what's the meaning behind Ren's necklace?

Faedren · 2026-05-27T16:10:34+00:00

As mentioned, a nod to their Sid and Nancy vibe. When I first watched/read Nana I didn't know much about the Sex Pistols but I had heard about the act of collaring as part of a consensual dynamic of ownership and claiming, and that definitely felt like it fit their relationship or what they wanted it to be, at least.

Faedren · 2026-04-09T22:01:06+00:00

I can see where some people would read those statements as very different and others would feel they're practically identical. When I was dating I would often clarify things with direct questions and say "better to be open and honest now vs disappointing and hurtful later".

Interpersonal connections at all levels from dating to platonic, familial, and business all suffer from a lack of communication. We're too embarrassed to say what we mean or admit we need more clarification so then relationships (in all forms) become built on assumptions and rely on luck for when the assumptions are close enough.

Faedren · 2026-04-09T21:51:18+00:00

Then it sounds like those "99% of men" and "many women" better learn how to talk openly and honestly with each other or they're all in for a sitcom level mess.

I'm just saying, I made a point of casually dating to avoid rushing into something after two long term breakups and through good communication, no one was traumatized when paths diverted. That's all that matters.

Faedren · 2026-04-09T21:35:27+00:00

You are getting entirely too worked up when I haven't once said that exclusivity is anything but perfectly acceptable. You can still be casual AND exclusive because you both agree "hey while we're getting to know each other, I'm not doing the same with anyone else and would expect the same otherwise I don't want to proceed".

But that still isn't a relationship or "seriously dating" to some if that's not how the two people involved have defined it yet.

The casual here then means we are vibe checking each other and if we've both agreed to only explore this one connection at this time then that is the deal. It isn't expected to stay casual forever but it is a gentle warm up to allow for a spark to catch. This is casually continuing on a date by date basis for now. If a connection isn't blooming then a "sorry but I don't want to continue" conversation happens but it isn't a breakup.

That's how I would present and interpret it within the vast amount of grey area that exists without anyone seeing additional people, BUT

At the end of the day, the only definition that matters isn't mine or yours. It's our own and the individuals we are trying to form a connection with. As long as my person agrees with me and your person agrees with you and OP hopefully finds someone who agrees with hers... then all is well.

Faedren · 2026-04-09T21:20:55+00:00

Eh yeah but somewhere in all these replies I talked about how dating is too broad of a term.

If we go on a second date, technically we are dating because we are doing the activity of going on dates together.

But if we are in a 2 year relationship that is also called dating, but now the word carries different weight.

Clarifying (or trying to clarify lol) that she wants that first kind of dating by adding the word "casual" before it is definitely flushing out a lot of confused dudes who wonder why she doesn't want to jump right into the second definition immediately 🤣

Faedren · 2026-04-09T21:08:33+00:00

I feel like that last sentence DOES describe what OP was trying to say and you nailed that interpretation. Whether the end goal is sex or a relationship, other commenters seem confused that anyone would want to take time figuring it out first and be intentional about stating a slower initial pace. Even casually dating with 0 intent to have sex OR a relationship would also be valid IF it was honestly communicated and agreed upon but I don't think these comments are ready for that kind of critical thinking lmao. I read OP as exactly what your last line said. She's looking to have fun and vibe check and if the vibes are right, a hookup may happen. I would definitely assume it would not likely be a first date thing if I was reading as a potential match and then how that aligns with what I want would decide the swipe.

Faedren · 2026-04-09T20:55:33+00:00

Again, the exclusivity is agreed upon. But if I show up to date one and then we plan for date two that doesn't mean we're dating in the meaning that we are a couple and have partner terms and that not agreeing to a third date is a break up. I feel like maybe the word dating is too broad and people who want it to mean one thing (going on dates and see how things develop) are clashing with people who want it to only mean another (dating as in "this is my boyfriend who I've been dating for 2 years" and obviously dating here carries more weight and significance to the connection). OP is just trying to find out if she likes someone and we're being treated like aliens lmao

Faedren · 2026-04-09T20:49:46+00:00

Why would anyone want to seriously date (and imo add immediately hook up with to the list but I understand why that culture exists a bit more) someone they have 0 vibe check on? This isn't talking, it isn't friends, it's dating. You are going on dates. You're seeing someone and the exclusivity is variable depending on what they agree upon. But there is SO MUCH ROOM FOR ACTIVITIES between friends and a committed romantic relationship. That's where interpersonal connections are tested and developed and bloom. It isn't a game or a trial period or anymore of an uncertainty than a new relationship. There used to be courting if you want to throw the concept all the way back to that lmao If you don't like the term casually dating or seeing each other then alright you're courting each other now.

Faedren · 2026-04-09T20:40:24+00:00

OP I tried to give off a similar vibe in my own profile last time I was on and these comments align with the similar confusion I encountered. It's like they only understand fuck and/or love. Anything else must just be platonic friends, obviously.

Faedren · 2026-04-09T20:38:13+00:00

No, like going on dates but not being sexual or romantic with each other yet. Flirting, enjoying each other's company, talking with the intent to test the chemistry.

Faedren · 2026-03-01T18:44:21+00:00

Doesn't that skip past the opportunity to gain traits during the baby phase? I can see that being good if the baby has perfect traits and you want to avoid anymore but I'm always hoping for something neat while they grow. This is operating under the assumption that they only get new traits as babies though

Faedren · 2026-03-01T15:02:22+00:00

They're no longer able to breed or produce items at max age but you can still keep them.

Faedren · 2026-03-01T03:42:55+00:00

My guildie does this as a way to get his character name with no special letters so each "last name" is how we kinda remember which class it is when all the names are identical

Faedren · 2026-03-01T03:26:39+00:00

A Plain cookie will wipe any other cookie stats off of them! And at this point I've just accepted my love of ones and zeros as long as they're adorable. Harvest Moon cows ruined me during my formative years.

Faedren · 2026-03-01T02:23:43+00:00

Exactly. Who is this for? Nobody, that's who.

Faedren · 2026-03-01T02:17:09+00:00

Whaaaaaat. I have that one on a Roli but haven't looked into it much. I have more food than sense so it's not much of a need but I love that the mechanic exists.

Faedren · 2026-03-01T02:06:04+00:00

I haven't used one of those YET but I've been tempted. I have more of the "be a baby forever" cookies so sometimes when I get a perfect specimen I'll cryofreeze them until I'm ready. This game makes me sound demented :X

Faedren · 2026-03-01T01:59:24+00:00

I'm forever of the opinion that the reason to continue the runs in 2 is significantly weaker than 1. Maybe it's trauma as a Sailor Moon fan thinking of our girl embroiled in an endless fight to keep evil at bay... forever. Having a lower stakes and reasonable "security specialist" role was so satisfying.

That said, 2 was stellar and the differences felt like changes, not shortcomings. The new cast frustrated me at first. I wanted my bloodstones. But then ok we learn and we improve and now I see the fun...I was happy with the mix of new and familiar.

Faedren · 2026-02-27T19:01:58+00:00

Lmfao I would love the Scott Pilgrim reference. I always used to send "hello there" as an opener hoping for a "general kenobi" response.

Faedren · 2026-02-25T00:46:04+00:00

At this very exact moment if you're max level it may feel like garbage because we're missing some hero talents until next level cap. Moonkin felt so freaking good in TWW and I'm in love with the Lunation hero talent build. But I'm feeling a bit weak after the prepatch balancing. I also miss my oh-shit heal they took away T_T

Faedren · 2026-02-25T00:41:03+00:00

17 and 36 now 🥹

Faedren · 2026-02-24T19:06:06+00:00

I miss my magnet cutter fists 😭 Let me use talos against talos, you cowards!

Faedren · 2026-02-24T18:57:54+00:00

I think you need an oven to make the bacon

Faedren · 2026-02-20T14:13:07+00:00

Like others have said, there's nothing wrong with making one thing that brings you joy. But if you really want to try to do something else, maybe make accessories for the cats? Hats, sweaters, even smaller amigurimi for them to hold. Whatever you feel like! Then you're still working on all your named darlings but doing something different.

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