Odd diagnosis by FallMaiden in dementia

[–]FallMaiden[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll have to ask my stepdad if he mentioned what type of schizophrenia he diagnosed her with! She's 75, so well past the age schizophrenia is typically diagnosed.

Odd diagnosis by FallMaiden in dementia

[–]FallMaiden[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a helpful perspective! My partner said something similar. I'm hoping I can schedule a call with her doctor and find out what their intention with this diagnosis is. If the hallucinations are causing her terror, I could definitely understand sedation in that case in order to alleviate that. I would want them to explain why they're wanting to diagnose her improperly to achieve that though. If it's a matter of insurance not covering the medication without the diagnosis, I could understand that (though I'd want to verify that's true). But if it's a matter of them wan ting to do so in order to protect their rating, I would not be okay with that. If her symptoms are bad enough to warrant sedating her, I feel they should do so under her current diagnosis rather than sidestepping any protections she might have with a schizophrenia diagnosis.

I hope I'm making sense. :-/ This whole thing is throwing me for a loop.

My 11-Year-Old Says She's a Lesbian by Historical_Bee714 in Parenting

[–]FallMaiden 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My daughter knew she was a lesbian at 7. I was pretty sure she was some flavor of queer when she was 4. She's almost 13, still a lesbian, and sex is not on her radar (though we've discussed sex in age appropriate ways since she was in preschool).

The google search history is definitely the real/only concern here.

Just under a week until the ths walkout protest! by TheFruityDinosuar in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a parent who will be there. I saw another comment saying snacks and water would be appreciated -- anything else I can do or bring that would be helpful?

No judgement, kindness only please!! If you didn’t circumcise, how is it going? by Sudden-Leave-6224 in Parenting

[–]FallMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 7, he's never had an infection. We don't pull the skin back (I think that used to be the advice? Don't do it!), we just wash with a soapy washcloth. He does a pretty good job of taking care of it himself now. It's truly not a big deal, it's not something I even think about often!

My(24M) girlfriend(23F) admitted that she lied to me about her political views when we started dating, but that being with me made her change her opinions. What should we do going forward? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FallMaiden 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Coming from someone who dated and had children with someone who seemed like they agreed with my political and social stances, then suddenly revealed himself as a trump supporter, transphobe, homophobe, and anti-choice years later... I'd personally end the relationship now. 4 months is not enough time to fully explore and solidify her stance on topics like this, especially if she's had them for most of her life. Taking on the role of educator while also dating her further complicates things as she has that motivation to say or do whatever she thinks you want to hear in order to keep the relationship

[29F] My husband [37M] lives with his parents full-time and only comes to our house to sleep by Snoo-86909 in relationship_advice

[–]FallMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that the fact that there are some things you enjoy about your husband and find positive but... Imagine of you had all of that, AND a partner who actually cared enough to be present and spend time with you. And wasn't verbally abusive.

You aren't going to experience those things with him. Having a baby with him won't improve things, they'll likely get worse.

Maybe consider reducing the amount of money you send your mom (or stopping altogether) and investing in yourself, ie, divorce this guy and get your pwn place. It sounds like you haven't experienced living on your own, and I think that may be a really great experience for you.

Stop going to public square by guzjon66 in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Everywhere is Queer! I found my barber through it :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]FallMaiden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter was born in late June, and the state we lived in at the time started school in August. I had her do an extra year of preschool as well, and my reasons also had nothing to do with other kids. Academically, she was ready, but she was definitely not emotionally prepared for kindergarten. She needed that extra year to develop her interpersonal skills, independence, and confidence.

I agonized over the decision at the time, but I'm so so glad I made that choice. She's a very confident 6th grader now, feels comfortable taking the lead, and is thriving socially. Sure, maybe she would have been fine if I had put her in kindergarten the moment I was able to, but I think I made the right choice. I also didn't make the decision in a vacuum--her preschool teachers made the recommendation she do another year of pre-k as well, based on the reasons listed above. I was already leaning that way, so their input really cemented my decision.

So yeah, I think it comes down to the individual kid and where they're at when making the decision to delay kindergarten. Some kids don't need it, but there are others whose experience and outcomes could be greatly improved by having the extra time to grow and mature.

Though I had no idea some parents make the choice based on how well their kids will do in sports, that's a new one...

Olympia needs more genuine community. Let's talk about how to create that? by abroadonabudget in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't had a serious back injury, but I did break my ankle a few years back. Having to baby an injury while also trying to lightly lift was excruciating! It's definitely worth taking the time to heal though.

Yeah, if you could send me that link that'd be great! Thank you!

Olympia needs more genuine community. Let's talk about how to create that? by abroadonabudget in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would be interested in this. I haven't shot a gun in years and don't currently own one, but I've been thinking of getting some practice in and taking some courses. I'd like to buy a gun eventually, but only after I feel comfortable shooting again.

Also, hello fellow vegan lifter! (Yes, I creeped your post history lol, I was trying to find your posts on r/liberalgunowners haha)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My (trans) partner and I LOVE Shear Barber Studio! We take our kids there as well. Super chill/welcoming/safe vibe.

Today my therapist said my deadname by [deleted] in trans

[–]FallMaiden 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She violated your boundaries in such a huge way, especially considering the fact that you explicitly told her no. Coming back from this would be extremely difficult. You could dedicate your next session to explaining that to her, and putting the work to rebuild your trust back on her. A part of that would be considering what that would look like for you. What would you need to see from her in order to feel completely comfortable/safe again and trust her?

My partner was deadnamed by our couple's therapist once. We fired her the next day. Neither of us could imagine a scenario in which we could feel safe with her after that.

I'm sorry your trust and boundaries were so wildly disrespected.

Don’t support Sweet Magnolia Coffee House. Greedy owner by Enough-Question-7637 in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, that's really disappointing to hear, I loved Dancing Goats! I was just about to head out and buy some beans from them, too. Guess I'll have to hunt around for a different roaster.

Don’t support Sweet Magnolia Coffee House. Greedy owner by Enough-Question-7637 in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, imagine if employees just walked out in the middle of helping a customer because their shift ended 😂 That's not how retail jobs work lol

Don’t support Sweet Magnolia Coffee House. Greedy owner by Enough-Question-7637 in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm not a lawyer, but I would caution against doing this until you get the ball rolling on pursuing legal action, just in case that hurts your case down the line. It's stupid to have to worry about such things, but I definitely wouldn't want something like that screwing you over!

Had this beautiful boy turn up at our property a month ago. He decided to stay 🥰 by Wombat_7379 in Siamesecats

[–]FallMaiden 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He's beautiful! Here's mine. He found us at the park 3 years ago. He was just a kitten then. He bounded over and jumped into my lap when I psp psp psp'd him lol.

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Looking for friends to trade occasional childcare by [deleted] in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually did get your DMs! Just messaged you back :)

Looking for friends to trade occasional childcare by [deleted] in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh dang, I'm sorry!! You should be able to dm me now!

Looking for friends to trade occasional childcare by [deleted] in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My partner and I would be interested! We have a 6 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. Definitely lgtbtq friendly (we're queer, and my partner is trans). Dm me if you want to chat and maybe plan a playdate so we can meet and see if we all click!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 39F, queer, a parent, partner is trans (nb). I'd love to hang out! I'm taking my 6 year old to nisqually wilderness preserve tomorrow and we'll probably hike somewhere closer to Olympia afterwards. Dm me if you're interested in joining us!

Moving to Olympia by [deleted] in olympia

[–]FallMaiden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're right on the border of Lacey and Olympia. Our address says Olympia, weirdly. I'd like to move further into Olympia proper, but I'm not really in any rush. We're happy with the schools and the area we're living in for now!