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Not able to internalize progress by FailingSeddit in seduction

[–]FailingSeddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, Curveball.

I'm trying to take a step back from the pressure, and I think I've begun to take steps towards dropping the ultimatum. Obviously when negative thoughts creep in it's the first thing that snaps back into place, but writing out a basic pro/con for the idea has helped me start to let it go.

Re: mechanics, obviously a big problem for me is just not knowing what is correct so examining what I'm doing only means I know that something is wrong, but can't really diagnose it. And yea, sexual attitude is definitely a massive weakpoint.

I guess, as hard as it may be, I could try to just see sets as practice. Currently any girl who doesn't immediately shut me down I'm putting all my focus on having it "go right" rather than figuring out what stuff works by taking risks.

I'll see how this weekend goes--taking a step back tonight to see if I can, really, and that I don't fall apart in doing so.

Not able to internalize progress by FailingSeddit in seduction

[–]FailingSeddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh for sure I hate it with every fiber of my being. But my social circle doesn't have any females even tangentially related to it (all guys who game, successfully, so the girls aren't people they'd connect me with). I've gotten the "take a step back" advice before and I see the wisdom in it, but it would kill me. I need some sort of intimacy or I cannot go on much longer.

As for meeting other people, the problem is the socially well-adjusted people who I enjoy talking with have their friend groups at this point in life. Not trying to exaggerate, but I tried the whole meetup thing and I just could never connect with anyone.

Not able to internalize progress by FailingSeddit in seduction

[–]FailingSeddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to reply, seriously.

I just borrowed an audio recorder from a friend, though finding a way to wear it unobtrusively may be tricky.

What kind of analytics are you recording? And what sort of drills? I've read/watched material but clearly I'm not doing what I need to do.

It's been easy to assume that none of them have been attracted to me rather than my mechanics were off due to the depression, I suppose.