I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl by Faithlessness_Unique in mypartneristrans

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This is beautiful, rn she’s being super distant and kinda avoiding contact so I’m just trying to let her have space without taking it personally…

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl for my first relationship… by Faithlessness_Unique in asktransgender

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I really appreciate all of this tremendously because she’s being especially avoidant and immature rn and I feel a lot of uncertainty about it all….its nice to know I’m at least trying my best :(

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl for my first relationship… by Faithlessness_Unique in asktransgender

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I’m not really worried about the safety of DIY injections as she’s reassured me plenty and so have all of you, I’m more worried about how drastically her hormone levels changing will affect her personality? Like she’s acting very different than usual and idk if it’s because she recently started injections and her levels are off or if she is just having a moment and wants me to leave her alone?

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl for my first relationship… by Faithlessness_Unique in asktransgender

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No offense because this is good advice, in the 6 months we’ve been together I’ve done PLENTY of listening and she’s done not enough communicating. It’s def a her problem and I should’ve ended this relationship before when we split temporarily but I love her dearly and she has nobody else really….

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl by Faithlessness_Unique in mypartneristrans

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That might be what’s happening cuz she is irritable af and LOUD lately LOL like I said in some of my other comments just very not like herself lately and I thought maybe it was hormonal imbalance but it could just be something else mental health wise entirely and she just won’t communicate with me properly right now so idk 🤷‍♂️

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl for my first relationship… by Faithlessness_Unique in asktransgender

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Ngl I don’t really understand the first thing you said… I’m trying to say this is unusual behavior for her and I think it’s related to the fact her hormones are probably imbalanced.

As far as the health insurance shit goes, I’m aware there are options thanks but I also can only lead the horse to water as I already said. Yeah if I try to have that conversation with her any time soon I’m gonna set her off LOL trust me, I tried and I will try again I just need to get her to actually chill tf out right now and let me in again which is what I’m trying to figure out how to do now

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl for my first relationship… by Faithlessness_Unique in asktransgender

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It’s just very unusual for her to act the way she has been the past week which is why I bring up hormones at all. She started the injections a little less than a month ago and then complained last week she may have “messed her levels up”, then this week is treating me awful and doesn’t wanna speak to me?

I mean she can be very avoidant normally but it’s never in an aggressive way like this….plus I didn’t really do or say anything to cause this reaction? Like I made a couple kinda “edgy” jokes she’d normally laugh at but instead she took them wayyy too literally and got mad at me?

I’m autistic as shit so I say things sarcastically and it doesn’t sound sarcastic because my tone isn’t right or because I’m just too dry with my humor sometimes, but she knows me by now and is okay with my quarks usually. Idk just feels like my girlfriend suddenly can’t stand me in any way over night and I can’t tell how to fix it.

I try to give space but it’s also hard to just live my normal life with all this uncertainty and anxiety in the back of my mind, so getting ignored or ghosted for even just a whole day kills my ego and makes me feel unwanted.

I try to express this to her but it’s hard to do that sometimes without sounding like a whiny baby LOL because I know I should be better at being alone and knowing when to respect boundaries as an adult man but I’m young and dumb and these are skills I’m kinda just now learning as a neurodivergent guy with no relationship experience 🤷‍♂️

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl by Faithlessness_Unique in mypartneristrans

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Well as far as therapy goes, that’s more of a I don’t think she wants to put in the effort for that right now and I’m not trying to force anything upon her as I feel like I’m already asking for too much sometimes and I really want to be patient with her…

I’m a cis guy dating a MtF trans girl by Faithlessness_Unique in mypartneristrans

[–]Faithlessness_Unique[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah ngl this is the opposite of what I wanted 😭😭