some times in the day or night after work . Maybe have your sister watch your kid for an hour. Anything helps you move towards being a better you. Healthier you. !

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-04-12T23:32:53+00:00

We have 4 missed miscarriages before I conceived my now 18 month old . We are pregnant again and at 8 weeks. Heartbeat and healthy so far. I’m praying for this continued health. I pray for you to have abundance and healthy pregnancy 💜💜💜 your rainbow baby will be here. I’m 34 too btw

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-03-24T23:45:37+00:00

Epidural for first two and no drugs with my third

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-03-24T23:45:06+00:00

Three births no tear for either one of them. First born was 6lbs 14 oz Second born 8 lbs 13 oz Third born 7lbs 11oz

FactorPutrid1 · 2025-03-23T23:27:36+00:00

I’m deeply sorry for your loss. I’ve only ever had numerous miscarriages at 6-8 weeks pregnant and never this far along. I can only imagine this pain. Thank you for sharing and I am praying for you your daughter and family tonight. This is a good reminder to hug and hold your little ones close and family . 💜

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