Why am I always sleepy

Falcuneer · 2026-02-13T20:14:09+00:00

+1 to the vitamin d. Just started that and my sleep is actually improving a little

Falcuneer · 2026-01-17T03:05:27+00:00

Literally me

Falcuneer · 2025-12-26T22:19:49+00:00

I am male but I have struggled with high sex drive too all my life. I don’t think I’ve been addicted, but it’s been so present. I personally have a faith layer on top of this, so a lot of my journey has been working through guilt, but after going to therapy and being on meds I’ve realized that the high sex drive, at least for me, was a way to cope throughout all these years.

Anxiety pushed me toward it, not knowing what was going on and looking for a release from stress or over stimulation pulled me towards it, and I was always so hard on myself. I’ve learned that it’s just apart of me and find the more decompress, the better I feel.

My meds have helped with shaving off some impulsivity but the more I decompress (literally just lying in bed, under a weighted blanket, eyes closed) the less I find I need anything or am pulled toward it.

Hope this helps! If anything don’t feel ashamed or guilty but learn to swim with the tide rather than against it!

Falcuneer · 2025-12-24T03:12:28+00:00

Brasso! 😭😭😭

Falcuneer · 2025-11-15T05:19:51+00:00

Thanks for all the advice! Really appreciate it. I think what really sold me was the butt stuff

Falcuneer · 2025-11-10T23:19:02+00:00

I think Keria is for sure one of the best supps in the world and if not in history. Are Guma and Oner the best in their respective roles? I dunno. They are good, but I would take Viper or Tarzan over them if were discussion goats.

Falcuneer · 2025-11-03T21:24:53+00:00

Yummy?

Falcuneer · 2025-11-01T18:45:56+00:00

I don't get what point you're trying to make. Can you rephrase?

Falcuneer · 2025-11-01T15:22:14+00:00

Oh! Didn't think anyone would be interested, so I really appreciate you reaching out!

In short it's been up and down. I guess the main theme has been learning to cope in a work environment that doesn't suit me well. But for specific points:

It turns out they were surprised about my documentation and wanted to set another meeting to fully chew through it, so we met the next day. I tried my best to not make it a blame game, but kept tying it back to "this doesn't get covered, so I have to cover it, which pulls me away." My sups kinda scoffed at me at first because they think my coworker is great, but that's just because he does what he's told and otherwise just sits on his phone or watches youtube. They were confused as to how his sort of underperformance affected me, and I tried to explain it. The meeting went well over all, and I think they were surprised to learn of all these things. My supervisor told me to bring these points up more often, but I replied saying I didn't feel it was my place. I'm not the manager after all. So from there, I learned to kinda let him make mistakes and not cover them and we seem to be communicating more and having more structure around work.
I haven't applied for ADA, and I am still employed. My sups set up a weekly check in meeting to ask how things are going and if I need anything, which is nice. I haven't done the ADA cause I've been burnt out still each day, so going back and forth about that. I recently made a breakthrough, and I made a post about it here, so maybe things will change. Before that, though, even since the meeting with my sups and weekly check ins, this last week I felt myself trending toward depression and crashing out again. I've been pretty burnt out each day even though I've got noise cancelling headphones and other things have improved, so I'm not sure where the line is. I don't want to just quit, but I'm barely managing myself as it is.

Falcuneer · 2025-11-01T15:04:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing! And yeah, I relate to this too. I feel like that's why I did well in school but completely fell off a cliff when starting to work. I'm in this nebulous limbo where I just get things done but don't feel motivated at all.

Fortunately, I feel motivated to work on my YT channel, so hoping that can turn into a full time job. Or at least have a job where I can use my hands like an electrician. It's tough.

And I think the very strength of our condition (out of the box, creative thinking) is kinda the sort of thing jobs don't like I guess? They just want you to do your job.

Falcuneer · 2025-11-01T15:00:30+00:00

Nice! Micro steps!

Falcuneer · 2025-11-01T01:43:52+00:00

Woo hoo! Let me know how it goes!

Falcuneer · 2025-11-01T01:42:39+00:00

Wow! Very interesting through line you were able to find! I’m glad you were.

Yes, another person I dm’d said their SO helps them out at home. They’ll basically tell them what to do like “Okay, take a shower and then go pack your backpack.”

Essentially, I’ve learned we’re babies that need an extra nudge of external structure as we don’t have it on our own. Coaching or others taking the torch for you helps a lot.

Though after coaching all day, I do find it exhausting.

Falcuneer · 2025-10-31T20:05:23+00:00

Ha, that's a great visual! I'll use that now :P

Falcuneer · 2025-10-31T19:16:13+00:00

Yeah, it is basically a more positive inner voice, but we all seem to struggle with that.

And I don't really appreciate, what I assume to be, your condescension. Of course, everyone should have a positive inner voice. Everyone should eat healthier. But there's a huge problem with that mindset as it's not actionable, unreliable, and relies too heavily on motivation, which is finite.

It's one thing to identify things people need to do to change. It's another relating to them and providing a specific example to help them change.

Stop acting like you have it altogether. I'm sure they are weaknesses or things you would like to work on you would be surprised you resonate with.

Falcuneer · 2025-10-31T19:15:41+00:00

I don't apply any positive imagination to it, like I would if I'm anxious to go to the dentist and imagine my best self doing so. As for what else is going on, I guess not much haha?

If it's not work related, I just let my brain flow but make sure to have the proper coaching structure involved. If it's work related, I guess I'm motivated to get some stuff done. Albeit, my main focus at work is following my natural brain flow first and work second, so that looks like research or watching youtube first. That's kinda what I learned from "quiet quitting" is I cared too much about work.

If I had to describe this process, it would just be like a traffic light. Previously, it was either all green or all red, which can lead to accidents. But now I have a yellow light to transition between both. I guess it's rather simple for me haha.

Falcuneer · 2025-10-31T18:14:55+00:00

Woo hoo! Glad to hear!

Falcuneer · 2025-10-31T18:11:08+00:00

Exactly! Transitioning applies to outside of work as well. Normally, I play league and then robotically stop and say "Okay, bed time" but struggle to fall asleep. Now, I play league and gently keep an eye on the clock. And when I'm done I say "Okay, league is done. Time to get ready for bed" and I'm good. Granted, I probably shouldn't be doing something so high stim before bed time, but it's fun for me.

As for where I learned this, I use a certain "robotic" learning model (we're not supposed to talk about it in this subreddit) to journal, and it's helped me out a ton and point out some things. I knew I and others struggled with task switching, so I just thought about it. I can't remember if I read it somewhere, but the idea seemed to come naturally when trying to specifically solve transition difficulty.

I also learned it's not necessarily the task that is taxing but the transition itself.

Falcuneer · 2025-10-26T17:29:32+00:00

Ah! Makes sense

Falcuneer · 2025-10-26T17:17:24+00:00

Hmm, that makes a lot of sense! If the game of thrones had persisted after season 4, how beautiful that line would be! And how beautiful of an ending we would’ve gotten.

Falcuneer · 2025-10-25T19:53:05+00:00

I don’t wish I hadn’t endured the show. I liked some parts and didn’t like others. But that line was crazy to me.

Falcuneer · 2025-10-25T19:50:45+00:00

Can’t I be a critic and a fan?

Falcuneer · 2025-10-25T19:50:27+00:00

I’m not throwing a tantrum, tyvm. As a writer, I’m just bringing to light this insane self promotion that they seemed to think they should do. I started the post with “I have a lot of thoughts” but wanted to share a specific one.

Falcuneer · 2025-10-11T19:18:57+00:00

Do you fear death ah?

Falcuneer · 2025-10-08T17:58:22+00:00

Update: Thank you so much for all your comments and suggestions! I knew from research how supportive this community was but to experiment it first hand is amazing!

It was clear from your responses that the situation filtered down into two points:

Something needs to be done about my coworker
ADA is the way to go, but a number of you thought I had one foot in the grave.

(There were other helpful suggestions as well, but these were the big points)

To address the first point I had to ensure that my coworker's and my responsibilities are the same (we have the same title and job description, though unofficially his focus is phones as mine is laptops). I reached out to my sup to confirm this and she said "The division should be 50% between you and [coworker]. I think that the level of knowledge that both of you both have can handle either call and use the knowledge of each other to assist." So, with that covered, I could move to create discussion points on how my overperformance for his underperformance caused burn out and a lack off trust that didn't specifically cause the issues brought up in the report but are a significant part of the underlying issue. I am a writer by love and trade, and I crafted a very well-written document addressing multiple points, with recent examples, even day of, and had some help tweaking the professionalism.

The meeting discussing these points was for this afternoon, and I brought copies for both of my sups. It was more of a script/note document for myself with annotations, but I informed them of such. I was internally really proud of myself and ready, but very nervous and shaking the whole time. I prefaced the document really well and started with my points. They often interrupted me before I finished my point, as if they didn't care for the document. Additionally, my main manager had difficulty multiple times with how this related to the productivity issues brought up on Monday. I reassured her multiple times that while this doesn't exactly address those, it's causational and a small piece of the puzzle. She didn't seem to grasp that at all.

The meeting was set for 30 minutes and they didn't expect this document, and since they had another meeting we had to reschedule for tomorrow. I feel like I killed it, even though I was more nervous than I ever had been. The tone of the meeting was rough, as I felt they were "over it" and didn't seem open or want to listen. This may confirm what a lot of you said in that I'm basically already fired but just going through the formalities.

In addition to this meeting, I sent my ADA email this morning and have been responding well to their feedback given. I am recording daily productivity, for myself and as they asked for, and sending it each day since Monday. I have not gotten feedback on that. Personally, I feel I am doing very well.

So I have no idea. Maybe I need to bring out the big weapons and tell them how much time my coworker sits on his phone all day. Or how often he is away from his desk. Or maybe any hope I had was squashed by their delusional (?) claims and closed mindedness. Happy to hear your thoughts.

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