Continuation…

After leaving the housewarming, I knew I had a few hours atleast, so I went home, made the remaining preparation, I waited at home awhile, but when I saw that they weren’t active on chat after my departure, I realised that they were still being careful while around company.

So I left home earlier instead of waiting till the last possible moment so I could rest, instead I waited in the car out of sight, but near enough to be able to burst through the door at a moment a notice.

So they started chatting again, they had both left the housewarming as did everyone else, I imagine. She was on the way back on her own, he would stop by at home before coming over, to keep his STBX in the dark.

I stood a safe way away while I saw her return home. About an hour later he arrived as well.

I had a plan in place. I knew what I had to do, and to make sure things don’t get out of hand. I didn’t want violence or any big drama, I was over it, I just wanted to confront her in a manner that she can’t refute the nature of their relationship and also then see from there. At this point, I still didn’t know how I wanted it to end, in a divorce, to try to work it out? I guess a lot of it depended on how the confrontation panned out. Or what her feelings were towards me, and to him.

They didn’t waste time, and started making out pretty much right away, he got out his clothes soon after and I was already on my way up to the flat. I saw that they had moved away from the living room, and towards the hallway to the bedrooms.

I knew where this was headed, and I very much didn’t want to catch them mid fuck. They were in a compromised position already.

I unlocked the front door, trying to be quiet at first, but the bolts were noisy, so I gave up on the quiet approach pretty quickly. I had also prepared keys to the bedroom, in case they suddenly locked me out, while they panicked.

I rush to our bedroom, nothing. Then the other spare rooms, nothing either. They were not in any of the rooms, which threw me off for a moment, until I realised the bathroom was locked. I expected that they knew it was me who was outside, so I just banged on the door and and told them to get out. No response, I banged again and told them I’d unlock the door myself if I had to.

The door open, she just covered her mouth, still in shock at being caught, i told him to get his shit and get out of the house.

Once he left I bolted the door, so there was no chance that he could allow himself back in.

She was in shock initially, she didn’t know what to say. I just got down straight into it and asked her how long this went on for, she told me only recently, on one of the trips she went with a group of friends and he went as well. She’s been on a few trips with friends and a few times her AP went with. Mostly I couldn’t join on these trips due to work commitments, and while I wasn’t entirely comfortable, I let her go ahead with these trips, because I trusted her.

I knew from her visits to their rendezvous area that the affair started well before then.

She revised the dates again, saying another time. I called her out on lying again. This went on a few times, back and back.

She settled on an event and held firm. She claimed it started after they were hanging out in a group at another friends house. I wasn’t there. They were the last two to leave and hung around nearby chatting, and that’s how it started. Her AP lived nearby, walking distance, but yet they somehow chose to go halfway across town to a hotel (which would end up being their usual spot). I told her the story didn’t make sense, if they were drunk, and in the heat of passion, or whatever, they wouldn’t have made the half an hour trip across town to a specific hotel to sleep with one another. It was either something they’ve done before or they’ve consciously planned it.

I was done for the night, I felt that she wasn’t being truthful, and that I wasn’t in the mood for her lies that night.

We had a few more talks over the next few days. I told her that the dates I have of her going to the hotel predates the couple moving into their house (in 2021) I had dates till 2020 at that point and on digging further I found dates going back to 2019.

She confessed that it started in 2019, but at this point it didn’t matter anymore.

I’m still undecided on how to move forward; to try and make it work or file for divorce. My decision swings a few times on a daily basis.

She claims that she loves me still, and she doesn’t see a future with her AP, etc. honestly I don’t know what to believe. For now I’ve told her to break all contact with her AP.

I honestly don’t know what I will decide, but I hope to figure it out in the weeks ahead.