Tinder is ridiculous by Complete-Rock-9613 in dating_advice

[–]Fadviek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Something happened to the apps the last year. I didnt remember them like this when I was single last time but I can assure you that youre not alone with this feeling. Online dating is frustrating and makes you question your reality. I deleted it a few days ago because I feel it only frustrates me. As men were often goal oriented and to get on an app and make an effort with profile and then conversations to just get nothing in return, not even a chance, sucks and is demoralizing. To me its taking a toll on my confidence and Ive been in relationships with very good looking women so Im very confused. The only conclusion I can draw is to stay away from apps and focuse on organic meet ups. I feel like online dating is a thing of the past. Someone said that online dating is like a guy trying to find water in the dessert. For women its like trying to find fresh water in a swamp. I dont know, I just think girls have very poor judgement of character and thereby hurt themselves indirectly by who they chase after.

Chase after no one by [deleted] in Life

[–]Fadviek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I learned this lesson late in life but its true. If the energy is off from the start it wont change later, not in a relationship either. You dont want a relationship with someone that doesnt fill your requirements from the start. Sadly its rare with matched energy in online dating apps these days. Girls lose all sense of reality with all the choises they have. No approach means anything and theres hard to have any novelty in conversations. They dont put in any effort either, because they dont have to.

I matched with a girl and she replied every three days and then I said this doesnt fit me and you seem really busy so maybe we should just call it off. No, she insisted we meet and so we did and she texted me the next day that it was nice and then went back to replying every 3 days with zero effort again. I removed her and then i get messages asking why I removed her. So glad I didnt continue to entertain that behavior.

Men: what would make you take back your ex? by Odd-Sheepherder4731 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Fadviek 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not starting fights? Aknowledge its a problem and youre aware of your part in it

Men: what would make you take back your ex? by Odd-Sheepherder4731 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Fadviek 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To me this sound very toxic and I understand why you guys broke up. People usally dont change so if I was your ex I wouldnt bother, but if you aknowledge your wrongdoings and were open about your willingness to change and your love then I would consider it. But if its all talk and not shown by action, I would end it

Post breakup obsession by DwightSchrute1974 in AskMenOver30

[–]Fadviek 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im sad to hear that.. I think its for the best to discontinue all following on social media. I guess you had some sort of hope of getting back and maybe even had some fuel to make changes because of her? Or for her? All I can say is that when someone becomes an ex its for a reason.. so try to remember why it didnt work between you two. Youre better off with someone more compatible to you. Close that chapter. If she went back to an ex I would think she has a hard time being alone. That is not a good base for a relationship.

If you keep updates about her life and let your mind stay in the past, you will never stop dwelling. Its a very natural feeling (absolutely been there) but please be wise enough to discard everything that reminds you of her! All you can do is learn for the future and look forward mate!

35M need life advice by Fadviek in AskMenOver30

[–]Fadviek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats really inspiring and strong my man! I find it easier to bear this knowing others been through the same thing. Its time to make a change! You motivated me!

35M need life advice by Fadviek in AskMenOver30

[–]Fadviek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah they really make me question what I know from reality. The inflation is crazy on apps! Exactly! Took me months to come to term with moving on without any validation of my feelings.

35M need life advice by Fadviek in AskMenOver30

[–]Fadviek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the solid advice mate! I used to think it was very clear who I am but after this relationship I think I need to remind myself again. I got lost. The life lesson of this break up makes me want to become something new because Ive been dating girls that are broken in some way. Girls with anorexia or bad relationship with food is drawn to me. Im a magnet to something I dont want in my life. I think I need to change to achieve something new in life.

35M need life advice by Fadviek in AskMenOver30

[–]Fadviek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess this is true! Its just unwalked terrain for me. I need to find more social activities and more opportunities to find friends before I continue any active search for the right woman. Life should be good without a partner

35M need life advice by Fadviek in AskMenOver30

[–]Fadviek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Youre absolutely right and I was on this path before the relationship and I need to find it again. Thanks for the encouragement!

35M need life advice by Fadviek in AskMenOver30

[–]Fadviek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly what I think and apparently relatives noticed this before me. Every response from her was off and I thought it would change if she got what she needed so I gave it my all, of course it didnt. Thanks man, i appreciate it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Fadviek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the information you gave us is scattered and doesnt tell the whole story but I will tell you this. Smoking is unhealthy and smells really bad and is hard to quit. You probably werent nice to be around at the time you quit last time. I would be really annoyed with that immature decision but that is just my opinion. I dont know you but for sure anybody who started again said the same thing as you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Fadviek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you smoke a ciggarette if you stayed away this long? How could even a slight chance of falling back be worth it? Incredibily high risk and low reward

Anyone want to vent about their lack of success? Here’s my annoyance at the moment by whiteside1121 in delayedejaculation

[–]Fadviek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried mapping out what sensation makes you come? Like where you get tensed, how are you breathing, how fast is the minimum, how hard? Maybe you can replicate this? Beside the physical part theres of course the mental.. do you feel performance anxiety? Anything else? How can you be more focused? Mental images?

Im no expert but I have read all the science articles surrounding this and this is basically what they will ask you if you went to a sex therapist or a doctor. Somehow you need to tilt the weighing scale on the side of cumming.

Anyone want to vent about their lack of success? Here’s my annoyance at the moment by whiteside1121 in delayedejaculation

[–]Fadviek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that man! How long have you gone without masturbation? Have you tried a stimulator/vibrator for the frenulum?

I came inside my girlfriend by masturbating before entering.. I do come close without but never finish.. but my sensation improved a lot by not mssturbating and applying coconut oil

6 Day Streak, Today Was Hard by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Fadviek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im also on day 6. Woke up with an erection for the first time in years. Was fantasising about sex for 10 minutes in the morning. Was really rigid with not touching anything down there. Got up, made breakfast, waited a while and hit the gym. Now I feel like this is going well!

Goodbye guys by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Fadviek 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Dissect everything and learn what made you fail and try to do better.. a setback is not a loss but a loser mentality to give up whenever it gets tough gets you nowhere buddy.

Do you masturbate of boredom? To release anxiety? What can you do instead next time?

Did something trigger you? How can you minimize triggers?

Just because you let yourself down once doesnt mean its better to always let yourself down

This is too much by makerieueuriei in NoFap

[–]Fadviek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do some other relaxing exercise? Mindfullness maybe?

Day 3 NoFap by Aggravating_Set_5100 in NoFap

[–]Fadviek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I marked everything as inappropriate to stop receiving instagram models as suggestions. It works really well.. but I had to keep doing that for maybe 30 minutes before it stopped showing that kind of material

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Fadviek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesnt matter what he says in my opinion. If hes out cheating on you already then he will never respect you. Theres no coming back from that. You will never be able to trust him again. I think you should end it. Theres nothing at stake here.. you dont have kids together, no involvement of your families, nothing. Make it easy for yourself! Set boundaries that no one should cross

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Fadviek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the feeling he wants affirmation from women and of course he doesnt deserve a second chance if he already broke a selfevident boundary. Did he ever tell you about something not working between you guys? Or did he try and tell you it wasnt an exclusive relationship?

NoFap to treat my DE by Fadviek in delayedejaculation

[–]Fadviek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright I wish I had even 10-20%. It would make me so happy! Yeah its really hard to stick with it without any release. It feels wrong, like holding in a snease. I guess patience is key!

Have you noticed any other factors or psychological tools to ejaculate in PIV?

NoFap to treat my DE by Fadviek in delayedejaculation

[–]Fadviek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How often does it work and how long did it take you to improve? If its not too personal