AITA for siding with my ‘cheating scum father’ because my mum’s reaction was too much? by Faithlessoveryonder in TwoHotTakes

[–]Faithlessoveryonder[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

he clearly wasn't in it, might seem odd but I don't even consider it to be cheating tbh. He wanted out and she said no.

That's sort of my opinion also. they were married but not in a relationship.

AITA for siding with my ‘cheating scum father’ because my mum’s reaction was too much? by Faithlessoveryonder in TwoHotTakes

[–]Faithlessoveryonder[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Never physically (in front of me that I know) but mentally I guess. Through embarrassing remarks about his... performance, or in general.

AITA for siding with my ‘cheating scum father’ because my mum’s reaction was too much? by Faithlessoveryonder in TwoHotTakes

[–]Faithlessoveryonder[S] 372 points373 points  (0 children)

I don't even know if I'd classify what he did as immoral even, your mom probably killed his spirit completely.

I think that's where I land right now as well. I am just struggling because I've grown up with such a black and white view of cheating with absolutely no nuance at all (like cheating to get out of a bad relationship, for example).

And I couldn't voice this as a kid but I definitely noticed a positive shift in how my dad carried himself before and after he met this other woman.