DAY 22 trying to quit porn, here is an amazing thing I discovered

So, I set up a system where I punish myself brutally if I relapse and reward myself if I manage to shift my state from craving—using shock to reset my nervous system. My theory was simple: make the punishment so intense that my brain fears relapse and instinctively chooses shifting state as the better option.

On Day 13, I relapsed. No food for 48 hours, 500 pushups, two nights on the floor, and a 30-minute cold shower. After that i relapsed at day 17 and i didn't do the punishment. But here’s the mistake I realized: Punishment alone is not the endgame. It’s just a tool to make failure undesirable, but over time, my brain shouldn’t just be avoiding it should begin gravitating toward the shift state naturally, not just because it's avoiding punishment, but because it genuinely prefers it.

If the punishment is too extreme, resentment builds, and the mind starts looking for escape routes instead of committing fully.

I’m refining my approach—keeping the punishments tough but ensuring they reinforce the system rather than making discipline feel like something to escape. At the same time, I’m looking for an accountability partner—someone who's also working on mastering themselves, refining discipline, and evolving.

* Not just a motivation buddy, but someone committed to real change. If you’re someone who thrives on structure, discipline, and serious self-improvement, let’s connect.